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Old Oct 3rd, 2017, 18:25 PM   1
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Could Use Some Love -- Feeling Sad After 30 Week Ultrasound :(


Hello Lovely Ladies,

I just had my 30 week ultrasound. They were supposed to be checking for Placenta Previa (which I don't have any more), but found out instead that the baby is 1.) breech and 2.) REALLY large. :
  • DD is ~4.5 pounds at 30 weeks, measuring 98th percentile (4 weeks ahead for weight), and her abdominal circumference is measuring more than 99% of other babies her age.
  • I gained 17 pounds in the past two months, and my blood pressure is really high 140/90. But, at least I passed the test for Gestational Diabetes.

I started bawling at the appointment. They weren't particularly comforting, just saying I need to watch what I eat more (my diet has lots of room for improvement) and work out more (though I already work out a lot. )

For the past three days I have dieted carefully, worked out a lot, and drank tons of water. When I went back yesterday, my weight had gone down 3 pounds and my blood pressure was back within normal range.

But I can't stop freaking out about the babies size. Diabetes (Type 1) runs in my family, and my husband has struggled with obesity his whole life. I worry that because I ate so poorly this past month that I have caused DD permanent damage or something.

THE WORST part is that I know the root cause of the weight gain. It's my medication. The one I, sadly, need because without it I can't sleep (chronic insomnia sufferer). Seroquel. It's known for weight gain and causing gestational diabetes. (I've tried to go off it many, many times and it never works). And it breaks my heart that if I weren't taking this medication I wouldn't be having this problem.

I stopped sleeping well starting third trimester and was getting really depressed, so I went up on my meds. But my appetite went up like crazy!

I went back down on Friday, which should help a little, but I just can't help feeling horribly sad. Like I let DD & my husband down or something.

I go back for another ultrasound Nov. 6th, but I am sort of dreading it in case they tell me she is still just as large.

First baby by the way.... Anyone with experience with a large baby? Or anything really



 
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Old Oct 3rd, 2017, 23:15 PM   2
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No experience with large babies but I'm 99% sure this one is currently breech (I'm 30wks as well) and my BP at my last appointment was 140/85 so we have a couple of things in common! My BP rose to 160/100 with my second and I was put on BP meds - my OB explained there was nothing I was doing wrong, it was just my body trying to cope with pregnancy.

I have several friends who have had scans predict very large babies and upon delivery found this not to be true. I have also had a couple of friends who just have big babies (4kg +).

If you need the medication you need the medication. One month of bad eating isn't going to be your undoing (or your baby's) so please don't be so hard on yourself.

Take note of the positives - your placenta previa is no longer an issue and you were able to lose 3lb and get your BP back on track. That's fantastic news.!



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2017, 00:55 AM   3
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Try not to be so hard on yourself. Predicting weight through ultrasound is not an exact science. My DD was breech and I had an ultrasound at 37 weeks just prior to getting an ECV and they predicted her to weigh almost 7 lbs. She was born at 6 pounds that very same day (I had a c-section after the ultrasound for concerns about cord compression). The ultrasound tech told me someone he knew had been told they were having a 10lb baby and it ended of being 7.5!

And gaining 17 lbs in 2 months is not awful. You should have been gaining 1-2 lbs per week regardless so try not to let that get to you. You did just fine.

This is your first baby so who is to say you are doing anything wrong? Maybe you just make big babies! And there is nothing wrong with that.

Don't ever feel shamed for needing medication. You need your sleep. Not sleeping is not good for you or for your lo. I had to take Metformin all throughout my pregnancy. Not for diabetes (like I get asked constantly) but to lower my risk of miscarriage. I'm STILL taking Metformin now to help with milk supply! There is no shame in taking meds that you need!!

Feel better mama! You're in the home stretch! As far as I'm concerned you're doing everything just fine!



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2017, 03:48 AM   4
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Hello Lovely Ladies,

I just had my 30 week ultrasound. They were supposed to be checking for Placenta Previa (which I don't have any more), but found out instead that the baby is 1.) breech and 2.) REALLY large. :
  • DD is ~4.5 pounds at 30 weeks, measuring 98th percentile (4 weeks ahead for weight), and her abdominal circumference is measuring more than 99% of other babies her age.
  • I gained 17 pounds in the past two months, and my blood pressure is really high 140/90. But, at least I passed the test for Gestational Diabetes.

I started bawling at the appointment. They weren't particularly comforting, just saying I need to watch what I eat more (my diet has lots of room for improvement) and work out more (though I already work out a lot. )

For the past three days I have dieted carefully, worked out a lot, and drank tons of water. When I went back yesterday, my weight had gone down 3 pounds and my blood pressure was back within normal range.

But I can't stop freaking out about the babies size. Diabetes (Type 1) runs in my family, and my husband has struggled with obesity his whole life. I worry that because I ate so poorly this past month that I have caused DD permanent damage or something.

THE WORST part is that I know the root cause of the weight gain. It's my medication. The one I, sadly, need because without it I can't sleep (chronic insomnia sufferer). Seroquel. It's known for weight gain and causing gestational diabetes. (I've tried to go off it many, many times and it never works). And it breaks my heart that if I weren't taking this medication I wouldn't be having this problem.

I stopped sleeping well starting third trimester and was getting really depressed, so I went up on my meds. But my appetite went up like crazy!

I went back down on Friday, which should help a little, but I just can't help feeling horribly sad. Like I let DD & my husband down or something.

I go back for another ultrasound Nov. 6th, but I am sort of dreading it in case they tell me she is still just as large.

First baby by the way.... Anyone with experience with a large baby? Or anything really
Hey , both my girlie's were 95+ percentile . My DD1 was born at 32 week and weighed 5lb4 . My DD2 was 4lb5 at 30 week scan and Was born at 8lb5 at 38wks. So going on the rule of 0.5lb gain per week from 30 weeks she was on the mark exactly . I'm only 5ft2 but grow big babies .

That's great you are getting your diet under control, the best thing to control Is yr sugar intake. I'm overweight in this pregnancy but I keep my sugar and sat fats intake under control and it's kept me healthy and adequate weight gain. Try to just enjoy your pregnancy



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2017, 10:21 AM   5
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Im the opposite. I was told I was having a large baby and I did. My DS#1 was born a week and half early and was 9.6 Lbs and I measured ahead. DS#2 is predicted to be just as big as I have been measuring ahead again since 12 weeks. I do take it with a grain of salt but my doctor told me that some women just have bigger babies. I am by no means a big girl and my husband isn't either. DS is now tall for his age but very very skinny just like I was.



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2017, 12:58 PM   6
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I am sorry this is going on, just try to stay relaxed because that won't help situations either. I haven't dealt with a baby who was heavy but I did have to keep an eye on what I ate because I was eating a lot. Staying active and eating healthier can be good for you to maintain weight. Also I had a breech baby, I had her c section too there isn't anything wrong with that they will just want to check her hips probably when your baby is born, if you are doing vaginal it may be different but I don't have experience with vaginal since all my babies were born c section.



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Old Oct 5th, 2017, 03:52 AM   7
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I am sorry this is going on, just try to stay relaxed because that won't help situations either. I haven't dealt with a baby who was heavy but I did have to keep an eye on what I ate because I was eating a lot. Staying active and eating healthier can be good for you to maintain weight. Also I had a breech baby, I had her c section too there isn't anything wrong with that they will just want to check her hips probably when your baby is born, if you are doing vaginal it may be different but I don't have experience with vaginal since all my babies were born c section.
Yeah they check their hips either way . My dd2 actually had slightly turned in feet because she was so squished , they straightened after a month xx



 
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Old Oct 6th, 2017, 01:35 AM   8
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Hello Lovely Ladies,

I just had my 30 week ultrasound. They were supposed to be checking for Placenta Previa (which I don't have any more), but found out instead that the baby is 1.) breech and 2.) REALLY large. :
  • DD is ~4.5 pounds at 30 weeks, measuring 98th percentile (4 weeks ahead for weight), and her abdominal circumference is measuring more than 99% of other babies her age.
  • I gained 17 pounds in the past two months, and my blood pressure is really high 140/90. But, at least I passed the test for Gestational Diabetes.

I started bawling at the appointment. They weren't particularly comforting, just saying I need to watch what I eat more (my diet has lots of room for improvement) and work out more (though I already work out a lot. )

For the past three days I have dieted carefully, worked out a lot, and drank tons of water. When I went back yesterday, my weight had gone down 3 pounds and my blood pressure was back within normal range.

But I can't stop freaking out about the babies size. Diabetes (Type 1) runs in my family, and my husband has struggled with obesity his whole life. I worry that because I ate so poorly this past month that I have caused DD permanent damage or something.

THE WORST part is that I know the root cause of the weight gain. It's my medication. The one I, sadly, need because without it I can't sleep (chronic insomnia sufferer). Seroquel. It's known for weight gain and causing gestational diabetes. (I've tried to go off it many, many times and it never works). And it breaks my heart that if I weren't taking this medication I wouldn't be having this problem.

I stopped sleeping well starting third trimester and was getting really depressed, so I went up on my meds. But my appetite went up like crazy!

I went back down on Friday, which should help a little, but I just can't help feeling horribly sad. Like I let DD & my husband down or something.

I go back for another ultrasound Nov. 6th, but I am sort of dreading it in case they tell me she is still just as large.

First baby by the way.... Anyone with experience with a large baby? Or anything really
I really wouldn't be so hard on yourself- having a big baby is not always something you have done.

My baby was weighing 5lb 5oz at 32 weeks and his abdominal circumference is over 95th percentile. I do have GD but I am not overweight and have lost weight in this pregnancy because of how healthy I have been eating so please don't blame yourself. My other 2 boys were 9lb 1oz and 8lb 12oz and I was underweight when getting pregnant with both of them and I am also only 5ft 3 (I didn't have GD in those pregnancies) I blame their dad, he's 6ft 2 😂 Xx



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Old Oct 7th, 2017, 17:11 PM   9
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You guys are so kind and supportive, thank you! Diet so far has been going okay. One week down! It's that fun to have to watch what you eat all time and exercise everyday during 3rd trimester when everything is already pretty uncomfortable! But I'm feeling more hopeful.

Next sonogram is scheduled for Nov. 6th -- so just gotta keep motivated and hopefully we will see some results



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2017, 00:29 AM   10
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[LIST][*]DD is ~4.5 pounds at 30 weeks, measuring 98th percentile (4 weeks ahead for weight), and her abdominal circumference is measuring more than 99% of other babies her age.
I don't know if this will help BUT DS3 was 5lb 5oz at 32 weeks. I too had GD, I was also forced to an induction of labour or a section (both of which I told the specialist he could 'get f**ked') so he decided to pull the 'stillbirth' card. My midwife was supportive of my choices and I delivered a 8lb 11oz baby boy without pain relief, without any interventions and without any medical concerns vaginally. All my babies have been big and it's never been an issue so try not to let it get to you. Unless your midwife is concerned, don't let it affect you - it's not worth it!!

Also worth taking into consideration, no matter how they estimate the size (the usually measure the chest from memory), the suspected weight is ONLY an estimation and can be out by up to 2lbs either side.



 
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