some ppl tell you not to check some say its fine but i never knew what your meant to feel so have never bothered but looking on the net i found this.......
Preparing For Labor
Checking Your Own Cervix
How to Check Your Own Cervix- "it's not rocket science"
"I think it's a good and empowering thing for a woman to check her own cervix for dilation. This is not rocket science, and you hardly need a medical degree or years of training to do it. Your vagina is a lot like your nose- other people may do harm if they put fingers or instruments up there but you have a greater sensitivity and will not do yourself any harm.
"The best way to do it when hugely pregnant is to sit on the toilet with one foot on the floor and one up on the seat of the toilet. Put two fingers in and go back towards your bum. The cervix in a pregnant woman feels like your lips puckered up into a kiss. On a non-pregnant woman it feels like the end of your nose. When it is dilating, one finger slips intothe middle of the cervix easily (just like you could slide your finger into your mouth easily if you are puckered up for a kiss). As the dilation progresses the inside of that hole becomes more like a taught elastic band and by 5 cms dilated (5 fingerwidths) it is a perfect rubbery circle like one of those Mason jar rings that you use for canning, and about that thick.
"What's in the centre of that opening space is the membranes (bag of waters) that are covering the baby's head and feel like a latex balloon filled with water. If you push on them a bit you'll feel the baby's head like a hard ball (as in baseball). If the waters have released you'll feel the babe's head directly.
the way i see it is it cant be dangerous because we have sex and thats bigger than my finger,
where i live you dont get checked that way unless they think your in labour so how do i know anything is happening is there anyway to know without checking???
we don't get internal examinations either as i asked my midwife and she said when i think i am in labour at the hospital i will get one.
not sure i would do it, perhaps i would if i really wanted to know! not sure though.
good luck if you try - let me know how you get on!
No there's no way to know if anythings going on up there without checking. Its fine to check as long as your fingernails are short and not sharp and your hands are clean. Exactly, having sex you have 'other' things up there so why not?
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