Stress that I was told turned into a mini-stroke (information turned long long rant)
I have been agrivated off and on really bad since 3 weeks ago. And it just kept building and building. Till I was at my 2 year old's playgroup/picnic. I made it about half an hour in when I started feeling my arm start squeezing from the elbow on down. On my right side, and was losing sensation in my arm. And my finger tips were tingling really bad. This went on for an hour, then I started getting dizzy, light-headed and blurred vision. Finally I asked my DH to drop me off at the ER. He figured it would just be some muscle pain and they'd send me home after 3-4 hours(this was at 6-630pm thursday). Well after all the tests were run, I called him and told him what they told me. They said from all the stress and stuff, it was a mini-stroke. I am like, OMG good thing I got checked out (key being they knew I was pregnant too). So they kept me for observation till saturday afternoon. Which really helped me to destress some. And said I could go back to normal activities as soon as I was ready. Well my room-mate had a female friend over last night and today. I told her it was great to have another female around so I could have someone help me clean. She said she'd be more than happy to (it was great the idea anyway to have someone help w/o b***hing). Well she told my room-mate she'd been having trouble sleeping (no crap all of us around here have). I could see if she had a prescription for what he gave her and all (remerol that is) but she didn't. She took that at 9am this morning. Well she was gonna help me (with my belly and all I shouldn't be messing w/chemicals let alone cat litter but I was). Well she took on this prissy attitude and said she'd go help the guys for a little bit. Since they were working on our car, instead of helping me. Then not even 10 minutes later she came back up to the house. And fell asleep till supper time (630pm). Needless to say I was down right p*ssed. While mainly 2 occassionally 3 guys were working on our car and she was sleeping. I was making my 2 year old break-fast, putting clean clothes on her, changing her diaper, bathed her 2x. Let her play, cleaned the huge tub (I hate bathing in a dirty tub but hey I am the only one who cleans it), the toilet, the sink. Both my 2 year old and myself fed the animals cleaned out the d*mn litter box (I know toxaplasmosis but if I didn't one it would sit there for a long time and two the puppy would plop his fat hinny in the litter). Cleaned the pots/pans that couldn't fit the dishwasher. Hooked up, loaded and started the dishwasher (sad to say the most help I got was an in the way toddler, but she tries atleast). Took out the trash twice, did the laundry and got my little one down for a nap. All that was quite a feat from 9am to 1pm. And I wasn't even to push myself too hard for awhile. Luckily even though my DH worked on the car all day (after he heard what I did) he ended up taking a shower then taking 1 of my 2 room-mates to do grocery shopping and made dinner. Which was lovely, by the by. Yeah she woke up long enough to eat. Then said something about wanting to go home tomorrow (she and my room-mate both don't have a car they used OUR car to bring her here. Which I told both my room-mates no to that last night as they were drinking. And waited till my DH got home and asked him and he told them to her place and back. They still didn't listen they ended up stopping at McDonald's along the way. I told him after they left that I told them no cause they were buzzed and they did it anyhow. He said he didn't know they were drinking if he had known he would have said no too). Well we told her for the first part of the day the car had to be fixed. Then I had to go get my 1 hour glucose test done then go to a Ob/gyn appointment. Imagine her nerve to get angry cause I said my stuff was more important than her getting home before x time. The drama from that was just icing on the cake. Well I let my daughter watch the preschooler channel (you know something like sprout). And had just taken her up for a nap cause I was gonna watch it down stairs. Well my annoying neighbor since she was there watching tv when she wasn't dozing (which was more time asleep than not). Got it in her head to turn it, I even made a point of saying do not turn it please. She turned it. Well she was just about asleep anyhow when I got back. So I thought no biggie just turn it back. She got mad at me cause I turned it to a kiddie station. Well whoop dee friggin doo. As soon as I turned it to ghost whisperer she fell asleep any way. The neighbor and her significant other are the type of neighbors no one want. Cause A they get their stuff shut off, so they think they have the right to use ours. Plus they think cause they sometimes buy coca cola they have the right to join our evening meal, cause it is healthy and yummy. And this evening didn't even ask my room-mate if he'd watch their oldest son (whose 10 and they dodn't even care that so far this year he missed over a week and the dad already had to pay fines for him missing so much school last year). And to this point they still haven't even come and got him even though they were suppose to hours ago (try was suppose to at 730pm October 5th now it is 110am October 6th) And even if they were home we'd have to get him home cause they are too lazy to either drive or walk to get their kid. Basically told him 45 minues before the bus was suppose to come he'd HAVE to meet him at the bus stop. And we get weird calls from 9pm on (their family looking for them, his boss, their ex-friend whose mad at them). I get sooooo mad over all this crap. And have made a point on several occassions to say stop bringing drama here. But they won't, and we are in a tight spot (other-wise we'd get our own place right fast). But I was afraid if I didn't find an outlet for it fast I work myself into a full stroke and have a premature baby.
Oh my DH is trying to be as helpful as possible. But that only goes so far before it ends up him doing everything. And wind up complaining about it. But it also only goes so far before A.) you feel like screaming at everyone and B.) smacking the crap out of the ones that really need it, grrr. I hardly ever take naps around here and if I do I am seen as lazy and most of the stuff I usually do,don't get done. So tizz on them, humf.
what kind of place do you live in?how come you have to share a tv with a neighbour..did i read that right?and WHY would your oh have to take your roommates gf(did i get that bit right?) to her place and what in gods name makes her think that YOUR oh should do things for her before he does for you??im a bit lost on this sorry cos im not at all familiar with your situation..all i would say is your car, your oh, dont do ANYTHING for ANYONE unless ppl start helping out!!
We don't have to share a TV with the neighbor. She comes to our place to use the phone when she needs to use it. Or wants to play on the computer, or watch TV. Cause she and her SO. Let their cable/internet/telephone lapse and it was turned off by the cable company. She has used drugs in the past 2 months herself. And her SO is disabled, so he'd got some money. Well it was suppose to go for bills and rent, he went as far as hiding it in his underwear he was wearing. She knew he was taking medications for his disability. Instead of trying to make her car legal (which the sticker ran out long ago). Or get the cable turned back on. What did she do, she took $300 + out of his undies and went and bought drugs and went to get high and whatever else. And their kids come here every day to use the computer for however long. And the first words out of their mouth when they get here is, "I'm hungry". I know their dad buys food and all, I've seen it several times a week. Let me put it this way, my DH does the cooking and all here (for the most part). Well my room-mate was going to baby-sit the kids cause their mother can't really be bothered to take care of them a good part of the time. I was all proud of myself for how good I take care of my kids for breakfast. Well my daughter's early head start teacher was lecturing me cause I put syrup all over her pancakes (it wasn't alot mind you cause I just drizzled it). When in the middle of her lecture, my room-mate brings the kids he is baby-sitting in. Well they bring a bag of potatoe chips in and I tell the teacher, "you think me giving a little syrup is bad". And the little boy is like, "that's my breakfast", the flavored potatoe chips that is. I am trying to eat healthy and all for the baby. All anyone can do around here is lecture me on my use of things cause my over all cholesterol was a little high in the hospital. Well for the most part I don't do the cooking. My room-mate and my DH do. And once a week or two I microwave zap 3 potatoes to eat at lunch, but I share them with my 2 year old. I was overweight before my pregnancy (201 ponds but small framed). But with first and second trimester combined I lost 15 pounds (not actively trying just trying to eat right and exercise). And in my third trimester only gained, .4 pounds (averaging out to be 7 freaking ounces). I ask my DH to come with me and our toddler during the day (cause our son is in head-start school). He's like "ok, ok I will come with you". And it never freaking happens. It always comes down to me taking her out to play or on a walk. If he worked 40-50hrs a week I could understand that. But he is between jobs at the minute and going to school online and my DH's dad helps us out some, cause occassionally my DH helps him around the house.
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