Would you be happy with a male midwife? Would you want a male delivering your baby?

flubdub · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:29 AM

Im just wondering really.
Im not 100% sure how I would feel about it. I wouldnt like any internals being done by a man, but that would only happen once in labour anyway, or for a sweep.
I guess I would kind of be wondering, why would a male want to do that job? I dont know why, because I think its probably an old fashioned way of thinking

Would you be happy with a male mw delivering your lo? Or being your regular mw at your booking in appointments?

Bethanymh · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:32 AM

I don't think I mind at all .. I actually get on better with male medical professionals I think. I recently had an ultrasound and HB monitoring with a lovely male doctor, who minutes before seeing me had performed a successful emergency c-section! ... I subsequently found him quite attractive! and he was so caring about my baby, said he loved the name Tabitha

bekki_d18 · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:35 AM

I have been prewarned that there are two males MWs on my birthing unit, so could have a male midwife. I don't think I or anybody else would be bothered once we are in labour.

Plus they won't be looking at us when doing internals as sexual objects it is there job. That sort of like saying would you want a lesbian MW doing internals?

My gynae is a male and I really do not mind.

Jenniflower · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:36 AM

I wouldn't think normally I would like it. But then I imagine Dell off of Private Practice and think I would love one!

greeneyes27 · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:38 AM

Hmmm I don't think I'd like it very much... I'm all for equality but I wouldn't want a guy poking about in my bits!! I think labour and delivery are very primal things and anything that makes you unsettled can hamper its progress etc... for me (and just my opinion..) a man I didn't know would probably do that xx

ke29 · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:38 AM

I dont care what the sex of the midwife is as long as they know what they are doing!

LuckyStarr · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:43 AM

I dont mind in the slightest, i am sure they will be fine.

Though my friend did say that when she was in labour a man came into her room her description of him is that he was built like a rugby player well over 6ft and hands like shovels. He asked her if she was ready to be checked? She started carrying on that hands that size werent going anywhere near her foof, he just laughed he wasnt a midwife but a health care assistant and had popped in to let her know the midwife was on her way and to help her back on the bed!

I am sure by the time i am in labour anybody helping me to get Isobel out is ok!

MissDee · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:45 AM

No problem with this at all.

I think I would initially be a little surprised but they are there to do a job and assist in the most important experience of your/ my life.

I would however be embarrased (I think) if he was cute and my OH was there as I'd giggle.

When my husband changed over to my dentist, my OH came home and said he understood why I have regular checkups

MissDee

FayDanielle · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:47 AM

A male midwife delivered my neice and nephew in the same hospital I delivered Mia in, and was so hoping I'd get him, but I didnt!

To be honest, the female midwifes I had were so awful, telling me to stop fussing, 'they had been through it and it doesnt hurt THAT bad'!!!
I cant see a male saying that kind of thing, as obviously he'd have never have experienced labour pain!!
x

JaymeeBee · Dec 1st, 2010, 04:48 AM

My OB/GYN is an older male and will be delivering little Peyton. I didn't really have a choice

I'm kind of shy, but he seems to be a fairly respected doctor so I'm trusting him with my baby girl.

Dec 1st, 2010, 04:29 AM	#1
flubdub Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Lancashire, UK Posts: 7,638	Would you be happy with a male midwife? Would you want a male delivering your baby? Im just wondering really. Im not 100% sure how I would feel about it. I wouldnt like any internals being done by a man, but that would only happen once in labour anyway, or for a sweep. I guess I would kind of be wondering, why would a male want to do that job? I dont know why, because I think its probably an old fashioned way of thinking Would you be happy with a male mw delivering your lo? Or being your regular mw at your booking in appointments?

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Bethanymh Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: South, United Kingdom Posts: 582	I don't think I mind at all .. I actually get on better with male medical professionals I think. I recently had an ultrasound and HB monitoring with a lovely male doctor, who minutes before seeing me had performed a successful emergency c-section! ... I subsequently found him quite attractive! and he was so caring about my baby, said he loved the name Tabitha

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Dec 1st, 2010, 04:35 AM	#3
bekki_d18 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 2,686	I have been prewarned that there are two males MWs on my birthing unit, so could have a male midwife. I don't think I or anybody else would be bothered once we are in labour. Plus they won't be looking at us when doing internals as sexual objects it is there job. That sort of like saying would you want a lesbian MW doing internals? My gynae is a male and I really do not mind.

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Dec 1st, 2010, 04:36 AM	#4
Jenniflower Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Yankee in Scotland Posts: 1,709	I wouldn't think normally I would like it. But then I imagine Dell off of Private Practice and think I would love one!

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Dec 1st, 2010, 04:38 AM	#5
greeneyes27 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Coventry Posts: 254	Hmmm I don't think I'd like it very much... I'm all for equality but I wouldn't want a guy poking about in my bits!! I think labour and delivery are very primal things and anything that makes you unsettled can hamper its progress etc... for me (and just my opinion..) a man I didn't know would probably do that xx

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ke29 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: North Lincolnshire, UK Posts: 3,330	I dont care what the sex of the midwife is as long as they know what they are doing!

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LuckyStarr Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 819	I dont mind in the slightest, i am sure they will be fine. Though my friend did say that when she was in labour a man came into her room her description of him is that he was built like a rugby player well over 6ft and hands like shovels. He asked her if she was ready to be checked? She started carrying on that hands that size werent going anywhere near her foof, he just laughed he wasnt a midwife but a health care assistant and had popped in to let her know the midwife was on her way and to help her back on the bed! I am sure by the time i am in labour anybody helping me to get Isobel out is ok!

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Dec 1st, 2010, 04:45 AM	#8
MissDee Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 196	No problem with this at all. I think I would initially be a little surprised but they are there to do a job and assist in the most important experience of your/ my life. I would however be embarrased (I think) if he was cute and my OH was there as I'd giggle. When my husband changed over to my dentist, my OH came home and said he understood why I have regular checkups MissDee

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Dec 1st, 2010, 04:47 AM	#9
FayDanielle Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 4,046	A male midwife delivered my neice and nephew in the same hospital I delivered Mia in, and was so hoping I'd get him, but I didnt! To be honest, the female midwifes I had were so awful, telling me to stop fussing, 'they had been through it and it doesnt hurt THAT bad'!!! I cant see a male saying that kind of thing, as obviously he'd have never have experienced labour pain!! x

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Dec 1st, 2010, 04:48 AM	#10
JaymeeBee Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,759	My OB/GYN is an older male and will be delivering little Peyton. I didn't really have a choice I'm kind of shy, but he seems to be a fairly respected doctor so I'm trusting him with my baby girl.

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