Not afraid of the pain of labor, just afraid of the unknown?

Nicoletta89 · Mar 18th, 2012, 11:47 AM

Is anyone else the same? Especially FTMs?

I know labor is gonna hurt, everyone knows that. And yeah, I am a little bit afraid about that part. But mostly i'm afraid about all the unknowns to do with giving birth. When is labor gonna start for me? How long is it gonna take? Will I need pain relief/what kind will work best on me? Am I gonna make it to hospital in time to have her delivered or is she gonna take forever to come? Are there gonna be complications? Will I need an emergency C-section?

Giving birth is probably one of the most uncontrolable medical procedures (lol) i'll have had happen to me. Theres just no telling how your birth is gonna go and that scares the crap out of me. I'm not even bothering having a birth plan for this very reason!

BunNtheOven · Mar 18th, 2012, 11:48 AM

Very much soo

i'm the same way you are!

littlemamana · Mar 18th, 2012, 11:52 AM

Oh yeah, definitely. It's very scary because every birth is different. The doctors aren't even prepared for how YOURS, in particular, will go. Everything will have to change and adjust according to how your body works during it and how your baby reacts, etc. It is quite terrifying to think about.
I'm starting my birthing class on Tuesday and I'm hoping that that will put some of my fears to rest. However, it's one of those things that you can't really prepare for until you're in the moment. So, I'm like you, I'm not setting up a birthing plan or anything. I will have some notes marked down like: Baby is not to leave the room without a family member with them and those kinds of things.

HopingFor2v1 · Mar 18th, 2012, 12:00 PM

Yeah, I'm the same way! DH says I worry about everything, and well, I guess I kinda do.

I've been getting really anxious about the whole L&D experience, and it's been made even worse since we've taken birthing classes. I know it sounds silly, but I wanted to walk in blind (obviously, I know what happens in the process

, but I didn't want to know every last detail about what could go on) and not have any expectations at all about the delivery. And when I try to voice my concerns, everyone is like "oh, you'll be fine" or "well, it's too late to turn back now"

...so I just keep them to myself.

Amber4 · Mar 18th, 2012, 12:07 PM

Yes! I'm getting induced tomorrow and just know it will hurt lol. I wish I knew how long it would take, how I will cope, what pain relief I'll need, how long I'll be in. I'm worrying but I'm sure it won' be as bad once it happens. I always worry about things but after I'm like "Actually that wasn't bad" We'll all have our LO to make us feel better after too

mrsbailey8 · Mar 18th, 2012, 12:13 PM

I'm the same way...I'm terrified lol I'm not so much worried about the pain either...I'm more worried about how I will cope with the pain, how long I will be in labor, if I'll need an emergency c section, etc. it'sdefinitely scary not knowing what will happen, when it will happen, or how it will happen!

magicteapot · Mar 18th, 2012, 13:23 PM

I'm afraid of being out of control, and also using a taxi to get to hospital! I have a bit of a travel phobia eepers! xx

OriginalDoll · Mar 18th, 2012, 13:45 PM

I know it'll hurt! I am just scared of a large being coming out of a small area. That is what scares me. And will I tear or will it ever be the same down there.

BunNtheOven · Mar 18th, 2012, 13:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Amber4

Yes! I'm getting induced tomorrow and just know it will hurt lol. I wish I knew how long it would take, how I will cope, what pain relief I'll need, how long I'll be in. I'm worrying but I'm sure it won' be as bad once it happens. I always worry about things but after I'm like "Actually that wasn't bad" We'll all have our LO to make us feel better after too

eh. I'm getting induced tomorrow too. What time do you have to go in?

hahaha we should bet who will go be in labor the longestt. hahaha.

sweetpeaxo · Mar 18th, 2012, 13:58 PM

I'm afraid of the pain too, but I think what I'm most afraid of is getting the epidural. I think it's a ridiculously large needle that they use, even getting blood drawn freaks me out. I know once I have complete pain relief I will be just fine. I'm also worried about the whole chaos of getting to the hospital, checking in, getting settled into my room, etc. Oh that and vomiting during labor! Apparently it's common - hoping it doesn't happen to me, I have a wicked phobia of puking. I'm not afraid of tearing or pooing though, I'm sure the Drs have seen it all

Mar 18th, 2012, 11:47 AM	#1
Nicoletta89 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Georgia, USA Posts: 1,091	Not afraid of the pain of labor, just afraid of the unknown? Is anyone else the same? Especially FTMs? I know labor is gonna hurt, everyone knows that. And yeah, I am a little bit afraid about that part. But mostly i'm afraid about all the unknowns to do with giving birth. When is labor gonna start for me? How long is it gonna take? Will I need pain relief/what kind will work best on me? Am I gonna make it to hospital in time to have her delivered or is she gonna take forever to come? Are there gonna be complications? Will I need an emergency C-section? Giving birth is probably one of the most uncontrolable medical procedures (lol) i'll have had happen to me. Theres just no telling how your birth is gonna go and that scares the crap out of me. I'm not even bothering having a birth plan for this very reason!

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Mar 18th, 2012, 11:48 AM	#2
BunNtheOven Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: US Posts: 1,287	Very much soo i'm the same way you are!

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Mar 18th, 2012, 11:52 AM	#3
littlemamana Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Somewhere Over The Rainbow Posts: 1,732	Oh yeah, definitely. It's very scary because every birth is different. The doctors aren't even prepared for how YOURS, in particular, will go. Everything will have to change and adjust according to how your body works during it and how your baby reacts, etc. It is quite terrifying to think about. I'm starting my birthing class on Tuesday and I'm hoping that that will put some of my fears to rest. However, it's one of those things that you can't really prepare for until you're in the moment. So, I'm like you, I'm not setting up a birthing plan or anything. I will have some notes marked down like: Baby is not to leave the room without a family member with them and those kinds of things.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 12:00 PM	#4
HopingFor2v1 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: US Posts: 452	Yeah, I'm the same way! DH says I worry about everything, and well, I guess I kinda do. I've been getting really anxious about the whole L&D experience, and it's been made even worse since we've taken birthing classes. I know it sounds silly, but I wanted to walk in blind (obviously, I know what happens in the process , but I didn't want to know every last detail about what could go on) and not have any expectations at all about the delivery. And when I try to voice my concerns, everyone is like "oh, you'll be fine" or "well, it's too late to turn back now"...so I just keep them to myself.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 12:07 PM	#5
Amber4 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 5,721	Yes! I'm getting induced tomorrow and just know it will hurt lol. I wish I knew how long it would take, how I will cope, what pain relief I'll need, how long I'll be in. I'm worrying but I'm sure it won' be as bad once it happens. I always worry about things but after I'm like "Actually that wasn't bad" We'll all have our LO to make us feel better after too

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Mar 18th, 2012, 12:13 PM	#6
mrsbailey8 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: US Posts: 578	I'm the same way...I'm terrified lol I'm not so much worried about the pain either...I'm more worried about how I will cope with the pain, how long I will be in labor, if I'll need an emergency c section, etc. it'sdefinitely scary not knowing what will happen, when it will happen, or how it will happen!

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Mar 18th, 2012, 13:23 PM	#7
magicteapot Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 560	I'm afraid of being out of control, and also using a taxi to get to hospital! I have a bit of a travel phobia eepers! xx

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Mar 18th, 2012, 13:45 PM	#8
OriginalDoll Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Illinois Posts: 899	I know it'll hurt! I am just scared of a large being coming out of a small area. That is what scares me. And will I tear or will it ever be the same down there.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 13:58 PM	#10
sweetpeaxo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 1,725	I'm afraid of the pain too, but I think what I'm most afraid of is getting the epidural. I think it's a ridiculously large needle that they use, even getting blood drawn freaks me out. I know once I have complete pain relief I will be just fine. I'm also worried about the whole chaos of getting to the hospital, checking in, getting settled into my room, etc. Oh that and vomiting during labor! Apparently it's common - hoping it doesn't happen to me, I have a wicked phobia of puking. I'm not afraid of tearing or pooing though, I'm sure the Drs have seen it all

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