I think i would feel a bit of both, Mad that i never new they where entering in to my house without me knowing or my permission (more so, if her friend is also helping out) and going though my personal stuff. Happy and very greatful that she was helping out and as you said embarrased as i would be mortified that my house was a mess. i am not the neatest person but if someone is visiting, even just for a cup of tea i always give the house a good clean and tidy..
Least it saved you the time and effort though. so pt your feet up and relax... xx
I would be over the moon if my MIL did that for me!! I think it's a lovely gesture!
I can sort of understand that some people don't like the thought of a MIL looking around your house at all the mess and handling your dirty clothes, haha, but i would be more than happy for someone to tidy up for me
JMO - I would thank MIL and let her know that although you appreciate what she did for you, that you felt uncomfortable with it. I might say to her that in future, know that you don't expect anything in return and that you are glad that she enjoyed the fruit. At the same time, I would talk to OH and tell him that never again is this to happen and that if she comes to him with an idea like this (in case she bothers to ask him) that he is to say no thank you.
I had this happen to me when I was in University during exam time. My house was a mess because I couldn't justify doing housework when I should have been last minute studying. I came home from an exam and my house was clean. When I found out that his mother had done it, I was so embarrassed that she felt the need to clean my house....
I'd have a mixture of feelings as well. I'd feel a little like my personal space had been invaded (and be very embarrassed about the undies - i'm bad enough when my OH's mum does my washing, and I live with her!).
But best to remember that it was done with the best intentions and they were trying to make life easier for you. So even if you are feeling a little cross i'd probably keep that bit quiet and just say thankyou. Though i'd probably apologize (i'm a very apologetic person xD) for the undies and say you weren't expecting anyone to go round.
Whenever my mum in law is at my house she goes into my kitchen and cooks something, or wants to wash my dishes. I'm OCD with this pregnancy, no body touches my veggies or my dishes! Even back when I wasnt pregnant she would want to wash them. She does a horrible job and I see stuck on food on them and all kinds of spots on my silverware. I don't even use my dishwasher because it does the same thing she does! And I cook with disposable gloves! She tries to help me organize my stuff a few months ago, but I told her that only I know where and how I want it to be separated. So be pissed off at me. I have my reasons!
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