Deleting facebook "friends"?

ItsMagic · Sep 19th, 2010, 15:35 PM

So, I know this sounds really immature and childish, but my old friends whom I invited to my baby shower didn't come. They didn't attempt to come. They didn't even say anything to me about it. Not congratulations, nothing. And people who I haven't spoke to in like 4 years showed up. I have been debating whether to remove these people off of my facebook, or if that would be childish and stupid. I'd love to tell these people off, but don't think that's really necessary. What would you do?

DivaSatanica · Sep 19th, 2010, 15:36 PM

I'm probably the worst person to give you advice......I delete people all the time.......LOL.

ItsMagic · Sep 19th, 2010, 15:42 PM

lol. Well then I don't feel so bad. I just feel like they won't even care, so what's the point. but, I'm not sure. Ugh. Oh well. I should just follow my instincts and delete them. I don't want them ever seeing my baby. And even my grandma didn't come. I don't think I even want her to see my baby. That's effed up.

angelic_one · Sep 19th, 2010, 15:46 PM

Yeah definitely delete them. I would. I'm about to in fact, when I can be bothered. A lot of the people I've spent the last few years thinking were my best mates haven't bothered to check up on me once in the last 6 months, they haven't asked how me or baby are doing, they don't give a crap. It upset me for a long time but now I realise I just don't need them. So they'll be deleted as soon as I find time.

It seems childish, but deleting people from facebook DOES help. Out of sight out of mind... and you can just concentrate on your real friends, without any negative feelings surfacing everything your old friends pop up on your wall.

angelic_one · Sep 19th, 2010, 15:47 PM

In fact,I'm gonna do it now. Lets make a pact, I'll do it if you do it... deal? ;-)

Soos · Sep 19th, 2010, 16:01 PM

i might be on a different wave over here but i dont think that it's a big deal. it's a fact that most of the people around us don't really care, and i think it's normal. parents should care and OH, the rest are just people around us with their own lives and getting mad because someone isn't interested in your pregnancy is a bit naive, if you know what i mean. but it's just my own opinion of course.

p.s. i don't believe in friendship in general. it's just a myth

v2007 · Sep 19th, 2010, 16:02 PM

Delete them, i delete ppl all the time

V xxxx

mixedmama · Sep 19th, 2010, 16:04 PM

Completely up to you hun. There's nothing wrong with deleting people off of your friends list. I've done it a few times mainly because I want my facebook to be accessible by people who I actually talk to and want to stay in contact with. If you feel no need to keep in touch with these people then go ahead.

ttc_lolly · Sep 19th, 2010, 16:05 PM

I just had a major clear out the other day, and deleted 200 odd people

mainly people I haven't spoken too since school!! Don't feel bad! x

m4nc3r · Sep 19th, 2010, 16:08 PM

Personally I'd give them a chance, try to strike up a conversation then if they respond back mention like did they get you're invite etc

Personally I say give them a chance, I say this because I know i've been on their side. Both my best friends have had babies within the last year, of which i know i've only visited a total of 5 times between the pair of them and never bought them any presents (they didnt have baby showers for me to go to anyway..) yet when another of my friends organised my baby shower, and they both showed up with gifts.
I always get texts from one asking me how my pregnancy is going, but sometimes i dont get the time to make same efforts - but we know how it goes and we're here for each other if its needed.

Sep 19th, 2010, 15:35 PM	#1
ItsMagic Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Ellwood City, PA Posts: 210	Deleting facebook "friends"? So, I know this sounds really immature and childish, but my old friends whom I invited to my baby shower didn't come. They didn't attempt to come. They didn't even say anything to me about it. Not congratulations, nothing. And people who I haven't spoke to in like 4 years showed up. I have been debating whether to remove these people off of my facebook, or if that would be childish and stupid. I'd love to tell these people off, but don't think that's really necessary. What would you do?

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Sep 19th, 2010, 15:36 PM	#2
DivaSatanica Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 1,138	I'm probably the worst person to give you advice......I delete people all the time.......LOL.

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Sep 19th, 2010, 15:42 PM	#3
ItsMagic Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Ellwood City, PA Posts: 210	lol. Well then I don't feel so bad. I just feel like they won't even care, so what's the point. but, I'm not sure. Ugh. Oh well. I should just follow my instincts and delete them. I don't want them ever seeing my baby. And even my grandma didn't come. I don't think I even want her to see my baby. That's effed up.

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Sep 19th, 2010, 15:46 PM	#4
angelic_one Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Burton upon Trent Posts: 1,265	Yeah definitely delete them. I would. I'm about to in fact, when I can be bothered. A lot of the people I've spent the last few years thinking were my best mates haven't bothered to check up on me once in the last 6 months, they haven't asked how me or baby are doing, they don't give a crap. It upset me for a long time but now I realise I just don't need them. So they'll be deleted as soon as I find time. It seems childish, but deleting people from facebook DOES help. Out of sight out of mind... and you can just concentrate on your real friends, without any negative feelings surfacing everything your old friends pop up on your wall.

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Sep 19th, 2010, 15:47 PM	#5
angelic_one Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Burton upon Trent Posts: 1,265	In fact,I'm gonna do it now. Lets make a pact, I'll do it if you do it... deal? ;-)

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Sep 19th, 2010, 16:01 PM	#6
Soos Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: at home! Posts: 1,423	i might be on a different wave over here but i dont think that it's a big deal. it's a fact that most of the people around us don't really care, and i think it's normal. parents should care and OH, the rest are just people around us with their own lives and getting mad because someone isn't interested in your pregnancy is a bit naive, if you know what i mean. but it's just my own opinion of course. p.s. i don't believe in friendship in general. it's just a myth

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Sep 19th, 2010, 16:02 PM	#7
v2007 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 29,371	Delete them, i delete ppl all the time V xxxx

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Sep 19th, 2010, 16:04 PM	#8
mixedmama Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: London, United Kingdom Posts: 1,803	Completely up to you hun. There's nothing wrong with deleting people off of your friends list. I've done it a few times mainly because I want my facebook to be accessible by people who I actually talk to and want to stay in contact with. If you feel no need to keep in touch with these people then go ahead.

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Sep 19th, 2010, 16:05 PM	#9
ttc_lolly Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: West Herts Posts: 20,468	I just had a major clear out the other day, and deleted 200 odd people mainly people I haven't spoken too since school!! Don't feel bad! x

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Sep 19th, 2010, 16:08 PM	#10
m4nc3r Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Clacton-on-Sea, Essex Posts: 551	Personally I'd give them a chance, try to strike up a conversation then if they respond back mention like did they get you're invite etc Personally I say give them a chance, I say this because I know i've been on their side. Both my best friends have had babies within the last year, of which i know i've only visited a total of 5 times between the pair of them and never bought them any presents (they didnt have baby showers for me to go to anyway..) yet when another of my friends organised my baby shower, and they both showed up with gifts. I always get texts from one asking me how my pregnancy is going, but sometimes i dont get the time to make same efforts - but we know how it goes and we're here for each other if its needed.

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