Think it might just be me being a hormonal witch today, but what is this about buying your OH a present because we have had a baby??

My MIL called me earlier to inform me that she was buying a willow tree figurine of "the new father" for me to give to my boyfriend when we have the baby. I told her not to bother as we are already getting the figurine of "the new parents" to match the expectant parents one we already have so that bump is replaced with baby for the other side of the mantlepiece. For some reason this has really annoyed me because if I was going to buy my OH a present, I would choose it myself. He doesn't even like the figurines, they are my thing so why would he want one anyway?? I realise she was just trying to be nice but it has put me in a right fettle now hahah

What is this about buying our partners a present because we have given birth? Is a baby not enough?? I don't think it would occur to my boyfriend to buy me a gift for the baby arriving. For his birthday in November and for Christmas, I bought him little presents from the bump...what did I get? absolutely nothing.

Sorry to have a rant but a new surge of preggo hormones has pushed me that little bit over the edge today and I just don't get it! Rant over...

I always thought it was strange that people gave each other gifts once the baby was born. But I guess it's done in some cultures and social circles.

The first time I really heard about it in my close circle was when I saw the gorgeous diamond earrings that my BFF had gotten his wife for the birth of their 2nd child.

Once LO is born and well, I want to get DH a "World's Awesomest Dad" hoodie, since DH wears hoodies all the time and it would be fitting.

I have never even heard of the tradition lol. I am sure it was done with good intentions but it is a little strange as even if you did choose to follow that tradition, as you said, it would be you buying the present for your OH not her. Surely she should give that to him as a gift from her x

See I don't mind getting him something I think is cool or cute when I see it after LO is here but I just don't get this thing about having a gift to give when a baby arrives. I do sometimes buy him presents 'just because' and I can see if you have other children to get them a present from their new sibling but it was just the way his mum was like "i'm going to get you this and then you give it to him"...why? I have to do the hard work?? I want a present!! haha (that is a joke btw before any takes it the wrong way)

plus that hoodie idea is so cute :P x

Nah, I don't really get it either.

Although I have asked for an eternity ring, I severly doubt I'll get it considering our finances, and will happily settle for a bunch of flowers! (I always want flowers!)

But as for OH, no I don't think they should get a gift, they're getting all the pleasure of the baby with minimum effort!

I've always bought a little something from the baby for siblings but not for the Dad nor have I expected something myself though I've always been spoilt with flowers.
Try not to let it stress you out I think she means well x

I'm getting my OH and baby matching T-shirts that say Ver 1.0 for him and Ver 2.0 for the baby - DH's a computer geek and Ver stands for Version of software... so he is Ver 1.0 and LO will be the updated version Ver 2.0


I think if we were to spend a lot of money on a present, I'd get something together for the house like something in Swarovski and look back in it on later years and remember we got it together when we had our first child... but I really don't get the point of both of us getting each other presents. Plus, horrid as this may sound, preparing for a new baby is expensive business so I'd rather we spent money there.


But what is it with your MIL forcing that present on you? I don't think you *have* to give anything to the Dad. I think she's just being kind but coming across strange.

um isn't the baby the gift LOL

His mother is rather controlling at times but since being pregnant, I seem to have found the courage to just say no lol my boyfriend is a complete gamer geek so for his birthday I bought him two baby grows from bump which have "my dad loves me more than xbox" and "my daddy is a better gamer than your daddy" on them and he loves those and can't wait to have his photo taken with baby in them lol I also bought him a newcastle united baby grow for christmas which had "my mummy taught be abc but my daddy taught me nufc"..sad I know but he loved it when he opened it and was showing it to everyone so I do buy him stuff all the time anyway lol.

It sounds like you did the right thing, my OH isn't so keen on the I Love Daddy/Mummy stuff, and really me neither. But I have seen a few vests that say:

50% Marcus
50% Jessica

100% Me!!

So might order one of those