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Old Dec 5th, 2017, 08:44 AM   11
sevenofnine
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My poor relationship with Google started over 12 years when I was 15 and convinced myself through searching online that I had cancer behind my ear (it was a small cyst that I still have to this day).

Over the years Iíve been convinced I had: lymphoma, a brain tumor, any type of cancer, meningitis, you name it.

So I say with all honestly and having fully lived through it... STEP AWAY FROM GOOGLE!

I am a massive anxiety-ridden health hypochondriac. It still affects me at doctor appointments to this day, to the point of giving me such bad white coat hypertension that I have to monitor at home (where Iím normal 90% of the time). I just hate being at the doctors office.

Anyway, hugs to you!! Anxiety is so hard.




 
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Old Dec 5th, 2017, 09:13 AM   12
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Hi hun. So sorry you feel this way. But honestly hun it's something that gets us all in different ways and to different levels. I'm my opinion anyway! I have anxiety over my children being hurt one day. I'm that mum who doesn't like the idea of them starting school because I worry so much about them being hit or bullied.

Early scans are something I had this time. The Internet will have studies and ideas on it so absolutely everything is a possibility. To the point where we might aswell all give up now lol. There is absolutely no reason your child won't be thriving and healthy. You are bound to feel anxious due to how long it took you to fall pregnant.

Keep talking to people. Try relaxing like listening to music or baths. Go for a walk. Our emotions can be so up and down in pregnancy. It's a part of life we have little control over all we can do is look after ourselves and trust in our bodies to do the rest. We can't choose if our babies are early or late, their blood type or sex. Their looks or if they did have an illness. But this right here is the truth. Whatever happens you will love your baby. You will protect them and care for them. We all have hurdles along the way. It's totally different but my LG had hip dysplasia. It runs in our family. I knew there was a risk. It happened. I had to accept she Couldn't wear her outfits that we had picked out. She couldn't be bathed for 3 months. She was strapped up in a harness for 12 weeks. But despite all that everything was and is OK. I just want to reassure you that anxiety is always higher in pregnancy for alot of us. Google is going to scare you and as a mummy you will worry because we love our little humans.

As for anti depressants I'd discuss further with your Dr. Take care x
I teared up!



 
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Old Dec 5th, 2017, 14:32 PM   13
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I have anxiety and hypochondria even when not pregnant so I can relate. I struggled with so many fears during pregnancy and it seemed every time I googled something I'd discover something new that I "shouldn't" have done. I remember sitting at restaurants in a cold-sweat panic because I wasn't sure which item on the menu was safe and I was convinced that if I ate a single crumb of unpasteurized feta or a drop of Cesar dressing I'd mess everything up. Plus my mother has her own ideas on things and she would send me outdated research proving that X or Y or Z was going to cause a miscarriage, which didn't help.

I feel like now that we have the Internet and we have such big improvements in scientific research and medical advancements, the down side is that it's easier than ever for us to agonize and worry over every little thing. I've made offhand comments on forums and had people reply, "I don't mean to scare you BUT" and tell me a horror story, and then I end up having some other part of my pregnancy ruined or turned into something scary or anxiety-producing.

I wish I could go back in time and relax and enjoy my pregnancy, but I know that anxiety is outside your control, it's not always helpful or even possible to "just relax." But it sounds as if your pregnancy is going very well. The fact that you're concerned about these things shows that you're a conscientious and thoughtful person and that you're likely to make good choices, and nothing you've done so far is harmful. Aside from drinking heavily every day or spending all day in a hot tub or something, you can do quite a lot during pregnancy and still have a perfectly healthy, happy baby. A lot of the risks are more "in an ideal world, avoid this" and the risks are so, so tiny that it doesn't matter much.

I recommend listening to your doctor about medications and ways to manage your anxiety during pregnancy. You deserve a happy pregnancy and your little one deserves a mother who's caring, but not beating herself up.



 
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Old Dec 5th, 2017, 14:46 PM   14
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Thank you all so much for these replies.

I am bookmarking the post and referring to it whenever Iím feeling anxious as the replies help calm me down



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Old Dec 5th, 2017, 22:33 PM   15
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Sorry you are feeling this way .
I feel that the previous posters have probably covered off everything now, and itís good to see you are feeling a bit better!
I did just want to say, that the anti-depressants (if you choose to take them), should kick in well before baby arrives (basing off you having 10 weeks to go). I went on them for terrible anxiety and a little PND when my son was born - I was having 8 hour panic attacks and feeling dreadful. I remember them saying it would take about 2 weeks to feel the full effects of the anti-depressants, but I reckon even after a week there was a notable difference.
Wishing you all the best!!



 
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Old Dec 6th, 2017, 00:00 AM   16
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I wish I could go back in time and relax and enjoy my pregnancy, but I know that anxiety is outside your control, it's not always helpful or even possible to "just relax.Ē
I second this. My anxiety is so bad that traditional methods to calm down actually donít work... like slow breathing actually raises my anxiety because Iíve officially associated anxiety with slow breathing. Anxiety can make you quite a mess!

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