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Old Sep 21st, 2017, 13:09 PM   1
Mabv812
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Anyone else's SO expect you to do the same amount of stuff as before 3rd tri?


it's so strange. Everyone has been so great to me. Now that I'm 38 weeks people go out of their way to help me or offer to help me. From picking things up of the ground to my father helping me wash my car. But my husband...ohh no. He treats me exactly the same as if I was still 1st/2nd trimester. Didn't want to help me wash the cars, or pick things up. He says he would do it in his own time. He even dropped some food on the floor next to me and said aren't you going to pick that up? I replied I would do it in my own time ahahaha! He doesn't work, but just started 2 classes which now makes me 100% responsible for everything else apparently! So frustrating!



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2017, 13:20 PM   2
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Wow, I would be furious if my husband treated me that way! I also had lots of hip problems at the end of my pregnancy, and my husband really stepped up to help. You are carrying this child for both of you, and he should be there to help.



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2017, 13:26 PM   3
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Another example, I'm driving my dad to the airport with my son, which isn't a big deal to me. But my dad was worried about me and thought my husband should come with us. Instead my husband said no way, he's going to nap (but currently playing video games). Figures.



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2017, 18:15 PM   4
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Wow... he sounds like a piece of work. I would not stand for that myself! He needs a good kick in the seat of the pants. Have you tried talking to him about how he needs to step up? If he's acting like this at 38 weeks pregnant, it doesn't sound like he's going to be much help after the baby is born. I hope he helps you then!



 
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Old Sep 22nd, 2017, 06:04 AM   5
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He sounds charming!!!!!!



 
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Old Sep 22nd, 2017, 06:19 AM   6
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he sounds lovely

If he is not working he is responsible for everything around the house as well as far as i would be concerned doing classes or not!

My hubby leaves for work at 7.30am and gets home between 6-7pm and still he does the washing up, showers the kids (every now and then ) and he helps me carry the washing up the stairs etc.

I would tell him to bugger off but thats just me! you should talk to him though. Good luck.



 
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Old Sep 28th, 2017, 15:16 PM   7
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I kinda told him he needed to step up and he has improved with helping me. But it's still a struggle.



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2017, 12:58 PM   8
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Um, is your husband 12?! He drops food on the floor and expects you to pick it up for him?



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2017, 15:12 PM   9
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Seriously, this is a problem!! If he is that way while you are pregnant I can only imagine how much help he will be once the baby has arrived.

My husband as a general rule is pretty lazy but he has always stepped up during pregnancy and the first weeks after the baby.



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2017, 18:08 PM   10
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I'm not sure if you're looking for brutally honest opinions or not, I'm assuming you are since you put this on a public forum. So I'll give it - that is NOT okay. You deserve better and are already going through a lot. Tell him to step up and stay on him. Good grief!



 
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