Whoever thought it would be so hard to get the birth you want?! I've had 8 babies and not delivered any of them the way i wanted.
With my first i was only 18 and didn't really have a clue about all the possible options so i gave birth in hospital. My son sadly died due to complications of a GBS infection that was missed at birth.
With my second baby i wanted to go to hospital anyway just to make sure she was ok.
With my 3rd and 4th i asked for a homebirth and i was given no option but to go to hospital due to the GBS infection my son had at birth.
With my 5th, 6th and 7th i asked for a homebirth but was told no due to me being 'high risk' of haemorrhage, apparently the more babies you have the more likely you are to haemorrhage.
With my 8th i asked for a homebirth again but was told no, when i went into labour i went to hospital but was sent home contracting every 7 minutes but not dilating, i was told not to come back until my contractions were every 4-5 minutes. That never happened, my contractions got more painful but never closer together so i stayed at home. Baby ended up being born in my frontroom with DH delivering, I never went to hospital and had no drugs AT ALL. Delivered my placenta fine by myself with no help.
This time i have asked for a homebirth but have been told... surprise surprise... NO! I'm too high risk for a haemorrhage, same old story, i need to have a drip to reduce any bleeding after the birth and need a managed third stage of labour. FFS i did it all by myself last time didn't i, no drugs, no drip and no managed thrid stage.
So, i asked if i could give birth at the birth centre, its located right next to the labour ward in the same building. I've been told a big fat NO. WHY?! I see myself as low risk, i can't be that much of a worry as i've not seen a consultant at all this time and the last antenatal appointment i had was 12 weeks ago! Yes i may be a 'higher' risk but i wouldn't say i was 'high risk'. I don't see why i can't have the baby at the birth centre, if anything goes wrong all they have to do is go two seconds down the corridor.
There is a section for home births on here you should check it out. Basically what I've read in similar threads is they can't deny you a home bith ultimately. Just tell them thats what you are doing and they have to show up. You can get more info on the other board though.
They have only given me the haemorrhage reason as to why i can't give birth at the birth centre, i think its ridiculous because i'd still be at the hospital. They think they are going to put an IV canula in my arm just incase i bleed too much after birth and they can't do that on the birth centre, there is no way i'm having an IV canula unless i need it, i hate all the 'just incase' rubbish they keep spouting.
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