My brothers girlfriend stopped by the other day, and asked us about our 3d ultrasound. We told her about it and my other half was so proud (even though we didn't get great pictures bc she was squished against the placenta and had hands in her face..) he immediately jumped up to grab the pictures. Well she picked them up and said "OMG, your baby looks like she's from a horror film, she's so creepy!" Which I understand that some people don't like the 3d scans but why ask about it just to make a rude comment? She made it clear to mention her being from a horror film/creepy AT LEAST 4 more times in the 10 minute conversation. Then she comes out with "obviously the baby didn't get any of (OH's) good looks huh?". By this point I was FURIOUS but somehow she made it WORSE. She then told me my baby "didn't look fully developed" and that she "only sees 3 fingers" in one of the pictures!! I am so upset I cannot stop crying. Shes always been bold and rude towards my family when my brother isn't around.. I just cannot believe that ANYONE would actually have the nerve to say those things. I wouldn't tell my worst enemy that their baby was an ugly creepy horror film baby who looks undeveloped!! And to make it worse my OH doesn't understand why I'm so upset about it because he says I should "expect rude stupid things to come out of her mouth". (he never lets anything bother him)
I want to say something to my brother about it, but I don't want to start a problem between us, because I love my brother.. And she would either deny the whole thing or turn it around to make it sound like we are somehow just trying to make her look bad or something.. (shes lied about things to make my brother mad at my mom in the past even though she was the one that was mean to my mom) I'm trying to think of some type of comment to make in front of my brother so he can see the rude things she said without her being able to deny it.. Like when the baby is born saying "See you worried me for nothing, shes developed and has all her fingers and toes!"
I'd have turned around and told her "at least my baby will grow out of it, shame you couldn't"
But then I can be a right cow when it comes to stuff like that. for you hun and your OH is right, just ignore her or even better, tell her she's no longer welcome round at yours without your brother there!
By the way, looking at your avatar makes me go all gooey and fluffy inside so either I have a thing for ugly creepy horror film babies who look undeveloped or you have a little cutie growing inside you!
Thanks ladies.. I know I shouldn't let her get to me as she would love nothing more than to know it bothers me. I know my baby is perfect, fully developed and regardless I would love her no matter what. But I haven't been able to sleep and I can't stop crying. My brother deserves better than this cow, my child certainly has done nothing to deserve this, and Id like to think I deserve better than to be disrespected by someone I have welcomed into my home!
Omg!! What a complete cow! I would've definitely given her a mouthful of unkind words! So sorry she upset you like that ):
Has your brother been with her for very long? Definitely tell him how you feel about her and how rude she is (especially since it's towards his neice!) He may not break up with her, but he could maybe sit down and talk with her to stop being so unkind. Assumingly your brother would believe that his girlfriend can be that horrible. |:
Either way though, for all the mean things she said about your LO, I wouldn't give her the time of day with your little girl. Don't let her hold your LO and ignore her presence as much as you can x
He has been with her about 2.5-3 years. She is terrible. She is always saying rude things and being disrespectful, so I really shouldnt have expected anything more from her I guess. I have told her when shes been rude in the past, but for some reason she puts on this fake act when my brother is around, still says rude things, but not nearly to the extent she does when hes not around. So I don't think he understands or wants to believe how bad she really can be.. It's different when shes being rude or disrespectful to other adults who can defend themselves (Shes always making comments about my parents and brothers) but to pick on my defenseless unborn child is just NOT going to fly with this mama.
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