hormonal and lonely

charlottecco2 · Mar 28th, 2008, 14:45 PM

i hate being hormonal and lonely. My OH keeps letting me down by staying out late and occasionally coming home drunk which he has never done pre pregnancy. I have university work coming out of my ears which has to be all finished by the 4th april for me to pass my final year.
I have been told my babies kidneys may not be working 100%, and i am so lonely as i have no friends around the area.
It was okay before because OH hadn't got any friends too, but now he does and i get left alone. Also just feel fat and ugly.
I just can't stop crying tonight. Just fed up with it all right now. I wish i at least had his bloody support.

xx Sorry for the rant.

**Vickie** · Mar 28th, 2008, 14:48 PM

That must be extremely difficult for you.

Serene123 · Mar 28th, 2008, 14:48 PM

clairebear · Mar 28th, 2008, 14:50 PM

hunni just wanted to give u

and say i hope u feel better soon xxx

danielle7449 · Mar 28th, 2008, 14:57 PM

Hi Charlotte, I read your post and can sympathize. My OH is never here to support me either, I have been lonely throughout my pregnancy and am now 32 weeks and facing the prospect of going it alone now. In some ways I feel stronger thinking about going it alone. Every time my OH is involved I feel more stressed and emotionally drained.

Try to keep optimistic though hun, life has a funny way of working itself out. Whatever life throws at us a baby is a blessing no matter what the circumstances.

Gemz · Mar 28th, 2008, 15:15 PM

Oh you poor thing

You sound really down. You have lots going on at the moment and pregnancy, however great it's going, is a huge worry. I worry about lots of things

It's only natural - your LO is already so important to you and with all those added hormones!!!

Just think, you'll soon have a beautiful baby and you may be able to join some mother and baby groups which will make you feel less lonely.

And P.S I'm sure you look lovely pregnant - not fat and ugly

I hope you feel better soon x

JennyOwens · Mar 28th, 2008, 15:19 PM

Please don't feel bad - its normal to feel a bit hormonal and stressed - babies are a huge life-changing event. It would probably be more weird if your OH was acting like nothing had even happened! Have you spoken to him about how you are feeling? I think that with all the hormones flying round we sometimes have to cut them [the men] a bit of slack and tell them how we are feeling rather than expecting them to be mindreaders!

The university stuff can't be helping though - have you spoken to your tutor? Can you get any more help? Delayed deadlines...etc?

Don't appologise for the rant - we all need to let off steam!

x-amy-x · Mar 28th, 2008, 15:57 PM

You are certainly anything but fat and ugly... But i do understand how you feel.

I'm sorry you're feeling down, i wish you lived a little nearer then i could give you a little company. It hard going through all these changes on your own. Have you tried talking to you OH about it? i know you probably have, but keep talking to him till he realizes that you need his support right now. It's his child as well.

you're a really sweet person and deserve better treatment than what he is giving you now.

Try not to stress too much as your little boy needs you. I hope he is ok and all healthy. I hope the kidney problem isn't too serious and its something that can be fixed. We will all be here for you

Chin up chuck :-)

missjess · Mar 28th, 2008, 16:02 PM

Big big hugs

AquaDementia · Mar 28th, 2008, 16:06 PM

Charlotte, things like this will only make you a stronger person and a better mommy. You can do it all, I don't doubt it at all.
And you feeling fat and ugly??? I think you need a reality check: you look absolutely amazing. Sure, your body is changing but you indeed look amazing.
I hope you feel better

Mar 28th, 2008, 14:45 PM	#1
charlottecco2 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Somerset. Posts: 2,570	hormonal and lonely i hate being hormonal and lonely. My OH keeps letting me down by staying out late and occasionally coming home drunk which he has never done pre pregnancy. I have university work coming out of my ears which has to be all finished by the 4th april for me to pass my final year. I have been told my babies kidneys may not be working 100%, and i am so lonely as i have no friends around the area. It was okay before because OH hadn't got any friends too, but now he does and i get left alone. Also just feel fat and ugly. I just can't stop crying tonight. Just fed up with it all right now. I wish i at least had his bloody support. xx Sorry for the rant.

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Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 85,315	That must be extremely difficult for you.

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danielle7449 Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: North Yorkshire Posts: 1	Hi Charlotte, I read your post and can sympathize. My OH is never here to support me either, I have been lonely throughout my pregnancy and am now 32 weeks and facing the prospect of going it alone now. In some ways I feel stronger thinking about going it alone. Every time my OH is involved I feel more stressed and emotionally drained. Try to keep optimistic though hun, life has a funny way of working itself out. Whatever life throws at us a baby is a blessing no matter what the circumstances.

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Gemz Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Devon, England Posts: 274	Oh you poor thing You sound really down. You have lots going on at the moment and pregnancy, however great it's going, is a huge worry. I worry about lots of things It's only natural - your LO is already so important to you and with all those added hormones!!! Just think, you'll soon have a beautiful baby and you may be able to join some mother and baby groups which will make you feel less lonely. And P.S I'm sure you look lovely pregnant - not fat and ugly I hope you feel better soon x

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JennyOwens Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Nr Taunton, Somerset Posts: 185	Please don't feel bad - its normal to feel a bit hormonal and stressed - babies are a huge life-changing event. It would probably be more weird if your OH was acting like nothing had even happened! Have you spoken to him about how you are feeling? I think that with all the hormones flying round we sometimes have to cut them [the men] a bit of slack and tell them how we are feeling rather than expecting them to be mindreaders! The university stuff can't be helping though - have you spoken to your tutor? Can you get any more help? Delayed deadlines...etc? Don't appologise for the rant - we all need to let off steam!

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Mar 28th, 2008, 15:57 PM	#8
x-amy-x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Teesside, UK Posts: 13,899	You are certainly anything but fat and ugly... But i do understand how you feel. I'm sorry you're feeling down, i wish you lived a little nearer then i could give you a little company. It hard going through all these changes on your own. Have you tried talking to you OH about it? i know you probably have, but keep talking to him till he realizes that you need his support right now. It's his child as well. you're a really sweet person and deserve better treatment than what he is giving you now. Try not to stress too much as your little boy needs you. I hope he is ok and all healthy. I hope the kidney problem isn't too serious and its something that can be fixed. We will all be here for you Chin up chuck :-)

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missjess Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 4,818	Big big hugs

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AquaDementia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,790	Charlotte, things like this will only make you a stronger person and a better mommy. You can do it all, I don't doubt it at all. And you feeling fat and ugly??? I think you need a reality check: you look absolutely amazing. Sure, your body is changing but you indeed look amazing. I hope you feel better

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