I'm 34 this will be our first baby. We have been together 10 years & I have an amazing 11 yr old stepson. DH does not want anymore kids & neither do I (I don't think) & is pushing for me to get my tubes tied. I told him I'm not having major surgery if I don't need a c-section & told him to get a vasectomy if he's that dead set on no more kids. He said NOOOO way. I thought this subject was closed & was quite offended that he would suggest that to me in the first place. Tonight over dinner he busts out with how his friends wife had her tubes tied after giving birth vaginally & they did not have to cut her????? Has anyone ever heard of that??? I just don't know anymore this man is really stressing me out
I would tell him to shove off, you have had to do all the work i would stick by your guns and get him to have the snip. i would always be wary, things change and you feel differently one day and want another baby. my arguement is i have had to take contraceptives for the last 18 years so he can make the effort!
Screw that. He needs to get a vasectomy if he cares so much.
How very imperialistic and juvenile.
I worked in Ob- GYN surgery and I've never heard of that unless it's new.
There are procedures where they insert coils into the tubes so that you are rendered infertile, but not actually clipping vaginally.
I'm not sure what the laws are in your state, but occasionally you will run into physicians who are weary of sterilizing procedures after only one biological child anyway.
That's what I told him that what if I DO change my mind? He freaked out & asked who I plan on having more babies with cause it won't be him if he has a vasectomy. He's just been a complete JERK lately.
He is crazy. How dare he ask you to get surgery you don't really want when he won't have a vasectomy! He's the one who wants it! I'd tell him to piss right off. I'd actually be really offended if my husband asked me to have this done but would 'no way' get himself done.
I don't know re the cutting/not cutting but that wouldn't be the point for me at all.
DO NOT DO IT, it is a major decision and one that nobody should be pressured in to. In regards to the 2procedures ladies can have far more problems as a result of having it done where as very straight forward for men.
This does seem so wrong. I would say to him, if he definitely doesn't want anymore children, then he has the surgery and takes responsibility for that choice (and it is his). You are not 100% sure and it is not your choice or something you want. This is your body, your choice and you can choose less permanent methods of birth control that reflect this. HE can do it to HIS body. I think that is more than fair and I think it is unreasonable for him to expect you to do this, especially if he is so adamant that he would not put himself through a similar procedure. If it was something you REALLY wanted to, no probs, but your body, your choice.
Take it from someone who knows DON'T DO IT..... I was sterilized at age 23 after my 3rd child due to problems I used to have during pregnancy. My first husband did pressure me to have this done and I regretted it as soon as I did have it done. All these years later (as you can see in my sig) I had a very costly reversal which was successful for me. I craved another child for years and would never put my body through anything like that again. There are other ways and forms of contraception to stop you getting pregnant but getting your tubes done is permanent and one that you will probably regret. Good luck with whatever you decide, but its a choice you have to make not your husband xxx
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