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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 03:42 AM   11
Bonnie11
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Absolutely you have done the right thing by asking and accepting for help. I hope they take you seriously and see how much it is affecting your life. I would definitely look into meditation/mindufulness. It's a hard skill to learn but so worth it when you get there. In the beginning I thought it would never work but every day for a week or so I practiced and it does get easier. Try the Mindspace app to start with, it starts with a couple of minutes and works up. Good luck, pregnancy hormones are rough enough as it is! X



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 04:57 AM   12
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So hubby and the boys were home for dinner tonite. They have been every night since Monday as hubby and I are still splitting our bills so he's staying with his mother free of charge. As a result, I feel it's only fair that I still provide 3 main meals and I think it's been a positive thing. I don't feel like making dinner is a chore anymore and I actually look forward to the 3 of them walking through the door. Hubby and I are communicating better though he was a bit off tonite and I think that is because of the heat and humidity. They boys were very well behaved for the most part and I didn't have to ask DS2 to behave himself. Him and his older brother did decide they were going to fight at one point with DS2 hitting his older brother and I'm actually VERY surprised in how I reacted. I would normally have lost my shit, yelled at the pair of them, slapped their ass and sent them off to different parts of the house but I separated them and told them to knock it off. DS2 decided he was going to carry on so I told him that I will pick him up tomorrow morning and bring him home while his father and brother go out for free ice-cream up at one of our local tourist attractions. Needless to say, DS2 for a change did not argue the point and I didn't need to repeat myself. DS3 is a lot calmer too I've noticed with nap and bed time being easier than it was and I'm not feeling as angry as I have been in the past. Still, I want to talk to my GP so have kept my appointment because I feel this is something I need to do right and if it starts with medication then that's a reality I'm ready to face.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 06:07 AM   13
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Aw, glad you had a calmer evening of it, that sounds like great progress and don't worry if it's two steps forward and one step back, just focus on having had a good evening and that there will be more to come.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2018, 06:25 AM   14
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Aw, glad you had a calmer evening of it, that sounds like great progress and don't worry if it's two steps forward and one step back, just focus on having had a good evening and that there will be more to come.
I mean I know this doesn't promise that this is the beginning of repairing my relationship, nor does it promise that hubby will come back home again for good but it sure is a positive step in the right direction and hopefully a positive change for when he does a trial run at home in a couple of weeks. But time will tell and I remain cautiously optimistic. What ever will be will be and I have to go with that. I can't force it.

Even that said, I DON'T want my 2 eldest back home for a good couple of months either though. Usually by this point I'm falling back into old habits and loosing it with them so I don't want to risk that happening either. But I'm taking them to play with a friend on Monday and then it will be small, gradual steps from there. I've told the other half I want at least one night with each one of them at home during the week but I'm not ready to deal with the explosive arguments between them so won't have them together. While small changes at the moment are a good thing, there need to be more of the right help in place and me learning how to manage my anger before that happens. I owe it to all of us.



 
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