The 'I have no friends now I'm pregnant' support thread!

Just sitting here on a nice sunny day thinking about the 'friends' I just don't see anymore because I'm pregnant!


Thought it might be a bit of fun to share stories of useless people or lame 'I can't see you today because...' stories!
I'll start

When I first told my best friend I was pregnant, she was REALLY excited! I told her I was pregnant when I was 4 weeks and 3 days, since then I've seen her a massive 5 times (and all those times add up to about an hour )! She still can't even be bothered to come around to see my 4D scan dvd that she was SO looking forward to. i had that scan at 29 weeks, I'm now 34!

She makes plans with me, then when I see her she says 'I can't stay for long.. gotta meet blahblah soon'.. I never get invited out and she never comes around anymore!

I told her I was fed up being alone and I'm gonna be really pissed off if she suddenly decides to spend all her time with me when I have a cute baby to play with, so on Friday we went to the cinema to see Kick Ass.

I was so happy, I felt like I was being treated like a normal young person again..
Film started at 7:30pm, we (me, my friend and her other friend) met up at 7:15pm and went straight into the cinema. Watched the trailers for 15 minutes, then watched the film (which bored me to death )
Then, as soon as the film finished, they left! They just went back to friend number twos house for more fun there! I was home and in bed by 9:30

I wasn't invited
Maybe not such a 'normal' person, more 'lets take Kim out to shut her up for a bit'..


I can't be the only person that's been abandoned?! I know they'll all reappear as soon as little one arrives. I don't know how to stop that


So, who's next?!

Wait 2 weeks and 4 days until you reach 37 weeks and suddenly your phone will not stop ringing and receiving texts! See my rant post

I know exactly what you mean though.

Aw hun...that's awful! I've been really lucky in that my mates have been exactly the same.

In fact, it has been me who has been texting everyone, and arranging cinema trips, meals, shopping trips...even just "brew evenings" where we all gather for a chinwag. I want to make sure I get out as much as possible before LO arrives so it is up to me to make that happen. We all see each other once a week at least anyway, but I have been arranging extra things, as I love being able to spontaneously do things while I still can. That goes for me and DH too.
Maybe you could ask them to do stuff instead of waiting to be asked?? xxx

Originally Posted by muddles

Wait 2 weeks and 4 days until you reach 37 weeks and suddenly your phone will not stop ringing and receiving texts! See my rant post

I know exactly what you mean though.

Haha judging by my hormones at the moment, If that happens I'll be telling them exactly where they can go!

Originally Posted by BabyJayne

Aw hun...that's awful! I've been really lucky in that my mates have been exactly the same.

In fact, it has been me who has been texting everyone, and arranging cinema trips, meals, shopping trips...even just "brew evenings" where we all gather for a chinwag. I want to make sure I get out as much as possible before LO arrives so it is up to me to make that happen. We all see each other once a week at least anyway, but I have been arranging extra things, as I love being able to spontaneously do things while I still can. That goes for me and DH too.
Maybe you could ask them to do stuff instead of waiting to be asked?? xxx

I've tried soo hard to do that! I'll text and ask if they want to do anything (including the friend of a friend that I do not like!), I keep suggesting days/evenings out, but they're always busy! I do text to see what they're up to, then ask if I can tag along if it's something I can do, but they always say they've already left or there's no room
I texted the other day and asked if they wanted to come around and see the baby pictures and dvd, but my friend said "it's my friends son's birthday party, maybe another time" even though she used that excuse the week before!

I've given up now, I don't wanna seem too desperate.
My baby is my friend now, I just walk around all day by myself talking to her. Even though it makes me look/sound like a nutter

That's rubbish! Maybe they think you'll be too tired and spoil their fun or something?? They're being so rude to you. I think once baby arrives they might find that you're too busy with all your new mummy friends to see them!

Oh it's the other way for me.. I have a "friend" that bugs me constantly about me going up to her to see her. And when I do all she talks about is how she brought a new bike so she can start being a bit more active and how she's doing a sponsored walk for this charity and that charity in Wales and Scotland and up the mountains etc.. Yet the day I say to her "Sorry I'm not feeling great would you mind if we had our cuppa and a chat at mine" it's "Oh I can't get there my OH is working so I have no way of getting there"... I asked her why she didn't ride her new bike down or take a walk down.. It's only half an hour down the road from hers to mine.. But oh no guess what.. "Her legs and back hurt"... YOU TRY BEING PREGNANT AND DOING ALL THE RUNNING AROUND BECAUSE YOU CAN'T BE BOTHERED AND THEN TELL ME YOU'RE FRIGGIN LEGS AND BACK HURT

It has now resulted in me ignoring all the "when are you coming to see me" and "When am I gonna see you" texts.. I just can't take it anymore!!

I know exactly how you feel chick!! im 21 and have always enjoyed going out and being the life and soul of the party, when i was pregnant nobody really bothered with me until the week he was due because they were getting excited !!! i had millions of visitors for about 2-8 weeks then nothing my son is 6 months now and both his grandparents have seen him about 10 times between them !! SHOCKING. My best friend now has a bf so i hardly ever see her but i have told her how i feel and i still get the same lame excuses like she has to work or she has college work to do what a load of bull!!! i feel so much better now lol thanks xxxx

Originally Posted by KayleighJayne

Oh it's the other way for me.. I have a "friend" that bugs me constantly about me going up to her to see her. And when I do all she talks about is how she brought a new bike so she can start being a bit more active and how she's doing a sponsored walk for this charity and that charity in Wales and Scotland and up the mountains etc.. Yet the day I say to her "Sorry I'm not feeling great would you mind if we had our cuppa and a chat at mine" it's "Oh I can't get there my OH is working so I have no way of getting there"... I asked her why she didn't ride her new bike down or take a walk down.. It's only half an hour down the road from hers to mine.. But oh no guess what.. "Her legs and back hurt"... YOU TRY BEING PREGNANT AND DOING ALL THE RUNNING AROUND BECAUSE YOU CAN'T BE BOTHERED AND THEN TELL ME YOU'RE FRIGGIN LEGS AND BACK HURT

It has now resulted in me ignoring all the "when are you coming to see me" and "When am I gonna see you" texts.. I just can't take it anymore!!

That does sound worse than my situation! My 'friend' has always been a 'you come to me' person, but even that won't do now!

I've not heard or seen any of my friends during my pregnancy. At the beginning they were all like "We have to go shopping together!" and I've been shopping a grand total of twice...with my MIL once and OH the other.

Asked last week if I could go to my mates engagement party (Yeah, I ASKED, not was asked) and she said "Yeah i guess, when are you due?" and I was like "17th" and she went "Oh you'll probably be in labour, no point in making plans"

Her party is the 27th of April ^o)

GRR!