Just looking for some advice from people that have already given birth before... How do you feel in the week or two after having a baby?
Were you / are you comfortable with leaving the house?
Did you feel happy with lot of guests / or visiting relatives?
My baby is due this week, and I feel under pressure from OH's family to spend Xmas with them if the baby is here. My family don't live anywhere nearby.
I was just talking to my sister and she said she struggled to leave the house in the days after givng birth and she couldn't imagine being with her in-laws at their place just a couple of days afterwards.
I know the last thing I want would be to be surrounded by loads of people, you will need your rest. I would just be honest with them and say you are very tired, and need some rest but will be more than happy for visitors when things settle down after xmas. Hope this helps xxx
For me the first few days I was sore, exhausted, and trying to get into a routine with my new LO. I didn't mind people like my mom or brother (immediate family) stopping by, but I didn't really want to go anywhere or do anything for about a week. I just felt icky, I was bleeding, my boobs were leaking, it burned when I peed because of the stitches etc. I lived in PJs for the first week or so. I would decide what your going to do based on how you feel, don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to. I am sure everyone will understand you have just had a baby
I felt fine in terms of pain, after delivery. However, I did not want to leave the house for a ling time after ds was born. We only went to doctor's appointments. I did enjoy company, but only because I don't like being alone. And it was only a select few people I could actually stand to visit. I wouldn't want to go to my in laws. I'd either say we weren't feeling up to going out just yet (i did use that with my in laws too haha) and/or you're looking forward to spending your first christmas as a family alone and together.
I had a difficult birth so I didn't leave the house for a few weeks. I did appriciate all that came to visit and help with Edward though as I struggled to carry him and do some of the basics. Mostly it was DH and my Mom that helped and and were there though.
Not sure what I would do with Christmas though. In a lot of ways it's easier if it's at someone elses house because if/when you and LO get "done" you can just leave, on the other hand, it can be hard work to get out of the house and it's easier to be home where everything is.
I would encourage you to do what feels right to you. Mommy instinct is a very powerful tool!
I was tired, emotional and wanted to spend every minute getting to know my little girl. I didn't feel up to getting showered/dressed every day and can't imagine how it would've been spending that week with the inlaws!
I wouldnt if I were you! I just wanted it to be me and DH, didnt mind the occasional visitor but certainly wouldnt want to have spent a full day with other people. We are still getting into a feeding regime now and LO is 2 weeks old!
I was fine, was glad to be home, and my OH did more than his fair share. A newborn sleeps so much that I got absolutely loads of rest and was definately up for visitors. I also couldnt wait to get out and show off my new pram and baby too!
I don't know about anyone else but I felt sooooo slim after having the baby even though had (and still have) jelly belly and plenty of it, but was so great to not be wearing maternity clothes and to have hair and make up done nice. Mind you, I had a fair bit of spd and carpel tunnel syndrome, so the relief when these were gone after childbirth was immense.
With me, I was still very tired a week or two into it, and a little sore. But did manage to get out of the house a little though. As far as visitors.... depends really. If you're comfortable around your OH's family, it shouldn't be a problem. But, if you feel the need to be a hostess with your make-up on, and nice clothes.... ehhhhh... I wouldn't do it, LOL. But, if it's just for a short time (a few hours), shouldn't be too bad.
I cant advise how I felt before hun but have spoken to others and seen how exhausted etc they are. You need to do whats best for you and LO and put your foot down! I've talked to OH about it and have made it very clear that we are not to be inundated with visitors until we both feel ready, I won't be pushed into anything too early! lol. The only people who will be around once we are home are immediate family and also friends who are neighbours and live at the bottom of our drive.... other than that people are banned! lol. Some have raised some eyebrows, I'm not bothered! My mum is my other birthing partner and will ring round family to tell them once he's arrived, my dads family is particularly large and I've spoken to her about it also and asked her to tell people to respect that we want a few days before visitors.
Dont feel bad hun, its going to be a lot to go through and until you've done it your not going to know how you'll feel, if you feel up to visitors sooner then great, if not thats ok too but 100% I would not be attending in laws for Christmas if baby makes an appearance before then! lol.
Good luck hun x
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