Feel like a lonely loser :(

Jennifurball · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:23 AM

Just seen on facebook and heard this morning a couple of girls at work attended a surprise baby shower for a girl I work with who is due next month, they have also secretly had a collection for her and got her a nice card and a little outfit for her baby. I just feel so left out like I don't have any friends. Thing is I don't really, I have a few people who have bought me things and am quite close to but nothing like this would ever be done for me.

I also feel really rubbish at work. I put a poster up yesterday to say on my last day I am going to arrange a fish and chip lunch and bring cakes in and no one has put their name down yet.

I just feel like me and my baby don't matter.

To top it off, my colleague just made me a cup of tea in a cup with cats on it.

Sunshine12 · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:27 AM

Try not to feel like that hun. It could be that they are arranging a surprise collection for you too and you just dont think they are doing anything. If they dont then just look at it like you will be well shot of them all until next year!! x

keepontrying · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:31 AM

Awww dont be down, maybe they are having a whip round... and if not whilst a little hurtful at least you will know who your friends are!

big hugs xxx

jenfirstbaby · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:31 AM

what a bunch of bitches !! That is so unfair on you, can't believe they didn't include you in someone else's leaving do/present!

these people don't matter, I don't have a load of friends either, maybe 3 or 4 people I actually consider proper friends. I don't socialise with anyone outside of work. Not because I don't like them, we just don't have anything in common.

You've mentioned your work colleagues before, it sounds like you'd be better off without them hun! They don't sound like a very nice bunch of girls! are you planning on returning to work? xx

disney doll · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:35 AM

oh hun thats horrible!! Can you look at getting a new job in the future it must be awful working in an environment like that x

_jellybean_ · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:37 AM

kris85 · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:38 AM

sorry they made you feel so bad.. that really sucks

it reminds me of one job I had, every time someone left the company we'd all put in for a present and have a party sorta thing, then when i left... NOTHING!! i was so annoyed.. but i didnt like many of them anyways so i was just grateful i was leaving lol

i know its hard, but try not to let them get to you - people like that are just not worth it

kat2504 · Mar 14th, 2012, 04:47 AM

When you are on your maternity leave make a real effort to go to the new mum and baby groups at your local childrens centres. your midwife and health visitor should be able to tell you what's on. Then you can meet other new mums who you might be able to make friends with - at least you'll have the babies in common to start with and even if it's just stuff like popping into Costa once a week for a coffee you get to meet some new people. This is what I intend to do - since moving in with my boyfriend I don't know anyone round here apart from his family and my own friends and family are a 40 minute drive away. The baby groups will get me out of the house a couple of times a week so I don't go totally crazy and I hope to meet some nice people.

Jennifurball · Mar 14th, 2012, 05:03 AM

Thanks.

Maybe they will have a bit of a whip round, I hope so. When I do leave, a lot of people are holiday so won't see me go anyway so I feel mine is going to be a bit of an anti climax anyway.

I am planning on going back after 9 months, but only part time so it should hopefully not feel as bad.

Thanks Kat, that is a really good idea.

I have had leaflets through the door and some classes are only £1.

Roxie · Mar 14th, 2012, 05:10 AM

they might be planning soemthing secret for you

when i left work for maternity leave when i was pregnant with DD

i didnt get a bye, a card, or anything

Mar 14th, 2012, 04:23 AM	#1
Jennifurball Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: UK Posts: 4,204	Feel like a lonely loser :( Just seen on facebook and heard this morning a couple of girls at work attended a surprise baby shower for a girl I work with who is due next month, they have also secretly had a collection for her and got her a nice card and a little outfit for her baby. I just feel so left out like I don't have any friends. Thing is I don't really, I have a few people who have bought me things and am quite close to but nothing like this would ever be done for me. I also feel really rubbish at work. I put a poster up yesterday to say on my last day I am going to arrange a fish and chip lunch and bring cakes in and no one has put their name down yet. I just feel like me and my baby don't matter. To top it off, my colleague just made me a cup of tea in a cup with cats on it.

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Mar 14th, 2012, 04:27 AM	#2
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,674	Try not to feel like that hun. It could be that they are arranging a surprise collection for you too and you just dont think they are doing anything. If they dont then just look at it like you will be well shot of them all until next year!! x

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keepontrying Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 360	Awww dont be down, maybe they are having a whip round... and if not whilst a little hurtful at least you will know who your friends are! big hugs xxx

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jenfirstbaby Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,650	what a bunch of bitches !! That is so unfair on you, can't believe they didn't include you in someone else's leaving do/present! these people don't matter, I don't have a load of friends either, maybe 3 or 4 people I actually consider proper friends. I don't socialise with anyone outside of work. Not because I don't like them, we just don't have anything in common. You've mentioned your work colleagues before, it sounds like you'd be better off without them hun! They don't sound like a very nice bunch of girls! are you planning on returning to work? xx

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disney doll Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: essex Posts: 1,387	oh hun thats horrible!! Can you look at getting a new job in the future it must be awful working in an environment like that x

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kris85 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 129	sorry they made you feel so bad.. that really sucks it reminds me of one job I had, every time someone left the company we'd all put in for a present and have a party sorta thing, then when i left... NOTHING!! i was so annoyed.. but i didnt like many of them anyways so i was just grateful i was leaving lol i know its hard, but try not to let them get to you - people like that are just not worth it

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kat2504 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Northamptonshire, UK Posts: 5,304	When you are on your maternity leave make a real effort to go to the new mum and baby groups at your local childrens centres. your midwife and health visitor should be able to tell you what's on. Then you can meet other new mums who you might be able to make friends with - at least you'll have the babies in common to start with and even if it's just stuff like popping into Costa once a week for a coffee you get to meet some new people. This is what I intend to do - since moving in with my boyfriend I don't know anyone round here apart from his family and my own friends and family are a 40 minute drive away. The baby groups will get me out of the house a couple of times a week so I don't go totally crazy and I hope to meet some nice people.

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Mar 14th, 2012, 05:03 AM	#9
Jennifurball Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: UK Posts: 4,204	Thanks. Maybe they will have a bit of a whip round, I hope so. When I do leave, a lot of people are holiday so won't see me go anyway so I feel mine is going to be a bit of an anti climax anyway. I am planning on going back after 9 months, but only part time so it should hopefully not feel as bad. Thanks Kat, that is a really good idea. I have had leaflets through the door and some classes are only £1.

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Roxie Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Peterborough,UK Posts: 1,189	they might be planning soemthing secret for you when i left work for maternity leave when i was pregnant with DD i didnt get a bye, a card, or anything

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