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Old Sep 5th, 2017, 21:14 PM   1
sassy_tiger
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Epidural- scared of not feeling when to push


I've been thinking about trying an epidural this time around (3rd baby). I'm just extremely scared that when it comes to pushing I just won't be able to do it. I don't want them using any tools. Anyone have that fear? Any experience of going threw with it and everything being fine. As weird as it sounds I actually want to feel something. Also birth doesn't last too long.

Last birth I got first contractions at 12-1am and got to the hospital at 4am and my son was born at 6:05am. I was actually waiting for the doctor to get there for idk how long. I was ready for a nurse to deliver but I was forced to wait. Also my doctor is pushing for inducing. Made a comment like how do you feel if you have a baby in a parking lot.

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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 13:50 PM   2
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I had two natural labors that I managed without medication at all and I loved them. I tolerated the pain with breathing exercises, walking, and sitting on the ball. When I hit transition, DH put counterpressure on my back and that worked amazing. And I have a fear of needles so the thought of an epidural was extremely nervewracking anyway.

But I needed one with LO. I was progressing but it was slow because I was fighting my contractions. Nothing I'd used for natural pain relief before was working and the IV meds weren't doing anything either. So I requested an epidural.

It wasn't bad. I was pretty numb and couldn't feel anything once they placed it but my fears of labor slowing or having issues pushing didn't happen. They placed the epidural and I went from a 5cm to pushing in 1.5 hours. And LO was born with one push.

Because I was numb from my belly down, the dr had DH and a nurse hold my legs in position and he told me when a contraction was starting so I knew when to start pushing. One big push and out LO came.

I'm hoping to go epidural-free this time (mostly because I know I can do it) but if I need one, I'm going to get one.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 14:40 PM   3
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Thanks for sharing. I just want to be prepared and ready for anything. I just want to be able to have the option of an epidural and not be scared of not being able to push the baby out.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 16:42 PM   4
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I will admit I was really nervous about getting the epidural and I really didn't want it at the time but I recognized that I needed it. I wasn't able to breathe thru my contractions, I had muscle spasms moving up into my chest and down to my knees with each one, and then LO's heartrate started to dip. I was so tense because of the pain that it took 2 hours to make 1cm. So I got the epidural. And things moved along quick after that.

I realized later that I didn't so much fear the epidural but rather I was scared of not knowing what getting one was like. And you hear of all the risks involved and the horror stories but honestly, it wasn't bad at all. The only parts I didn't like were feeling the catheter moving down (it was this cold tingly sensation in my lower back), being SO numb it took 3 hours for the meds to fully wear off after they turned the medication off, and the slight sore spot on my back where it was placed. I had trouble finding a comfy way to sit without putting too much pressure on that spot for a few days but aside from that, I didn't have any side effects at all.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 17:04 PM   5
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I had originally not wanted an epidural but I ended up being induced. After 4 hours I caved. To be honest it was a lovely birth experience. In the end ds was born with out me pushing it was just my body doing all the work.

I will echo what a pp said. The epidural took a long time to wear off. I was still struggling to walk 6 or so hours after. But that was the only complication I had.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 17:14 PM   6
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I was induced and got an epidural after 5-6 hours. Started pushing 3 hours later. Not sure if they turned it down (can you even do that?) but I felt TONS of pressure despite the epidural and knew when it was time to push. It didn't really hurt but I felt it.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 18:36 PM   7
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I went into my first labour knowing that I wanted an epidural because I do not like pain after three failed attempts of inducing me, they asked if they could put the epidural in to see whether it would help relax me (I was so anxious) and hopefully I would start to dilate, or they would have to prep for surgery. I obvious agreed. An hour later I started to dilate to 1cm (lol) so it was working.
Let me say that I am super scared of needles, but it was totally fine. Being in your back, you can't see them doing it, so it takes away a lot of that fear. I have heard some women say that it really hurt going in, but that wasn't my experience at all... In fact, they tried 3 different times to get it right, and it was more so just that you could kind of hear the needle in your back that was more off-putting than anything.

Then the epidural was in and was pretty great. I was nice and numb (small areas didn't work fully but it didn't matter) and most of the time I could even move my legs. Towards the end at some stages I couldn't move my left leg, which is a bizarre feeling but I just kept asking my husband to move it manually for me haha.
I had the option to top it up with a button if I wanted to as well.
I couldn't feel most of my contractions (I was in labour for nearly 11 hours), but towards the end when I needed to push I could definitely feel the pressure (but none of the pain!). I pushed for an hour and a half. It would great feeling that immense pressure but no pain with it. It was unmistakeable and there was no way that I could miss the fact that I needed to push- if I didn't, my body would've done it for me anyway haha.
They did warn me on my second-last push that if I didn't get him out in 2 more pushes that they would have to intervene (I assume vacuum) and I honestly thought there was no way in hell I could get him out in 2 pushes, but it happened haha.

I will definitely be asking for an epidural again this time I had a great experience with it. In fact, I'm actually really scared about the idea that I might not be able to get one incase he comes to quickly or something

I know a lot of people like to tell scary stories of their epidural experiences, but mine was great and I could definitely feel when it was time to push.
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 18:40 PM   8
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With my first, I was gung ho at about not having any pain intervention. Weeellll, then I went into labor, was stuck at 2 cm for hours with really strong and painful back labor, got some pain meds in the IV that did not help much at all, had my waters broken, still got stuck around 4-5 cm for hours....I was just exhausted and drained, my labor was incredible painful and I ended up getting the epidural--I was finally able to REST for a few hours and it made the pushing stage for me much better. It wore off (my second dose) so I could still feel things (although I suppose I felt them much less than if I would have gone without) but she was out in 45 minutes. So, I don't regret getting it at all. I also don't have any issues after having one



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 21:17 PM   9
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Thank you ladies for sharing all of your labour/birth stories. Lets me know that I should be okay if I decide to get an epidural. I feel like my last two births were without medication. If I could give birth pain free... Why not? But at the same time I worry about making that decision and regretting it. Anyway thank you all.



 
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Old Sep 6th, 2017, 23:07 PM   10
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My first labour was 36 hrs long, I got an epidural after 30 hours so I could sleep. I could still feel the contractions but they just didn't hurt. I could even get up and squat on the bed with some assistance. I definitely knew when to push, I just couldn't feel any pain, just a lot of pressure. I was on my feet and showering without assistance about an hour and a half after baby was born (probably would have been up sooner than that, but it took them that long to sew me back up!).

Second birth was without any medications and I definitely preferred that one, but I didn't have a bad experience with an epidural.



 
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