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Old Jun 2nd, 2018, 15:23 PM   1
mamawanabe21
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Anyone asking to be induced early??


Iím 33 week now and I am so done and over pregnancy.
I hate every second of it.
But my biggest problem is the pain! I have pelvic and back problems that mean I am in agony constantly. This past week the pain has reached a level I can barely move. My legs hurt, my back, pelvis. I canít sit, stand or lie down without pain. Physio wanted me in a wheelchair but unfortunately Iím still working (canít afford not to) and I have a 4 year old so canít go into one because of practicality. So now I wear two braces and Iím on crutches. Iím absolutely miserable.
I have a consultant appointment in 2 weeks, and I plan to ask for an induction at 37 weeks because I canít go on any longer with this pain, but Iím not sure how to go about it without sounding like a moaning Minnie, and obviously I need him to agree to it. Iím literally so desperate for this pregnancy to be done with.
Any advice or anything?
Sorry itís a bit of a rant, Iím just exhausted. I canít even sleep at night 😭😭



 
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Old Jun 2nd, 2018, 16:06 PM   2
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Sorry you are having a rough time. It sounds really hard. Bear in mind an early induction does have a high chance of ending in a CS which means a longer recovery etc. Also sometimes they just fail and means you end up having to wait it out anyway. Of course many inductions also go well. I hope you end up with the best choice for you.



 
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Old Jun 2nd, 2018, 16:11 PM   3
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Iím that desperate I think I would even take a CS if offered. Iíve cut my working week down to 2 or 3 days and the others Iím literally sat on the sofa, unable to do anything which sucks because I feel like Iím failing my other daughter
I was induced at 38 weeks with a pessary without DD1, and I remember it being a long 29 hour labour. But I just canít face the idea of going 40 weeks, never mind overdue, because the bigger baby gets the more pain Iím in.
And to top it off the cause of my pelvic issues, is not affecting other joints like my wrists and jaw, so I canít even eat/chew 😭😭
Iím so done



 
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Old Jun 2nd, 2018, 18:40 PM   4
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When you see your consultant, the words you want to use are "Activities of Daily Living." This is usually the basics like eating, dressing, bathing, that lot. And if you're having trouble with things like that, he needs to know. So tell him that the pain has a huge, negative effect on all of your activities of daily living, right down to sleeping and eating.

Tell him you've had to cut back at work and you're on crutches just to make it through a shift because you're not able to stand/walk the whole shift without them. If you find yourself avoiding things like grocery shopping until there is NO food in the house, say it. If it ever brings you to tears, tell him that. Just tell him every possible way the pain is making your life nearly impossible and that you feel that is in the best interest of you and your family if you are induced before your due date. Tell him you'll do whatever you need to do to prepare the baby to come early (protein for the baby's growth, steroids for baby's lungs, whatever) but that you really believe that induction is the best thing all around.

He may agree if he sees the pain you're in, so don't feel like you need to hide any of your misery from him.

You might also find yourself bargaining on when - some consultants prefer 38 or 39 weeks - so be ready to compromise if he rejects the 37. 38 is at least earlier than 40!

I've been induced early once at around 38 weeks, due to how dilated I was, how rapid my first labor had been, and an incoming ice storm that might have trapped me at home or sent me into the ditch if I tried to go in, and that was my doctor's idea. It went really well, and she was the biggest of my babies so far! So doctor's are definitely willing to look at induction if there are good reasons. (Bad reasons are things like "I want my baby's birthday to be on X!" "We had a cruise booked for X date, so I want the baby to come early so we can still make it." "My parents are going to be out during X week, so inducing on Y would be great for everyone!" My OB has heard ALL of those. )



 
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Old Jun 2nd, 2018, 22:41 PM   5
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I agree with the pp that you definitely need to let your doctor know. If you simply say that you're having pelvic pain, they will blow it off, usually by recommending a belly band and tell you to get on with your life. You NEED to tell him EXACTLY how you feel. Show him this post on your phone/tablet if you are able to and let him read what you wrote to us. Sometimes it comes through better to them if they read it rather than it going in one ear and out the other.

I also wanted to say that I can understand completely how you feel. I've been dealing with horrible SPD, lower back pain and just recently pelvic pressure (which I'm secretly hoping is baby engaging) because I can't deal with this pain. I can't sleep from it and I'm having a hard time caring for my other children. I feel like a crap mum right now. I got to that point in my last pregnancy and tbh I drank raspberry leaf tea to hopefully induce my labour. I'm not really sure if it was the tea or not but I did end up going into labour within a couple weeks of drinking it. I wouldn't recommend that right now but when you hit 36/37 weeks it would definitely be worth a try.



 
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Old Jun 3rd, 2018, 12:04 PM   6
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Thank you Chellesama and lilmisscaviar.
I'm definitely going to be very honest with my consultant. I'm so miserable. I ordered the food shopping to be delivered because I just couldn't face going to the store and carrying it up the two flights of stairs to my flat, and I was in so much pain, when the delivery guy dropped it all at the front door I broke down in tears and had to get my 4 year old to carry it into the kitchen for me. Bless her she's so helpful, but I just think she shouldn't have to do that for me. My home is usually sparkling clean, but the standard has slipped so bad, it's lucky if I can get it tidy at the end of the day.
The physio is writing a report to send to my consultant because even she was surprised at how bad my pelvis is, so I'm hoping that will also go in my favour.
Fingers crossed it's not much longer. I know my consultant has said before that there's not much point in baby being inside after 37 weeks because they're at full term, so I'm hoping he'll still have that attitude when I go to see him!



 
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Old Jun 4th, 2018, 09:42 AM   7
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I donít know if the chiropractor is a thing where youíre located but mine as done wonders for this pregnancy. I was in so much pain especially my hips and leggings and the treatments have been amazing. Sometimes I forget Iím carrying twins. Itís definitely made it more manageable.



 
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Old Jun 4th, 2018, 13:46 PM   8
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Mel28nicole unfortunately, it hasnít helped me I have another appointment next week but my last appointment left me feeling worse the next day Iím beginning to feel like thereís just no hope 😩



 
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Old Jun 4th, 2018, 18:56 PM   9
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Have you tried icing the areas your chiropractor worked on? Ice helps me tremendously. Also, I was induced with both previous children at 38 weeks. Both times, labor went well and both were delivered without any complications. If Iíd went full term both babies wouldíve been 10lbs or more.



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Old Jun 4th, 2018, 22:44 PM   10
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I asked to have my c-section before 39 weeks because of the SPD and I also have arthritis in my hips and knees. At the time she said the earliest she could do was 38 weeks so she scheduled it for 38+2, I then developed Pre-eclampsia again, so they moved it to 37.



 
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