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Old Mar 11th, 2012, 12:34 PM   #1
mummy2bm
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Mil rant......


saw her yesterday & she p***ed me off. Commented on my size yet again how big I am. She moaned she not a granny again yet & then to top it off kept saying it'll be a boy cos its not here yet (DD came at 38wk). She knows I'm paranoid about the sex, told girl but cos of people like the MIL have been doubting it & she didnt help yesterday as all she said was, it will be a boy, I 've know people who got told wrong b4.GGGGGRRRRRRR!!!!!!

Then when LO wouldnt go to her uncle she turned round & said "it's because she doesnt know us". We see them once a month when we make the effort to visit them, they never come here. My response if I was brave enough to say it out loud would be "u know where we live, ur welcome netime, u just cant be bothered to make the effort"

Thanks for the moan ladies just needed to vent a bit of built up anger


 
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Old Mar 11th, 2012, 14:21 PM   #2
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Oh I feel your pain!!! MILs can be soooo annoying!! all you can do is take a deep breath and try to ignore her. My MIL made plenty of comments about my size when I was pregnant with DD even though she didn't actually see me, it was sooo annoying and untrue!!

My MIL lives in Scotland and has seen DD 4 times, we went over twice she came here twice, when she came here she spent a total of 3 hours with DD in total over the 2 visits and hasn't seen her in over a year yet has the cheek to talk like she knows DD!!! It is a heck of a lot easier & cheaper for her to be a foot passenger on the ferry and come over than for us to bring the car and all 3 of us to her. She pulled an attention seeking stunt around her visit when DD was born and this time has decided that she will get married here when she is over to meet the new baby in June and I am having to organise everything for it including taking all her documents to the city hall tomorrow, doesn't sound too big a deal until you know that I have severe SPD and can barely walk so it will be really painful to get into the city centre and to where I need to go, I'm having a c-section on Thursday which is why it has to be done now otherwise I won't be able until the end of April and she won't get her preferred date. ARGH!! Oh and she doesn't begin to appreciate what I'm doing for her. She just expects that I do these things for her but she wouldn't do it for me as she didn't help me with getting paperwork from Scotland when I was marrying her son!! Sorry you set me off on a rant too lol........


 
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Old Mar 11th, 2012, 15:45 PM   #3
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My mother in law is just the same we always visit them (they only live 40 mins away) they want to stay overnight when they visit us so its always so much more of an effort that them just coming for tea and then going home again. Then for some reason they never want to sleep in the spare bed that I have made up but on the sofa. I am an early bird always awake at 7am so why would I want them asleep on my sofa. grrrr mil (maybe one day we will all be one)


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Old Mar 11th, 2012, 17:08 PM   #4
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MIL's = pain in the backside lol it's deffo like that J Lo film Monster in Law

There should be a saying "Nice OH/Hubby shame about the MIL"

Please feel free to keep the MIL Rants coming, glad to know we're not alone


 
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Old Mar 11th, 2012, 17:27 PM   #5
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My mil suspected that DH and I were TTC when they came to visit in November (and they were right) but I denied it because it's personal and none of their business. Well, 2 days after they left to go back home (1000 miles away) I got a positive pregnancy test at 9 dpo.
DH and I decided to tell both sets of parents right away, and all they could say was "Why didn't you tell us when we were there?" and acted like we were lying that we didn't know then. I found out I was pregnant early at 9 dpo with a faint positive and confirmed at 10 dpo with a darker positive, and I probably couldn't have found out when they were visiting, as I was only 7 dpo the day they went home!! I felt like they ruined my announcement by not showing their excitement but instead pretty much calling us liars about just finding out about the pregnancy! And so what if I did wait to tell them? Like I said, it's a personal choice and I could have waited as long as I wanted to tell them but I chose to tell them right away. I told them at 3 weeks and 5 days pregnant!! What more do they want!?

Both MIL and FIL are extremely nosy and are always asking personal questions and getting in our business about things. The problem is that they are really really nice people. So they do infuriating things, but they have "good intentions" so it's hard to get angry at them.

For example, when we moved 1000 miles away, we moved out of our apartment and gave MIL/FILs address to that apartment in case they needed to contact us before we had an address at our new location. Well, the apartments we used to live at contacted the in-laws and told them that we owe money for breaking our lease early, but MIL/FIL decided not to tell us about it and they decided to pay it for us. Nice right? Well, they didn't have the money to pay it. So they kept putting it off until suddenly DH and I were getting phone calls from a collection agency when we didn't even know we owed money!!
DH was furious, because his dad called us and asked if we had heard anything from the apartments since we moved and when we said "No why? Did you?" He wouldn't tell us anything and said "No reason". Well, I know they were trying to be nice and take care of it for us, but they need to be completely 100% open and honest with us about something effecting OUR finances!!!!


 
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