if your having a baby together cant he understand that you need his support right now out of anytime in your life, this is the time when you need him most. i suggest (if you havent done so already) is that you both have a sit down long talk about this. make it so he cant interrupt you and you need to get everything across to him. its not normal for a relationship as serious as yours to see each other only 1-2 times a weel...thats when your just starting to see eachother when teenagers if i remember right lol. i couldnt bare not seeing my OH even for 1 day. he needs to grow up, grow some balls and start being a man. make him realise this is not just your baby and that he shares half the responsibility...what an immature dickhead (sorry)

I know it is not to the same level whatsoever but my ex was exactly the same, basically he just simply didnt want me when he had me but made my life extremely difficult if anyone else was with me, i lost 2 boyfriends and he tried to split me and my hisband up at one point - absolute nut job!

i have to agree with everyone else hun, which is a horrible thing to have to do but i have been where you are - minus the very concerning fact you will be the mother of his child incredibly soon - i agree you need to have a frank discussion with him, you will have to accept his answers to your questions which i believe should start with "do you want to be with me" "do you love me" "is this what you truely want" "are you going to change" "are you going to treat me with respect" if he answers no to those questions then out of my own self respect i would be off!

As others have said i'm surprised you think your situation was perfect. Surely he would text you as much as you text him, call you everyday, make time to see you everyday... that would be more ideal. I certainly wouldn't rely on him for much. If i were you i'd be getting prepared to be going solo. On a happier note your baby is more important and you will soon be holding him in your arms.. the one good thing that came out of that relationship :-)

I've been in a relationship like this one where I was the one pursuing him all the time. He wouldnt even call me his girlfriend after a year of being together. It took a long time for me to realize that I was worth more than that. My husband now is very different, hope you someday find someone who treats you for what you're worth!

^^^WSS....

Sounds like you deserve a lot better hun but try your best to put the relationship stuff to one side for now and focus on you and baby. It's not fair that he is treating you this way and making you feel insecure, especially at the time you need him most. He sounds like he doesn't really know what he wants...leave him to figure it out and concentrate on yourself. Best of luck x

I dunno if this has been said but...... if you're in a relationship you should WANT to spend all your time together! and with a baby coming he can't just pick and choose when to see you! He sounds like he needs to grow up a bit!!

Hope your induction goes ok

he just always tells me there r days where he wants to just chill by himself but like we dont even live together... im not the first thing/person he sees when he wakes up ever! and he works 50 + hours a week... its not like I AM ALWAYS THERE, because i am not.
and the reason why we dont live together is because he was in some trouble with the law and is unable to move out... but we were planning on it by next spring and have done some searching for a place together.


It just is werid that all this comes out RIGHT BEFORE / THE NIGHT BEFORE i get induced.

Sounds like he's scared of the responsibility!! But, he needs to man up and we all like our 'me' time but when you're in a relationship you do spend time together and you do spend time apart! My OH goes out with his friends once in a while or goes golf once a week... I go do whatever I need to do etc - but he's got a baby coming and his 'me' time should be focused on this!

i absolutely do not think it is weird at all that he has dropped this on you the night before the most important day of your life it was his last opportunity to tell you how it is going to be before baby gets here, and quite frankly he sounds incredibly selfish so it probably hasnt even entered his mind as to how his timing is possibly the worst ever (worst being delivery room) all he is thinking about is himself gah honestly i would ask for his name because honestly this guy could be my ex! he broke up with me on valentines day! valentines day! and decided he wanted me back and told me when i was on an anniversary date with another ex! - we broke up because my ex was crazy . . . honestly pulling this sort of crap was exactly what he used to do!

the thing is with these types of men is that they make it impossible to leave, they are not violent but they beat you down emotionally and make you think well if he doesnt want me and he is scummy why would someone really nice want me! fact is hun that is because they do not want you leaving them for whatever selfish reason they want to keep you around so they make your self esteem non existant and make you think you cant do any better so in a way you end up clinging to them thinking yeah i do smother him! he needs his alone time! at one point my ex was having alone time 13 days out of 14 and on the 14th day was in such a bad mood . . . for all those interested i tried to split up with him for a month . . over christmas . . . he kept cancelling our "dates" to go out with other women!

sorry completely off on a tangent . . . hun whatever you decide to do is up to you but communicate with him about it and make a decision, it sounds like you are working very hard to please him and all he wants is more and more and more freedom