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Old Nov 22nd, 2017, 05:37 AM   11
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Update: I called the maternity ward, couldn't get a hold of my actual midwife (who I still haven't met, it's normal here to just see whoever is on duty) and the helpful midwife i had yesterday wasn't in. So the best plan of action is to see the midwife to face to face at my next appointment in 2 weeks which unfortunately means also seeing the consultant haven't had the best time of it so far trying to explain things on the phone to midwives this pregnancy, most have them have been quite snippy and acted like I'm annoying them, so much so that I just don't phone now unless it's baby's movements or something, face to face ones have been much nicer so didn't want the hassle of explaining to a midwife I've never met what happened and for her just to get annoyed with me.
I'm planning on literally just letting him check baby's growth in my book telling him I'm fine (even I'm not or have questions) then he can leave. I'm planning on asking the midwife any questions or concerns (if I've got any) instead. If she asks, I'm just going to be honest with her and say I don't want to be berated again. My plan is to put a formal complaint in a few weeks once baby's here to save myself the stress as it's not been an easy pregnancy so far as it is. My bp was up yesterday too so don't want to risk anything affecting baby.
If the consultant starts anything though, I'm just going to get up and walk out and put in a complaint there and then, also refuse to see him for the next two appointments.
Funnily enough, a friend's on my mine has a couple of family members who also requested planned sections for good reasons and he was their consultant and was horrible to them as well, one of them so much so that she wouldn't go to an appointment with him unless her mum came with her. He seemed absolutely fine when I saw him at the beginning of my pregnancy until a section was brought up, seems to have some sort of things against them (which is basically what the midwife said) he doesn't like to to agree to them unless it's absolutely life or death circumstances.
Just going to try and not let any of this bother me and focus on the fact baby will here in less than 8 weeks
Thanks everyone for listening and taking time to reply I'll let you know if anything else happens! Hopefully not x



 
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Old Nov 22nd, 2017, 16:29 PM   12
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Update: I called the maternity ward, couldn't get a hold of my actual midwife (who I still haven't met, it's normal here to just see whoever is on duty) and the helpful midwife i had yesterday wasn't in. So the best plan of action is to see the midwife to face to face at my next appointment in 2 weeks which unfortunately means also seeing the consultant haven't had the best time of it so far trying to explain things on the phone to midwives this pregnancy, most have them have been quite snippy and acted like I'm annoying them, so much so that I just don't phone now unless it's baby's movements or something, face to face ones have been much nicer so didn't want the hassle of explaining to a midwife I've never met what happened and for her just to get annoyed with me.
I'm planning on literally just letting him check baby's growth in my book telling him I'm fine (even I'm not or have questions) then he can leave. I'm planning on asking the midwife any questions or concerns (if I've got any) instead. If she asks, I'm just going to be honest with her and say I don't want to be berated again. My plan is to put a formal complaint in a few weeks once baby's here to save myself the stress as it's not been an easy pregnancy so far as it is. My bp was up yesterday too so don't want to risk anything affecting baby.
If the consultant starts anything though, I'm just going to get up and walk out and put in a complaint there and then, also refuse to see him for the next two appointments.
Funnily enough, a friend's on my mine has a couple of family members who also requested planned sections for good reasons and he was their consultant and was horrible to them as well, one of them so much so that she wouldn't go to an appointment with him unless her mum came with her. He seemed absolutely fine when I saw him at the beginning of my pregnancy until a section was brought up, seems to have some sort of things against them (which is basically what the midwife said) he doesn't like to to agree to them unless it's absolutely life or death circumstances.
Just going to try and not let any of this bother me and focus on the fact baby will here in less than 8 weeks
Thanks everyone for listening and taking time to reply I'll let you know if anything else happens! Hopefully not x
What a pretentious twat !! Sorry , I know that's not very nice of me . I just think these old fashioned Dr's need to realise that women aren't just a uterus and vagina on legs . We can't all squeeze out 10lb babies , also we do not need to suffe hellish labour and deliveries , its not "all part of the process" It's your body and your decision . You have plenty of good reasons to have an elcs. Move consultant . If you have to see him again , before he even opens his mouth put your feelings across . We are not minions or of lesser value to these stuck up Dr's that exist in the care system. Sending you lots of hugs



 
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Old Nov 23rd, 2017, 13:11 PM   13
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Update: I called the maternity ward, couldn't get a hold of my actual midwife (who I still haven't met, it's normal here to just see whoever is on duty) and the helpful midwife i had yesterday wasn't in. So the best plan of action is to see the midwife to face to face at my next appointment in 2 weeks which unfortunately means also seeing the consultant haven't had the best time of it so far trying to explain things on the phone to midwives this pregnancy, most have them have been quite snippy and acted like I'm annoying them, so much so that I just don't phone now unless it's baby's movements or something, face to face ones have been much nicer so didn't want the hassle of explaining to a midwife I've never met what happened and for her just to get annoyed with me.
I'm planning on literally just letting him check baby's growth in my book telling him I'm fine (even I'm not or have questions) then he can leave. I'm planning on asking the midwife any questions or concerns (if I've got any) instead. If she asks, I'm just going to be honest with her and say I don't want to be berated again. My plan is to put a formal complaint in a few weeks once baby's here to save myself the stress as it's not been an easy pregnancy so far as it is. My bp was up yesterday too so don't want to risk anything affecting baby.
If the consultant starts anything though, I'm just going to get up and walk out and put in a complaint there and then, also refuse to see him for the next two appointments.
Funnily enough, a friend's on my mine has a couple of family members who also requested planned sections for good reasons and he was their consultant and was horrible to them as well, one of them so much so that she wouldn't go to an appointment with him unless her mum came with her. He seemed absolutely fine when I saw him at the beginning of my pregnancy until a section was brought up, seems to have some sort of things against them (which is basically what the midwife said) he doesn't like to to agree to them unless it's absolutely life or death circumstances.
Just going to try and not let any of this bother me and focus on the fact baby will here in less than 8 weeks
Thanks everyone for listening and taking time to reply I'll let you know if anything else happens! Hopefully not x
What a pretentious twat !! Sorry , I know that's not very nice of me . I just think these old fashioned Dr's need to realise that women aren't just a uterus and vagina on legs . We can't all squeeze out 10lb babies , also we do not need to suffe hellish labour and deliveries , its not "all part of the process" It's your body and your decision . You have plenty of good reasons to have an elcs. Move consultant . If you have to see him again , before he even opens his mouth put your feelings across . We are not minions or of lesser value to these stuck up Dr's that exist in the care system. Sending you lots of hugs
No need to be sorry, I completely agree with you, that's exactly what he is. Yeah, that's my plan, not going to allow him to do that again. Thanks it's very much appreciated



 
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Old Nov 25th, 2017, 10:05 AM   14
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Update: I called the maternity ward, couldn't get a hold of my actual midwife (who I still haven't met, it's normal here to just see whoever is on duty) and the helpful midwife i had yesterday wasn't in. So the best plan of action is to see the midwife to face to face at my next appointment in 2 weeks which unfortunately means also seeing the consultant haven't had the best time of it so far trying to explain things on the phone to midwives this pregnancy, most have them have been quite snippy and acted like I'm annoying them, so much so that I just don't phone now unless it's baby's movements or something, face to face ones have been much nicer so didn't want the hassle of explaining to a midwife I've never met what happened and for her just to get annoyed with me.
I'm planning on literally just letting him check baby's growth in my book telling him I'm fine (even I'm not or have questions) then he can leave. I'm planning on asking the midwife any questions or concerns (if I've got any) instead. If she asks, I'm just going to be honest with her and say I don't want to be berated again. My plan is to put a formal complaint in a few weeks once baby's here to save myself the stress as it's not been an easy pregnancy so far as it is. My bp was up yesterday too so don't want to risk anything affecting baby.
If the consultant starts anything though, I'm just going to get up and walk out and put in a complaint there and then, also refuse to see him for the next two appointments.
Funnily enough, a friend's on my mine has a couple of family members who also requested planned sections for good reasons and he was their consultant and was horrible to them as well, one of them so much so that she wouldn't go to an appointment with him unless her mum came with her. He seemed absolutely fine when I saw him at the beginning of my pregnancy until a section was brought up, seems to have some sort of things against them (which is basically what the midwife said) he doesn't like to to agree to them unless it's absolutely life or death circumstances.
Just going to try and not let any of this bother me and focus on the fact baby will here in less than 8 weeks
Thanks everyone for listening and taking time to reply I'll let you know if anything else happens! Hopefully not x
What a pretentious twat !! Sorry , I know that's not very nice of me . I just think these old fashioned Dr's need to realise that women aren't just a uterus and vagina on legs . We can't all squeeze out 10lb babies , also we do not need to suffe hellish labour and deliveries , its not "all part of the process" It's your body and your decision . You have plenty of good reasons to have an elcs. Move consultant . If you have to see him again , before he even opens his mouth put your feelings across . We are not minions or of lesser value to these stuck up Dr's that exist in the care system. Sending you lots of hugs
No need to be sorry, I completely agree with you, that's exactly what he is. Yeah, that's my plan, not going to allow him to do that again. Thanks it's very much appreciated
Let us know how you get on



 
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