DH going out at 39 weeks and leaving me with MIL.. help!
On saturday, my husband is going on a night out with a friend. The place he is going is about 45 minutes away and 20 minutes from his mum's house so he will stay there. The next day we are going to his sister's for mother's day (she lives near their mum). Unless I go and stay at him mum's house that evening, thus spending the evening with my very unsympathetic MIL and sleeping in a very small and uncomfortable bed, he will have to drive 2 hours to come and fetch me and take me back to his sister's house on sunday (with a hangover). Plus his argument is that if I do go into labour then I will be with his mum so she can drive us to hospital.
Ordinarily I'd just do it, but at 39 weeks pregnant I a) don't have the energy to spend all that time socialising with the in laws b) I need to sleep c) I do NOT want to go into labour at somone else's house let alone with my inlaws and d) I really do not want to go that far from my own house. Is that pathetic?
If anyone recalls any of my previous posts regarding my DH, you will know that he's not a man with any empathy or understanding and I really think it will be just as much stress to argue my case. What do you ladies think I should do? Any excuses?
I'm so worried about it I'm tempted to 'pretend' I'm having contractions or something on saturday to get out of it!!!
And yes, I know he shouldn't really be going out drinking so close to my DD, but as he said 'you probably won't'.
He doesn't have to go out drinking with his friend. I'd be pissed enough about that, let alone him expecting me to be inconvenienced by it. I'd stay home and if he didn't want to do all that driving to pick you up, then just skip the visit with your SIL (unless you're really wanting to go).
you poor thing lol.. I know how you feel! my MIL has been in town for the last month and she is a handful to say the LEAST! and my DH has been going to work everyday for the past month leaving me with her ALL DAY LONG to socialize and make food for! I am exhausted and so sick of it..thank god she is leaving in a couple days..but if I were you I would just act like your totally fine with it right now and then the morning of it just act like your extremely tired and in alot of pain and there is no way you can go lol terrible I know but at this stage its just too hard.
I would tell him to get his f***ing act together if hes worried about you being alone and going into labour then he shouldnt be going out at all and if hes going to take the "you probly wont" attitude then there is no reason for you to go and have a horrid night at mils what a selfish ass this is the one time he needs to put you first. I had a convo with my oh about him going out drinking and told him strait that if he was out drinking and anything happend i wouldnt let him anywear near me drunk i also would never ever forgive him for not being able to support me through labour and for missing the birth of his daughter because he was too selfish to give up a few nights out towards the end i have made it very clear that if this is a risk he wants to take he has to deal with the consiquences of his decision . he was very understanding and if he does see his freinds now he limits himself to 1-2 drinks and makes sure he dosnt come home at an unreasonable time im sorry i dont even know your oh and i want to give him a slap upside the head good luck sweety i have the greatest simpathy for you x x x
..but if I were you I would just act like your totally fine with it right now and then the morning of it just act like your extremely tired and in alot of pain and there is no way you can go lol terrible I know but at this stage its just too hard.
I agree, that's what I'd do too!
I'd be annoyed if my OH went out drinking so close to my due date, he's being selfish if he can't go without drinking for a week or two after you've had to go without for 9 months! If he did go though, I'd insist he checked his phone v regularly just in case anything happened and you needed to contact him, plus I wouldn't want him getting too drunk.
Personally would be telling him he isnt going out with his mate drinking. I never ever tell my OH what he can or cant do but at 39 weeks pregnant that is just downright selfish and stupid of him to even consider going out on a bender with his buddies. In this instance I would be breaking traditional and putting my foot down.x
Um..yeah. That shit wouldn't fly in my house. No way in hell would my husband be going out drinking especially that far away. Hell he wouldn't even suggest such a thing...At this point he is upset if he has to stay even 5 minutes longer at work than normal and his work is just down the street literally! He needs to grow up and get with the program!
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