Any home birthers in the 3rd Tri? - Page 6

Mervs Mum · Jan 7th, 2010, 16:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Sekhmet

I have a little notebook that I have started using to jot down various ideas I encounter in my reading that I want to be sure I remember during labour. I think it will be a great help to maintaining my cool, if I start to feel overwhelmed during labour. For example:

"You're just a mammal." I love this... I don't understand why birthing should be so much more of an ordeal for a human than for any other animal. I'd like to be reminded of this during labour if I am starting to tense up.

"Your body is not a lemon." (From Ina May.) The medical establishment is so quick to jump to the assumption that there is something wrong, and look to interventions. The rate of births by C-section in the US is now over 30% - I find that shocking. Again, a useful mantra if I start getting scared, to remind me that my body knows what it is doing if I just let it do its thing!

Those are just a couple of the quotes I have jotted down... along with other quotes from Hypnobirthing or Ina May or Grantly-Read, and also some other quotes like bits from the Tao Te Ching. I have told DH to reach for that if he's having a hard time getting me to focus.

I think one of THE most useful things for you (and your birth partner/s in particular) to understand and remember is the concept of transition. If your partner recognises this happening, they can remind you that you it's not a bad thing but in fact that it's a good sign that you are just about to meet your baby. My hubby said at the hypnobirth class that he wished he'd have recognised it and will definitely see it as a positive thing this time

hopeforamirac · Jan 8th, 2010, 02:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Mervs Mum

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Originally Posted by Sekhmet

I have a little notebook that I have started using to jot down various ideas I encounter in my reading that I want to be sure I remember during labour. I think it will be a great help to maintaining my cool, if I start to feel overwhelmed during labour. For example:

"You're just a mammal." I love this... I don't understand why birthing should be so much more of an ordeal for a human than for any other animal. I'd like to be reminded of this during labour if I am starting to tense up.

"Your body is not a lemon." (From Ina May.) The medical establishment is so quick to jump to the assumption that there is something wrong, and look to interventions. The rate of births by C-section in the US is now over 30% - I find that shocking. Again, a useful mantra if I start getting scared, to remind me that my body knows what it is doing if I just let it do its thing!

Those are just a couple of the quotes I have jotted down... along with other quotes from Hypnobirthing or Ina May or Grantly-Read, and also some other quotes like bits from the Tao Te Ching. I have told DH to reach for that if he's having a hard time getting me to focus.

I think one of THE most useful things for you (and your birth partner/s in particular) to understand and remember is the concept of transition. If your partner recognises this happening, they can remind you that you it's not a bad thing but in fact that it's a good sign that you are just about to meet your baby. My hubby said at the hypnobirth class that he wished he'd have recognised it and will definitely see it as a positive thing this time

Great advice being given on this thread, lets hope we all achieve our homebirths

Mervs Mum · Jan 8th, 2010, 02:31 AM

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Originally Posted by hopeforamirac

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Originally Posted by Mervs Mum

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Originally Posted by Sekhmet

I have a little notebook that I have started using to jot down various ideas I encounter in my reading that I want to be sure I remember during labour. I think it will be a great help to maintaining my cool, if I start to feel overwhelmed during labour. For example:

"You're just a mammal." I love this... I don't understand why birthing should be so much more of an ordeal for a human than for any other animal. I'd like to be reminded of this during labour if I am starting to tense up.

"Your body is not a lemon." (From Ina May.) The medical establishment is so quick to jump to the assumption that there is something wrong, and look to interventions. The rate of births by C-section in the US is now over 30% - I find that shocking. Again, a useful mantra if I start getting scared, to remind me that my body knows what it is doing if I just let it do its thing!

Those are just a couple of the quotes I have jotted down... along with other quotes from Hypnobirthing or Ina May or Grantly-Read, and also some other quotes like bits from the Tao Te Ching. I have told DH to reach for that if he's having a hard time getting me to focus.

I think one of THE most useful things for you (and your birth partner/s in particular) to understand and remember is the concept of transition. If your partner recognises this happening, they can remind you that you it's not a bad thing but in fact that it's a good sign that you are just about to meet your baby. My hubby said at the hypnobirth class that he wished he'd have recognised it and will definitely see it as a positive thing this time

Great advice being given on this thread, lets hope we all achieve our homebirths

Absolutely! And if we dont we are still well prepared for calm, gentle birthing where ever it might take place

I cant wait!

Brockie · Jan 8th, 2010, 03:17 AM

i do love the idea of having baby at home but im still too scared from last time so hospital for me but again with as little intervention as possible and hopefully get in the pool this time for me! really hoping second time is better for me!!!

some really good reading on here tho ladies, good thread!

xxxx

FsMummy · Jan 8th, 2010, 03:36 AM

hmmm this thread has got me thinking. we will definitely be having at least one more baby (if we are blessed enough to be able to of ourse) and i would love a hb. i had a natural delivery with my first and had an epidural and in the end they had to use forceps as i just did not have the strength to push (she was stuck in my cervix and had a ring round her head when she came out lol) her out. my second birth was a csection

which i did not want but was told i had no choice. do you think i would be allowed a vbac at home? i guess it depends on where i am. also, what happens if you tear?

Mervs Mum · Jan 8th, 2010, 03:45 AM

I presume the C section was because you were having twins so a VBAC would be fine - I guess

You'd have to ask. I had a tiny tear last time but it wasnt worth stitching. My friends, friend needed 2 stitches at her home birth so the MWs just did it.

FsMummy · Jan 8th, 2010, 03:59 AM

i had 42 stitches with my first birth

Sekhmet · Jan 8th, 2010, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Mervs Mum

I think one of THE most useful things for you (and your birth partner/s in particular) to understand and remember is the concept of transition. If your partner recognises this happening, they can remind you that you it's not a bad thing but in fact that it's a good sign that you are just about to meet your baby. My hubby said at the hypnobirth class that he wished he'd have recognised it and will definitely see it as a positive thing this time

Thanks, I have advised DH of this and I'm adding a note about this to my notebook!

My mom told me she doesn't remember having a particularly painful time in labour even though she had me with no drugs (a 'birth without violence') and the labour took 2 days; what she DOES remember is from my little sister's birth, which went much more quickly (she was nearly born in the car), and it is being in the car and screaming and swearing at my dad's mom, who had no idea she was capable of such language - she said that only later did she realize that had been during transition!

NattieLou · Jan 8th, 2010, 04:09 AM

The midwives will suture any minor tears at home. If it's more serious and the midwives feel it's beyond their scope, you and baby will transfer to hospital in an ambulance and be stitched there.

Mervs Mum · Jan 8th, 2010, 04:11 AM

Yes I swore once (which is surprising for me

) and it was definitely at transition!

FSmummy - 43! Blimey!! I know I had quite a few first time as I had a forceps delivery but I dont recall them giving me a total

I think I'd prefer not to know!

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Brockie Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 1,695	i do love the idea of having baby at home but im still too scared from last time so hospital for me but again with as little intervention as possible and hopefully get in the pool this time for me! really hoping second time is better for me!!! some really good reading on here tho ladies, good thread! xxxx

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FsMummy Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 3,072	hmmm this thread has got me thinking. we will definitely be having at least one more baby (if we are blessed enough to be able to of ourse) and i would love a hb. i had a natural delivery with my first and had an epidural and in the end they had to use forceps as i just did not have the strength to push (she was stuck in my cervix and had a ring round her head when she came out lol) her out. my second birth was a csection which i did not want but was told i had no choice. do you think i would be allowed a vbac at home? i guess it depends on where i am. also, what happens if you tear?

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Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,579	I presume the C section was because you were having twins so a VBAC would be fine - I guess You'd have to ask. I had a tiny tear last time but it wasnt worth stitching. My friends, friend needed 2 stitches at her home birth so the MWs just did it.
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FsMummy Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 3,072	i had 42 stitches with my first birth

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NattieLou Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Hove Posts: 561	The midwives will suture any minor tears at home. If it's more serious and the midwives feel it's beyond their scope, you and baby will transfer to hospital in an ambulance and be stitched there.

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Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,579	Yes I swore once (which is surprising for me ) and it was definitely at transition! FSmummy - 43! Blimey!! I know I had quite a few first time as I had a forceps delivery but I dont recall them giving me a total I think I'd prefer not to know!
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