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Old Sep 26th, 2017, 10:12 AM   1
Ellexcee
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Horrible midwife


I had my DD when I was 18, and at the time the midwife I had was very judgemental and always treated me like I was a piece of dirt.

So, I've had a different midwife every appointment this pregnancy which is kind of annoying in itself because there's no consistent care BUT I walk into the office this morning and who is it? Horrible midwife from nearly 9 years ago 😩 Shortest appointment I have had, I was out in less than 10mins, she said she remembered me, didnt tell me any of my blood pressure/urine/bump measurements. Told me that she didn't have a specimen bin and proceeded to put the full urine sample back in my handbag, which she didn't wrap up and if the lid hadn't been secure would have been all over my stuff. Anyway I am rambling, I hate her because of how she treated me when I was younger, I've never ever forgotten it.

My point is, is it possible to request that you don't ever have to deal with a certain community midwife? I do not want her knocking on my door when I am home from hospital.



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Old Sep 26th, 2017, 13:34 PM   2
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I think the only thing you can do is change doctors surgery? A group of midwives are assigned to certain surgeries, so she must be one of the ones linked to yours. X

EDIT: Oh sorry are you in the US? I'm in the UK so that advice is probably irrelevant.



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2017, 15:47 PM   3
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No Hun I'm in the UK aswell, changing surgeries is not an option as I LOVE all the gp's in there (I don't go very often but would be happy to see any of them anytime) if she comes to my house after the birth for the home visits OH says he will turn her away and ask another to be sent. I have literally been so upset all day (hormones &#128580 I feel like she's triggered something and didn't realise how traumatic my experiance was with her all those years ago.



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Old Sep 26th, 2017, 15:53 PM   4
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sounds like an ass



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2017, 17:21 PM   5
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I don't know how it works over there but can you put a request in to have her removed from seeing you?



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2017, 17:28 PM   6
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You can definitely request to see another midwife . It's your care after all



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2017, 18:36 PM   7
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Request not to see her and explain why. I requested not to see a certain GP at my practice as he was rude and unnecessarily dismissive (refused to do any checks when I went to him for breathing issues, said it was the weather and me getting myself in a stir and then said that he could see on my file that I have issues around blood tests and proceeded to give me a lecture about how I needed to pull myself together, despite me not having any blood tests coming up and that being nothing to do with why I was there . I ended up in hospital with pnumonia and rib stress fractures the next morning. A simple blood oxygen check or even listening to my chest would have prompted me to be sent to hospital sooner and as I got better quickly with treatment, I think that if I'd been seen sooner the fractures could have been avoided. I'm still bitter ). I never had him again and on a couple of occasions when I called up for an appointment I was offered one with him, I said that I had a request on file not to see this doctor and no more was said, another appointment was offered.



 
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Old Sep 27th, 2017, 09:12 AM   8
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I'm in the Uk and had a friend who had problems with a particular midwife on her team. She was allowed to request not to see that particular midwife again. You should definitely ask.



 
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Old Sep 27th, 2017, 10:57 AM   9
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You are completely entitled to decline to see this midwife. As long as you are polite about it, it's not a problem. Can you contact your midwives team and just say that you've had a really bad experience with this midwife and whilst you are happy to receive care from any other, you would like to not have to deal with this one again. I can't see it being a problem. Patients on a ward can request not to have me as their nurse for whatever reason they like so this is no different x



 
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Old Sep 27th, 2017, 13:15 PM   10
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I think you ask to speak to the head of midwifery? Our area also has professional midwifery advocates who are 100% on your side.

Plus tbh she sounds like it would be a good thing to complain about her anyway!



 
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