any room-sharers/co-sleepers worried about messing up partner's sleep?

lizzywiz · Mar 13th, 2012, 22:07 PM

We are planning on using a bassinet that hooks up to the side of our bed and will enable me to reach over and check on baby, nurse, etc., and we have a dresser right next to it that is the perfect height for middle of the night changes and what not, so we are set to have the baby sleep in our room,...BUT, as it gets closer, I have been thinking about how I'll probably be a bit noisy and I'll definitely need light to do some of that stuff and how in the world is hubby going to sleep if baby and I are up every couple hours or so?

My husband is totally willing to help in any way, but there is no reason to wake him up when it is not his 'turn', you know? And when it is his turn, chances are slim that I'll sleep through all of the middle of the night maneuvering, and we'll both end up losing sleep, anyway.

I'm wonder if it would be easier for me and baby to sleep in the baby's room- even though my husband and I have never intended to sleep separately.

Anyone else worried about this or have any advise?

Mrs.Ping · Mar 13th, 2012, 22:38 PM

I would not worry about it at all if he get woke when it's not his turn that is fine sooner or later you both will get used to it and sleep through each others turns! I am not worried about him getting woke up at night as for the ligh I am getting a battery operated touch light so its not to bright and dosent wake lo up completley to the point where she will not go back to sleep!

BunNtheOven · Mar 13th, 2012, 22:49 PM

I wouldn't worry about it, he will eventually get use to it.

My OH has sleeping problems, i MIGHT see him get 2 hours.. he's already use to not getting sleep.. haha. i NEVER see him sleep.

DollPosse · Mar 13th, 2012, 23:05 PM

My husband sleeps through anything usually but I found that pretty quickly both my husband and I becamed used to baby in our room.

lu-is · Mar 13th, 2012, 23:15 PM

Nah, my husband wakes me up enough coming to bed super late I don't feel bad.

ems · Mar 14th, 2012, 02:55 AM

I think if hubby wakes when its not his turn he will soon fall back to sleep through lack of sleep when it was his turn

maysiemoo · Mar 14th, 2012, 03:52 AM

If my husband is bothered due to lack of sleep he knows where the sofabed is. Which he swears is comfy but i feel like i have been on the rack if i have the shortest nap on it.

Sunshine12 · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:00 AM

Im not worrying as such but I do think it will cause him issues with sleeping (I plan on breastfeeding in my bed rather than getting up) but Ive told him that if it does cause a problem he would maybe be best sleeping in a spare room. Just going to see how it goes. Mine wont be taking a turn cause Im breastfeeding so Id rather he gets as much sleep as he can so that he can do everything around the house when he gets in from work. x

lalitas charm · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:07 AM

Co-sleeping with DD meant that DH slept on our sofa bed for months, it was really bad and started to cause problems in our relationship to be honest. He wasn't happy sleeping in with both of us in case he rolled on her and even though we have a king size bed there never seemed to be enough space and neither of us are very big. We will not be co-sleeping this time around as I don't want that to happen again.

GemmaLeanne · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:20 AM

i used to feel like this.. but then i realised my OH only got up for the first week or so when it was all novelty.. now he just sleeps through.

either way, i do suggest buying a night light or a dimmer switch for you room, you can get night lights that you just press and they come on etc. it really is best to keep a dim light anyway as i found with DD if i switched the light on fully, she was wide awake after a change! changes tend to wake babies up a bit anyway (cold wipes and such) so adding what probably seems like a flood light to them into the equation at 3am and your spelling disaster if you were planning on gong back to sleep let alone your OH

xx

Mar 13th, 2012, 22:07 PM	#1
lizzywiz Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Southwest, USA Posts: 351	any room-sharers/co-sleepers worried about messing up partner's sleep? We are planning on using a bassinet that hooks up to the side of our bed and will enable me to reach over and check on baby, nurse, etc., and we have a dresser right next to it that is the perfect height for middle of the night changes and what not, so we are set to have the baby sleep in our room,...BUT, as it gets closer, I have been thinking about how I'll probably be a bit noisy and I'll definitely need light to do some of that stuff and how in the world is hubby going to sleep if baby and I are up every couple hours or so? My husband is totally willing to help in any way, but there is no reason to wake him up when it is not his 'turn', you know? And when it is his turn, chances are slim that I'll sleep through all of the middle of the night maneuvering, and we'll both end up losing sleep, anyway. I'm wonder if it would be easier for me and baby to sleep in the baby's room- even though my husband and I have never intended to sleep separately. Anyone else worried about this or have any advise?

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Mrs.Ping Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: USA,Maine Posts: 2,339	I would not worry about it at all if he get woke when it's not his turn that is fine sooner or later you both will get used to it and sleep through each others turns! I am not worried about him getting woke up at night as for the ligh I am getting a battery operated touch light so its not to bright and dosent wake lo up completley to the point where she will not go back to sleep!

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BunNtheOven Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: US Posts: 1,287	I wouldn't worry about it, he will eventually get use to it. My OH has sleeping problems, i MIGHT see him get 2 hours.. he's already use to not getting sleep.. haha. i NEVER see him sleep.

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DollPosse Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,891	My husband sleeps through anything usually but I found that pretty quickly both my husband and I becamed used to baby in our room.

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Mar 13th, 2012, 23:15 PM	#5
lu-is Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Saskatoon, Canada Posts: 1,777	Nah, my husband wakes me up enough coming to bed super late I don't feel bad.

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Mar 14th, 2012, 02:55 AM	#6
ems Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Kent Posts: 1,141	I think if hubby wakes when its not his turn he will soon fall back to sleep through lack of sleep when it was his turn

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maysiemoo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: oxfordshire uk Posts: 1,338	If my husband is bothered due to lack of sleep he knows where the sofabed is. Which he swears is comfy but i feel like i have been on the rack if i have the shortest nap on it.

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Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,610	Im not worrying as such but I do think it will cause him issues with sleeping (I plan on breastfeeding in my bed rather than getting up) but Ive told him that if it does cause a problem he would maybe be best sleeping in a spare room. Just going to see how it goes. Mine wont be taking a turn cause Im breastfeeding so Id rather he gets as much sleep as he can so that he can do everything around the house when he gets in from work. x

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Mar 14th, 2012, 04:07 AM	#9
lalitas charm Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 3,785	Co-sleeping with DD meant that DH slept on our sofa bed for months, it was really bad and started to cause problems in our relationship to be honest. He wasn't happy sleeping in with both of us in case he rolled on her and even though we have a king size bed there never seemed to be enough space and neither of us are very big. We will not be co-sleeping this time around as I don't want that to happen again.

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Mar 14th, 2012, 04:20 AM	#10
GemmaLeanne Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Coventry/UK Posts: 1,213	i used to feel like this.. but then i realised my OH only got up for the first week or so when it was all novelty.. now he just sleeps through. either way, i do suggest buying a night light or a dimmer switch for you room, you can get night lights that you just press and they come on etc. it really is best to keep a dim light anyway as i found with DD if i switched the light on fully, she was wide awake after a change! changes tend to wake babies up a bit anyway (cold wipes and such) so adding what probably seems like a flood light to them into the equation at 3am and your spelling disaster if you were planning on gong back to sleep let alone your OH xx

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