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Old Mar 23rd, 2012, 19:53 PM   11
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If all else fails, I suppose I can let her have her shower for DHs family. Then, I can have mine for my family, just not tell her
Actually I think you're onto something! My mom hosted my shower last weekend and it was lovely, very small group and low key, tasteful. My MIL is throwing me one next weekend (at her request, just one would've been plenty for me), and I'm positive there will be some aspects I'm not thrilled with, but I just gave her the reigns. At a restaurant with her food choices, probably be 40-50 ppl there (helloo circus!), silly embarrassing games, opening gifts to take forever.....sometimes though, we just gotta bite the bullet



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2012, 20:06 PM   12
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My mom is planning my shower, and Ive let her take most of the control. She knows me well, and the few things I dont like (like the fact that she invited 70+ people ) I just go with.

But if your stepdaughters tastes are so out of whack with yours that you arent even going to enjoy a party that was supposed to be planned for YOU, she's doing it wrong. Its one thing to have some elements of a shower that you think are silly or not your style, but it shouldnt go so far as to make you dread attending.

In my opinion, the point of a shower is to celebrate you and your new baby, and to make a new mom feel special and supported. I hope you can get it sorted out.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2012, 20:54 PM   13
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You should have a say. I picked out my own cake and food.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2012, 21:54 PM   14
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Well I just spent over an hour talking to DH about it. I explained what she wanted to do. His first response was, "that's utterly ridiculous!" LOL So, we decided, he's going to talk to her about backing down on some of the decor. He's going to approach it from a budget standpoint (he's a great diplomat). He's also going to change the date. It doesnt work for us, but that didn't matter when I told her. It's going to be a lot harder to argue with her father than me. I told him that I could live with the rest of it, as most of my family/friends will know it was her style, not mine.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2012, 23:02 PM   15
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Old Mar 24th, 2012, 08:01 AM   16
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I'd think you'd get some input since you know it's being planned and isn't a surprise.

My moms and sisters (including DH's mom and sister) know how much I hate surprises, so they were careful in how they planned my surprise shower. They worked with DH on some details, and my goddaughter's mom made the cakes in the theme of our nursery. It was well done, and I'm thankful they had DH involved.



 
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