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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 23:56 PM   1
Ragnhild
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Help dealing with being induced and missing out


Hi ladies,
I'm currently 36 weeks with my first. Around week 32 I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and have been in the hospital now for a week so they could make me last till 37 weeks. I know it's best for me and the baby the sooner they can induce, and I'll be very grateful to make it to 37 even. However I can't help but feel sad that I'll never know what a spontaneous labor feels like and the excitement surrounding it. I really thought I had come to terms with everything but I'm also bummed about the baby coming earlier and will miss having her inside me. I guess I'm just looking for a place to vent and feel sad, it's been a complicated pregnancy overall and the birth was the one thing I was hoping would finally be "normal"



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2017, 07:13 AM   2
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I understand what you're feeling. I'm 36 weeks with a stubborn breech baby who won't move. My last ditch effort is a manual version on Friday. If that doesn't work then it's a planned c section.

A lot of emotions went through my head, mostly sadness and anger and betrayal that I won't be able to experience labor.... period.

But I realized that the most important thing was the safety and health of my LO. It seems obvious and cliche and many people told me this. But I had to come to terms with it on my own before I could accept it and be (mostly) okay with it.

I have no magic words of advice. I honestly believe it's something that you will just have to come to terms with on your own time. But I really just wanted to let you know that I'm in a similar situation as you are and I understand how you feel. It's okay to be sad and have a feeling of loss. It's okay what you're feeling. So feel all those emotions and try to sort through them the best you can.

You aren't alone! *hugs*



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2017, 09:27 AM   3
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Thanks mepride. Yes I know the cliche about health and safety is true but I'm having such a hard time to accept it, I guess emotions override logic to some extent when you're pregnant. The thing is now they're talking about induction in a few days when I thought I had a week, so I really don't have the time to accept things.
Still it's easier knowing I'm not alone so thanks for your kind words. But I really do hope that baby turns and you get to have your dream birth. Keeping my fx for you. Either way hope you have a great experience and a lifetime of happiness with the LO.



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2017, 09:41 AM   4
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I have had 4 children 2 of them were spontaneous and two of them i was induced with due to rfm. Its still really exciting hun as you dont know exactly whats going to happen your waters can still break on there own you wont know when the contractions will start. Its all still a guessing game. Please dont let it spoil how you feel about giving birth because i promise you its all still exciting xx



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2017, 11:12 AM   5
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Thanks mepride. Yes I know the cliche about health and safety is true but I'm having such a hard time to accept it, I guess emotions override logic to some extent when you're pregnant. The thing is now they're talking about induction in a few days when I thought I had a week, so I really don't have the time to accept things.
Still it's easier knowing I'm not alone so thanks for your kind words. But I really do hope that baby turns and you get to have your dream birth. Keeping my fx for you. Either way hope you have a great experience and a lifetime of happiness with the LO.
Labor and delivery is your experience and what you make of it. I realized one of the things that bothered me was the lack of control. True we don't really have control over when we go into labor, but taking that option away from me was a serious loss of control over my own situation and birth experience.

To help me cope I typed up 2 birth plans. One for a vaginal delivery and the other for a cesarean section. I discovered that by writing it all down I still have the semblance of control over BOTH scenarios. Yes, my LO's birth date may be planned and no I may not experience labor an contractions... but I can ask for things during a section that I may not get unless I ask. Such as not strapping my arms down or requesting a vaginal microbial transfer or even to delay baby's first bath until day 2 of life.

So maybe write down your birth plan if you haven't already? It might help you feel better about the situation. OR, since you are in the hospital already, perhaps request to speak to someone prior to induction? Like a mental health professional or the lactation consultant? Or even to your doctor or midwife?



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2017, 11:38 AM   6
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Hi ladies,
I'm currently 36 weeks with my first. Around week 32 I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and have been in the hospital now for a week so they could make me last till 37 weeks. I know it's best for me and the baby the sooner they can induce, and I'll be very grateful to make it to 37 even. However I can't help but feel sad that I'll never know what a spontaneous labor feels like and the excitement surrounding it. I really thought I had come to terms with everything but I'm also bummed about the baby coming earlier and will miss having her inside me. I guess I'm just looking for a place to vent and feel sad, it's been a complicated pregnancy overall and the birth was the one thing I was hoping would finally be "normal"
I was induced with #1 because of pre-e and it went really well all things considered. It's hard to stay optimistic (I was sad too) but we've got to make the best of it!

I wish you the best in your labor and delivery!



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2017, 15:54 PM   7
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Thanks for all your replies ladies, all I want now is for the baby to come out so i can direct my energy to something positive and put this all behind me.



 
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