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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 06:40 AM   1
saphino
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Hi girls

I posted a couple of weeks ago - don't know if anyone saw it - i'm not a regular poster but I do stop by everyday and read all your posts.

I had my appointment yesterday with the OB at my local maternity hospital and after 14 weeks of being told by one doctor at another hospital that it was incredibly likely I would need a c-section, the lady yesterday told me the 'risks were minimal' so I asked if I could still opt for a elcs (as I am also terrified of having a normal VB, the medical problemo certainly hasn't helped my phobia).

When I asked she pressured me with many, many questions and I just broke down in tears (and haven't stopped since!) she won't decide for another 6 weeks, when I have to go back to see 'how I feel about birth' - I know I will feel the same

I'm so stressed out and feel I haven't been able to really enjoy my pregnancy. I was sick 4/5 times a day up until around 26 weeks, then when that stopped have suffered awful nosebleeds. Had to have weekly visits to hospital for my 'medical reason' (sorry i'm being vague about that but I don't like to talk about it). I've suffered with puppps, aneamia - you name it i seem to have had it! All i've been able to think about is birth since day 1, it's really getting me down and not helping my state of mind. I'm so woried my depression is going to come back and bite me on the bum!

Although the risk is minimal there are still cases where it has affected the birth and baby that I have found online. Will she take this on board next time I see her do you think?

Fingers crossed my little guy will stay put for 6 weeks and I can tell her once again my fears and phobia of VB and she'll agree to an elcs.

I feel like I don't know what to prepare for birth-wise

My heads a mess sorry to rabble on.

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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 06:57 AM   2
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sorry i don't have much advice, but try to have faith in whatever they recommend. they wouldn't recommend a vaginal birth if the risks outweighed the benefits, please try to keep it in mind. i can understand how frustrating it must be to be told one thing and then the other, and that you feel you can't mentally prepare. i hope they make the right decision and that you can regain confidence in whichever kind of birth you get. xx



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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 07:02 AM   3
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I've also got medical probs (was born with a congenital heart defect) & I was told every woman has a right to an ELCS. The OB is reluctant to give me one due to risk of infection etc, she's also reluctant to induce me, would rather I go 'on my own' god knows what's going to happen if I go over due!

Keep asking for an c section, if thats what you want xx



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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 07:05 AM   4
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Didn't want to read and run Make sure you fight for what you want and voice your opinion x



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 07:14 AM   5
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Sounds like you've had a tough pregnancy. I suffer from an anxiety disorder and depression, plus I have a severe height phobia. So although we don't have the same fears I can relate to some of your anxieties.

I not really sure what to advise, I would speak to your MW again about this and I would tell her how this affecting you. You could speak to your GP about it and see what they say. Maybe if they realize just how much this affecting you they will change their mind.

I know what its like to be really anxious about something. I'm scared to death that I am going to get post natal depression. I don't know how I'll cope if I get ill with a new baby around.

You do need to try and calm down a bit. I know this is really hard but you don't want to get yourself too wound up. I do relaxation exercises each day to try and manage my anxiety and make sure you take some exercise. This won't get rid of your anxiety about the birth but it will help you cope.

I've done some cognitive behavioral therapy over the years to help me deal with my anxiety and one of the things that they teach you is to challenge negative thoughts and to look at the evidence for/against your fears. Its too detailed to explain on a post but you could look it up on the internet and perhaps purchase a self help book. It might help you manage your phobia of a VB.

Send me a PM if you want to talk.

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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 09:23 AM   6
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Thanks for your replies x

I have the midwife again in a couple of weeks so I will tell her again how much this is affecting me and maybe she'll speak to the OB as I know my MW is based at the OB's maternity hospital.

I was so looking forward to having a c-section confirmed so I could of had a weight of my shoulders for the last 9 weeks of being pregnant

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