I know the feeling. I thought pregnancy would make me more open to people and somehow unite me with my friends who all already have a kid. But I have never been more lonely in my life. When I first told my "friends", they were soo excited. We had been trying for years and finally after going to a fertility clinic we had our miracle baby on the way. But now the only time my so called "bestie" comes around is to drop off her kid for me to watch. Idk maybe I should shop for better friends. She has always been walking on me when it comes to watching her kid. And she has so much drama in her life it cant be good for my soon to be kid. But its whatever. I just want someone to talk to. My husband is always gone at work it seems, which I know is for me and the baby but man I feel so alone. And I dont want to seem weak to his family so while they live close; I cant talk to them. My real best friend is like a million miles away and planning her wedding so I really shouldn't complain to her. That leave my dog. Sad but true: my Real and True Best Friend is my dog. So depressing. I cant wait to have this kid so I can finally have someone to talk to and "hang out with". Being alone all day everyday except when I watch my "friends" one small child (which isnt often anymore bcs I am putting a stop to being walked on) is depressing. What I really want is adult companionship. Someone to talk to and laugh with; someone who is a mommy or soon to be mommy. --Man I got pregnant and became a loser.
One of my best friends who I have known for 16 years took two days to say congratulations when we announced our pregnancy, didn't reply when I sent her a text saying we were having a girl so never even text her to say the baby name or send a 4 d scan photo. It's her loss!
I was in Australia for a year with my OH when I fell pregnant... I came home when I was 12 weeks pregnant and ive seen all of my friends.. wait for it... 0 TIMES!!
NONE of them have bothered to come see me.
Im home like almost 5/6 months ?? I get the odd text but thats about it.
I was realllly close to them before i went and also kept in touch alot while I was there too.
Bugs the crap out of me.
I was also "abandoned" by my best friend ):
Like yours, she seemed totally excited and happy when I first told her, then she just kind of disappeared.. we went camping together when I was around 8 weeks and the whole time she bitched and moaned about wishing she wouldn't have came, so boring, etc. Gee thanks, right? since then I've seen her ONCE when I thought it'd be nice to surprise her by stopping over.. turned out to be incredibly awkward. Half because she's so far up her boyfriend's ass and half because she wouldn't stop telling me how much she hated my baby's name, and why would I breastfeed? and that's so disgusting to not have baby circumcised.
I haven't talked to her much since, needless to say.. her immaturity has really shown in the past 32 weeks!
Whew, nice vent. what are friends, anyway when we'll have our little bundles so soon?
Not being a big head, But I think I was pretty popular before I got pregnant.
Now, I'm the biggest loner ever. The only time people bother to make conversation with me it's to ask when I'm due or how far gone I am. I think this is only because they haven't spoken to me for so long they've forgot how pregnant I am and feel the need to check I haven't give birth yet. I can't wait for every one to get chatty and friendly when LO arrives, So I can ignore them. Then eventually use the excuse 'Oh sorry I didn't let ya know, I just assumed you were busy since we didn't really talk through out my pregnancy'.
I have absolutely no friends ha .. OH is my best buddy, I don't work so I'm pretty much so fecking lonely during the day! We recently moved house ...right across the road from my mam and dad, I was so delighted to move down ...2 more friends for me!! YEY ... love having my mam to talk with whenever I want... yeah im pathetic!
I have two other "friends" I talk to, one I met at college, that I have seriously drifted away from since she wanted to get pregnant aswell and it hasnt happened for her, and one I used to be friendly with in school that only came back into my life because Im pregnant and shed love one herself, keeps going on about how she cant wait to met my baby.
its awful just how rubbish all of our 'friends' are
the worst experience ive had with them is
one of my 'friends' thought it was a nice idea to tell me when i was 20 weeks pregnant that she had an abortion that week and she was 15 weeks pregnant at the time
Aw hunny that sucks and these friends need to realise this will one day be them!
I have friends who are drinking buddies and 4 friends who I'd say are best friends and who I'd want to be there for me should I need them. I've spoken to the "drinking buddies" but haven't really seen them but I knew I wouldn't. My good friends have been really good - they have spoilt my baby girl SO much and she couldn't ask for better substitute aunties! One friend is off to New York City on Monday and is most excited to buy my baby girl lots of cheaper designer outfits! We are both very lucky!
Now 1 of these friends has been SHIT! She wrote on my sisters facebook wall saying "happy birthday" on the 8th December...then when it was mine on the 14th December I got absolutely...Jack all! I was furious so I wrote a status saying "it comes to something when someone who is 'supposed' to be a really 'good friend' can wish your sister a happy birthday but completely ignore your own...even though they don't EVER speak, funny that" followed by a text off this friend 1 hour later saying "I am guessing your status is about me blah blah blah I've been busy blah blah happy belated birthday" and guess what...I ignored it. She then messaged me on facebook a few weeks later saying something like "hope you and bump are good, I've sent you a few texts but am guessing the no reply is for a reason blah blah blah" so I replied telling her I was ignoring her on purpose as if she hasn't got time for me...I won't have time for her when Abigail is here so what's the point in pretending!? Well girls she texts me every other day and we've even been to lunch - just cause I can't drink does not make me boring!
I'm glad we have the kind of friendship I can be so honest with her about ignoring her etc but I sure do understand how you feel. Hope you meet some lovely mummies at ante natal clinics and you can show her in no way do you need her fickle friendship in your life!
Im in a similar but not quite the same situation. My best girlfriends (some of us going on 20 years now and Im only 24 btw) live in NY. I moved to FL about 9 years ago. We still keep in touch but I miss them loads. Here I have made some good friends but they all lasted seasons before changes in our lives drifted us apart. These are now occasional chat buddies and we may meet up once in a blue. All I have are OH and my baby. But OH works 12 hour shifts overnights so is usually asleep or really tired during the days. On his days off, he gets texts from work friends all night and because of their schedule its normal. I feel like a loser waiting around for him all week and then not really doing anything else. I also work but my hours are crap and this week I got none so home alone for me.. Well not alone (I wish) his mom and bro are living with us in our one bedroom apt and with them here I swear I feel lonlier! The only escape I get is visiting my mom and grandma a few times a week which I love. Especially because my brother and sil who live there just had a baby girl. SIL is another one though.. When we were both ttc we were good friends. When she got pregnant I was thrilled. When I miscarried I admit to being distant obviously but only one month later I was pregnant again and back around. We shopped for baby together and had fun but now she doesnt even say hi or even offer me my niece. Anytime I have held my niece was because my mom or brother had her first and passed her over and then soon enough SIL would snatch her away saying she needed to sleep or be fed but really she would go play with her .. I feel like a loser for complaining about being lonely but I am!! Im glad I have BnB!
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