how do i make a medical person listen to me????

since sunday i have felt the odd movement off bump but not nearly as much as she used to now i know she is alot bigger i aint stupid but i know the movements have totaly reduced and i have also been told they should keep their pattern!!

i have protein in my water i have been told GP's take the bp borderline lower than midwives but i have still went by the midwife's safety guidelines and the bottom end of my bp is safe up to 90

i have my own BP machine and the reason i trust this is because i work in a doctors also the day i got my bp taken i got exactly the same reading off my bp machine TWICE so it has to be somewhat reliable otherwise lets face it they shouldnt be selling them!! anyway all day yesterday my bp seemed to rocketing, now with working in a gp surgery i know that your top number will always vary cos thats the number you yourself can cause to rise and fall but the bottom end it soley on your body and i got right up to 160/102 last night!!!

i phoned the maternity assesment unit to be made to feel like i was some stupid idiot and that i shouldnt be taking my own BP as i am not a trained nurse, i then went on to tell them i have actually be trained in taking BP, but if they were that unreliable why do the government let medical supplies like these be bought if they are just a make believe toy, i went on to explain i didnt feel overly well light headed flashing spots and basically got told to go see my midwife today not GP as the midwifes are the experts in pregnancy not GP's well i am sorry but sometimes you could fool me as my midwife didnt dip my urine once until 26 weeks which ended me up in hospital as i had no symptoms before hand so handt detected it myself!!!

i have an appointment at 12:30 today how on earth do i get these people to take me seriously when i think there is something wrong i felt so ill last night it woke me up dreaming about the fact i had the sakes and wanted to faint i woke up went to the toilet to find my urine a very dark blood orange colour now this cant be right surely???

sorry it's so long i am just so enraged and very upset that i am being pushed to one side!!!
UPDATE........sorry it's late but have had a very stressful day, we went to the midwife who took my blood pressure which was 140/94 with protein in my water now i got told yesterday the bottom end 90 was the highest they would go then they would class it as being very highly at risk if i went over............well now i have went over up to 94 and this midwife wasnt concerned at all she said if it was over 100 then she would be concerned!!

now i know 90 is borderline for grade 1 hypertension alone without protein your water, but never mind i said if she was happy to leave me thats ok, until she said come on we will listen to the baby and she couldnt find her heartbeat at all not even a faint one my heart was in my mouth and she turned the monitor off and said oh nevermind she must just be hiding, to which i then pipped up and said i dont think so i am 34 weeks pregnant either find her heartbeat or send me to hospital right now she is way to big to be "hiding" and if she is hiding then there is a growth problem!! she then eventually found her heartbeat, she is lying back to back, she has refused to monitor me for my BP again until next monday!!

i have went over her head and booked an appointment with a gp for tomorrow as i really dont think it's acceptable to be left until monday with protein and high bp, she then asked me the strangest question and said by the way have you been having practice contractions like braxton hicks i said i am not sure because they havent been painful if i have and she left it at that but i found that strange?? anyway thats my update not sure what OH will say when he gets in he will prob march me to hospital xx

If you have concerns present yourself to labour ward... The fact you feel reduced movements should have been enough to visit them plus signs of PE is worrying, I wouldn't wait and I would complain and demand to find out who you spoke to... I hope everything is ok.x.

if you have to go to a&e they will then send you to maternity and they HAVE to take you seriously!

I agree, i would just turn up at the hospital and demand to be seen. Hope your appointment goes well.

I have a BP monitor and i do find it really inaccurate but thats probably just mine. I've also been told by 2 different midwifes that they arent very good so i've stopped using it.

xxx

Firstly yes movement does reduce cos baby gets bigger and less space to move around, so no it doesnt keep its pattern, i dnt get kicks and riggles anymore but i do get thuds and like an earthquake feeling, much slower movements, but at every 2wk appointments babys heartbeat is wonderful, if baby was in distress or something was wrong, their heartbeat would be less or rapid, im sure your mw is keeping an eye on it at every appoiintment, as for bp it can go up and down again they keep record of it at evry appointment if there concerned they will do something about it, iv had low blood pressure for a while now, and been getting dizzy but like my gp said its better than having high bp.

But... If you are concerned Dont ring hospital my gp told me just go straight to hospital and they will check your baby.

sorry also to mention my mum suffered with high bp the whole way through her pregnancy with me and my heartbeat was fine the whole time but she got scanned at 38 weeks to find out i was living in a pocket of air and had to have an emergency c section with me and nearly lost her own life because of the fact they didnt scan her earlier, your baby doesnt feed properly off the placenta if you have high bp and there is a risk of a small baby, i think because of what my mum went through they should be keeping an eye on my bp alot more, granted i didnt get high bp until a much later stage in pregnancy than my mother but i still have it with protein in my water which by alrights isnt a good combo

Just go into delivery suite hun and have them check you over, your entitled to a second opinion. gl

Yes, you are right, high BP with protein is something to take seriously, expecially with the other symptoms you are describing. I had high BP at the end of my last pregnancy and am being checked weekly through this one just to be sure. I've seen a Consultant several times, had a scan last week and they are really taking it seriously, even though it has been fine this time (fingers crossed). Like the the others have said, you need to go in and demand to be seen, you have the right to be looked at and you need to be assertive.

i think i just dont want them to turn around and say go home u silly girl u are not a medical professional you dont know about these things and then i am left worrying for the next 6 weeks because they refuse to do anything about it............my OH is so livid at the way i was treated on the phone he wanted to take me in last night but i wouldnt let him as all they could have done is her heartbeat at that time of night and she is moving now and then so i know her heartbeat is still there......just terrified of looking like a paranoid woman!!

Aw hun, sorry your still not feeling right, I remember your posting about your bp last week.
I always think that mw should trust a mums instinct, I would just turn up at your maternity day unit, and say I know this is going to sound daft but please will you just put my mind at rest, if you have to (and I know you shouldnt have to) cry. They should put you on the monitor and do a trace, check bp and urine.
Trust me hun, they wll not send you home without checking you over. Good luck and keep us posted.