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Old Jan 18th, 2018, 06:41 AM   21
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I just walked all round the hospital for 40 mins, up and down stairs where I could find them! Totally knackered now haha...come back to sit upright in bed for a while. Yeah I get another pessary but not until 48 hours after the first one!! So 24 from when they check me! So just seriously praying there's enough dilation.
Please send me dilation vibes ladies! 🙏
Really?! I had 4 in 3 days, maybe because I was much earlier and nothing happened! Oh fingers crossed it hurries up for you, it's a long time waiting while you're in there! X



 
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Old Jan 18th, 2018, 08:12 AM   22
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Ugh yeah it really is such a long process and contractions keep starting up only to ease off!

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I just walked all round the hospital for 40 mins, up and down stairs where I could find them! Totally knackered now haha...come back to sit upright in bed for a while. Yeah I get another pessary but not until 48 hours after the first one!! So 24 from when they check me! So just seriously praying there's enough dilation.
Please send me dilation vibes ladies! 🙏
Really?! I had 4 in 3 days, maybe because I was much earlier and nothing happened! Oh fingers crossed it hurries up for you, it's a long time waiting while you're in there! X
Do you know if that was propess or the gel? Yes it's forever! Plus my ds came to see me and he got really sad leaving as he didn't understand I wasn't coming too, that was my mistake for walking him to the hospital entrance to say bye, thinking it would be a good walk for me. lesson learnt, next time I will say bye at my bed!



 
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Old Jan 18th, 2018, 14:15 PM   23
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Aww I wanted to cry reading that. Bless you. I have not read through the replies but wanted to say I felt so emotional leaving my daughter and worrying she was happy and understood. I remember kissing her on the cheek and saying see you later and thinking that's my last moment of it just being me and her.

I hope you are Ok and baby has arrived. Soon be home with both your babies xxx



 
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Old Jan 18th, 2018, 14:17 PM   24
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P. S I was in labour an hour after my first pessary and baby was born six and half hours later xx



 
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Old Jan 18th, 2018, 14:56 PM   25
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. I found it really hard to be away from my DD when I was in labour with my 3rd (my eldest understood what was going on and was fine about it, DD was very attached to me and I felt like I'd abandoned her!) and the hormones don't help! This time away is a drop in the ocean though, soon your DS will get the gift of a little sibling and his mummy home



 
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Old Jan 18th, 2018, 17:53 PM   26
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Can't believe you're still waiting! Any updates since earlier?

I was induced with my first but didn't go the pessary route as I was already 1cm and contracting mildly when I went in, so they just broke my waters and stuck me straight on the drip. I can't believe they let the pessary situation go on for so long!

I hope something has started for you now and you're feeling okay! Your little boy will be okay, I know it's hard to be away from them but it's all an adventure when you're 4, he'll be absolutely fine.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 00:04 AM   27
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Thank you everyone for your replies
Well contractions continued the same yesterday, on and off, very mild and irregular but a consultant and a midwife both reassured me they were probably causing dilation. Well, when I was checked 24 hours after the pessary, they hadn't.. there was almost no change to my cervix. Waited until the midwife had left before I burst into tears ha.

They told me I needed a 24 hour rest period before the next pessary and that the next one was likely to work. I didn't and don't want to hear that because they all got my hopes up the first time and I'd rather they didn't tbh... my mum came to see me and didn't have to ask how it went since I was sobbing in bed. She whispered come on I'm taking you back to your flat. I wasn't due any more tests/CTG for another 5 hours and they'd encouraged me to walk around the hospital so she took me back to mine - in my gown!! - where I had a bath and spent some time with ds and dh. Then came back, back in my stupid gown, and no one was any the wiser. So thank God for my mum helping me cope with the hospital stay at least, although she can't help with the actual baby situation.

The contractions have completely stopped now although I expect they will start up again when I walk around (just woke up it's 6am). But they are non productive contractions so what's the point? Yesterday on the CTG I sat stock still watching the mild contractions on the screen because otherwise I'd end up thinking I was imagining them.

SO. Not going very well. One things for sure this baby was not going to come soon for all the raspberry leaf tea in the world. I've got 8 hours to go before the second pessary goes in and I'm desperately trying not to get my hopes up and to accept c section NOW instead of being devastated later. I would never ever say no if they said I desperately needed one, but what I can see myself saying is can you give me a little bit more time if the baby is not in distress. So we'll see what happens I guess. I will still walk/bounce as much as I can today, before and after pessary, but only because I know I'll regret it if I don't try - I don't actually think I'm going to dilate. All they need is 1cm...!

Cervix was still high and posterior but soft yesterday. Midwife said there's a lot it has to do before dilation. I just need ONE CENTIMETRE and they could break my waters...

I read a lot of women online saying if they could go back they'd just go straight to c section instead of wasting days in hospital on a failed induction. I completely understand this however I know myself and know I'm not like that and I'll be better psychologically if I know I did everything I could and never have to wonder if I could've tried a bit harder. So, just got to try as hard as I can. The thought of baby is keeping me going. And all of you (I do mean that) so thank you for reading and responding!! It's so nice to know that others have felt the same way leaving their older children



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 01:27 AM   28
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Aww bless your mom! Things must be so different there, I'd never escape here.

I think leaving my son for multiple days is giving me the most anxiety. I hope you're home soon.

It sounds like such a difficult process. Hopefully you progress soon.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 01:29 AM   29
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I hope baby arrives soon



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 01:33 AM   30
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Aww bless your mom! Things must be so different there, I'd never escape here.

I think leaving my son for multiple days is giving me the most anxiety. I hope you're home soon.

It sounds like such a difficult process. Hopefully you progress soon.
It was a bit crazy. When she let me out in the street gowned up I said I look like an escaped mental patient and she said well you are literally an escaped hospital patient! Haha..
Completely understand. Rationally we know we're only leaving them for a few days but it feels like forever. Hope it goes quickly for you when it does happen.



 
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