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Old Jan 15th, 2011, 04:35 AM   371
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Thanks for sharing. Sounds horrific, sorry you had to go through that We all need to be prepared for anything, so it's good to hear stories like yours too



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2011, 05:48 AM   372
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Some more thoughts about things the films definitely don't tell you. You can have your baby at home! You don't even need a doctor. Your body can give birth all by itself and forced pushing is very much going out of fashion for newly trained mws as your body is able to naturally push out the baby when it's ready. Labour can last a long time but you can do all that at home and not even need an epidural or pethidine or even gas and air. You also don't need to have internals to find out how dilated you are as there are a number of outward measures that can be taken. You can labour and give birth in a pool, on a birthing stool, standing up, propped against a wall, against your partner or leaning on a kitchen worktop. You don't need to be on your back, in fact that makes it all much harder, more painful and increases the risk of tearing.

Just thought I'd share some positive stuff too!



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2011, 06:42 AM   373
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One of the things I want to warn the mommies who may get a c-section about is a possible infection. When I had my c-sec. for my twins my doctor noticed that I may have an infections and the way they handle it is seriously horrible and no one prepared me for what was about to happen. They took out all the stitches and staples and reopened everything back up. They got the huge Q-tips that are about 12 inchs long and had to use about 50 of them every time to clean out the incision with saline salution 4 times a day then they would pack it closed with gauze . It was the worst thing in the world to go through and no one even told me it might happen. The had to pull out the gauze, clean it and repack it 4 times a day until it healed ( about 8 weeks). They had nursed come out to my home and do this, I didn't get any numbing meds I had to feel it all. It was horrible. So make sure you have the doctors clean your incision really really well after they put in the stitches and cover it really well after your surgery so this doesn't happen. I seriously wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.. it was that bad
Other then that the only other thing no one prepared me for was the horrible gas you get after you have the baby. Since you are so sore down there its hard to push (sry tmi) you cant fart or poo for a few days and the gas you get is horrible and really hurts, but after you make ur first poo you feel so much better . Hope this helps someone out. I hope I didnt scare anyone. That was not my intent!
Eek! That's scary! poor You!!!



 
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Old Jan 16th, 2011, 09:02 AM   374
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Thank you everyone for sharing all your experiences with us, it is the most useful info a new mom can get directly from ppl who were actually doing it!!
Thanks to you all!




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Old Jan 17th, 2011, 13:27 PM   375
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Some more thoughts about things the films definitely don't tell you. You can have your baby at home! You don't even need a doctor. Your body can give birth all by itself and forced pushing is very much going out of fashion for newly trained mws as your body is able to naturally push out the baby when it's ready. Labour can last a long time but you can do all that at home and not even need an epidural or pethidine or even gas and air. You also don't need to have internals to find out how dilated you are as there are a number of outward measures that can be taken. You can labour and give birth in a pool, on a birthing stool, standing up, propped against a wall, against your partner or leaning on a kitchen worktop. You don't need to be on your back, in fact that makes it all much harder, more painful and increases the risk of tearing.

Just thought I'd share some positive stuff too!
thanks hun! You've prob seen me around the home birth thread a few times...but was just wondering...what are the methods of knowing how dilated you are without internals?? sorry if its a dumb question x



 
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Old Jan 17th, 2011, 13:52 PM   376
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It's not a dumb question, i'd like to know too!



 
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http://sarahvine.wordpress.com/2010/...internal-exam/



 
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Old Jan 17th, 2011, 16:12 PM   378
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I like this one! I can give this a go easy lol:

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4. Feel. Here come some of the more fun tools that you might not have heard of before! Think about the shape of the uterus. Before labor, the muscle of the uterus is thick evenly around all sides, above, below, behind. As the cervix starts thinning and dilating, all that muscle has to go somewhere it bunches up at that top. The top of the uterus thickens dramatically the more the cervix opens. During a contraction, at the beginning of labor, check how many fingers you can fit between the fundus (top of your bump) and the bra line you will be able to fit 5 fingers. As the top of the fundus rises higher during labor, you will fit fewer and fewer fingers. When you can fit 3 fingers, I usually tell mothers they can think about going into hospital as they will find they are around 5cm dilated. At 1 finger, you are fully dilated. (Awesome, huh! Here is a blog post by a woman who describes in great detail checking her own cervix just before she went into labor.)



 
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I found internals to be the single most uncomfortable thing from the whole of labour (though I didn't get to feel crowning) so I'm all about not having them this time. I was very pleased when I was given this link a few months ago.



 
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Old Jan 17th, 2011, 16:25 PM   380
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This is my first so I havent experience any yet, but as a reaaally private person the thought of them has really freaked me out! Gosh, I had a male doctor today at my growth scan and I felt sooo uncomfortable! I need to make sure my birth plan says no men, I can't do it! Anyway point being, I appreciate the link! I'll deffo be showing OH and trying these out before any internals! Well at least try!



 
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