Am i the ONLY person not complaining about my family being excited?

Wriggley · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:31 PM

Anyone out there actually like the fact their family is really excited about bubs?

If im totally honest id be upset if family didnt take an interest in our baby.

i dont understand why everyone complains that their family are over excited about their baby? shouldnt we be happy that they are excited for us?

Sorry if im sounding funny but i dont see whats wrong with family wanting to know when baby is born, when thy can come see them.

i LOVE the fact that everyone shows a big interest in my little man...

i just dont understand why people dont want their family to share their excitement?

stacey01 · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:40 PM

i just find it annoying when they dont bother with you the rest of the year, then soon as you have a baby they are like flys to shit.

Bexivillian · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:41 PM

In my case i'm happy my family/OHs family is excited. But im also nervous about the first few weeks with baby and getting used to everything, so i have asked for space. Also i want to be a little selfish and spend a bit of time just me, OH and baby

I think it depends on your relationship with your family etc

xx

Wriggley · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by stacey01

i just find it annoying when they dont bother with you the rest of the year, then soon as you have a baby they are like flys to shit.

maybe if i was in a situation like that i would be able to understand but we are close to both sides of our family so havnt had this problem

cdj1 · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:43 PM

If you had a MIL like me and like a lot of other girls I am sure you would understand why their excitement is not always a good thing, especially if you don't get along with your MIL like a lot of women I know! I wish things were different but if MIL attitude were different then I would be feeling a LOT more excited about them feeling excited if you get what I mean! x

SweetFramboiz · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:44 PM

Like stacey said when they dont care the rest of the year its kinda hard wanting them around baby everytime its like well lets say it its only about baby and not mummy and generally its from the in law side.... Personally my family are happy to meet the new baby and iam happy and accepting the idea maybe cause its my family and not my husband's

Wriggley · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by cdj1

If you had a MIL like me and like a lot of other girls I am sure you would understand why their excitement is not always a good thing, especially if you don't get along with your MIL like a lot of women I know! I wish things were different but if MIL attitude were different then I would be feeling a LOT more excited about them feeling excited if you get what I mean! x

i think your totally right. i forget how lucky i am to have such a good relationship with the inlaws

Sorry to anyone - i dont mean any offence i guess i just dont understand situations that im not in?

trumpetbum · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:46 PM

I can't wait and neither can our families.
I think it depends on the family tbh, I know that my family are excited and will be here to see baby pronto, my sil will be at the birth. I also know however that if I need anything I will be given it, if I need help I will get it, if I ask for time alone or need sleep I'll get it, my mum will phone to see if I need bread/milk etc and for the most part noone will expect us to entertain them or provide anything for them. What I've picked up from the posts that complain have been that mostly the families involved tend to be pushy and a tad unreasonable or have a bit of a negative history.

Don't get me wrong, no doubt my mil will put her foot in her mouth now and again but it won't be malicious.

Wriggley · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by trumpetbum

I can't wait and neither can our families.
I think it depends on the family tbh, I know that my family are excited and will be here to see baby pronto, my sil will be at the birth. I also know however that if I need anything I will be given it, if I need help I will get it, if I ask for time alone or need sleep I'll get it, my mum will phone to see if I need bread/milk etc and for the most part noone will expect us to entertain them or provide anything for them. What I've picked up from the posts that complain have been that mostly the families involved tend to be pushy and a tad unreasonable or have a bit of a negative history.

i think i just didnt realise how many people have these unfortunate problems

Karina&Bump · Sep 28th, 2010, 12:50 PM

I'm happy that both sides of the family are excited about our seamonkey but not when they do not understand boundaries. Help and support is much appreciated and I dont know what we would have done without them. Its all just a little too much sometimes especially with their ideas of seeing the baby everyday and taking the baby on holidays with me and my o/h.

Sep 28th, 2010, 12:31 PM	#1
Wriggley Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 9,157	Am i the ONLY person not complaining about my family being excited? Anyone out there actually like the fact their family is really excited about bubs? If im totally honest id be upset if family didnt take an interest in our baby. i dont understand why everyone complains that their family are over excited about their baby? shouldnt we be happy that they are excited for us? Sorry if im sounding funny but i dont see whats wrong with family wanting to know when baby is born, when thy can come see them. i LOVE the fact that everyone shows a big interest in my little man... i just dont understand why people dont want their family to share their excitement?

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stacey01 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Oxfordshire Posts: 1,588	i just find it annoying when they dont bother with you the rest of the year, then soon as you have a baby they are like flys to shit.

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Bexivillian Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Reading Posts: 1,620	In my case i'm happy my family/OHs family is excited. But im also nervous about the first few weeks with baby and getting used to everything, so i have asked for space. Also i want to be a little selfish and spend a bit of time just me, OH and baby I think it depends on your relationship with your family etc xx

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cdj1 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK Posts: 4,077	If you had a MIL like me and like a lot of other girls I am sure you would understand why their excitement is not always a good thing, especially if you don't get along with your MIL like a lot of women I know! I wish things were different but if MIL attitude were different then I would be feeling a LOT more excited about them feeling excited if you get what I mean! x

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SweetFramboiz Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 342	Like stacey said when they dont care the rest of the year its kinda hard wanting them around baby everytime its like well lets say it its only about baby and not mummy and generally its from the in law side.... Personally my family are happy to meet the new baby and iam happy and accepting the idea maybe cause its my family and not my husband's

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Sep 28th, 2010, 12:46 PM	#8
trumpetbum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Glasvegas Posts: 3,397	I can't wait and neither can our families. I think it depends on the family tbh, I know that my family are excited and will be here to see baby pronto, my sil will be at the birth. I also know however that if I need anything I will be given it, if I need help I will get it, if I ask for time alone or need sleep I'll get it, my mum will phone to see if I need bread/milk etc and for the most part noone will expect us to entertain them or provide anything for them. What I've picked up from the posts that complain have been that mostly the families involved tend to be pushy and a tad unreasonable or have a bit of a negative history. Don't get me wrong, no doubt my mil will put her foot in her mouth now and again but it won't be malicious.

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Sep 28th, 2010, 12:50 PM	#10
Karina&Bump Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Manchester Posts: 250	I'm happy that both sides of the family are excited about our seamonkey but not when they do not understand boundaries. Help and support is much appreciated and I dont know what we would have done without them. Its all just a little too much sometimes especially with their ideas of seeing the baby everyday and taking the baby on holidays with me and my o/h.

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