MIL you are NOT making my SON watch princess movies! ARGHH - Page 2

immie · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:18 AM

Sorry if i've come across as really mean like i'd deprive my child of watching what he wants, that's not it at all. It's more the fact that i just wanted to argue back with MIL as no matter what the subject, in this case it's disney princesses, she thinks she can go against everything i want and make up her own rules which really is infuriating. It's more about showing her who is in charge and who makes the rules - me, not her. My real issue is her, not princesses lol xxx

Lollipopbop · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:27 AM

I think it's sweet that your MIL is thinking ahead about spending time with your LO and sharing something she enjoys. It's age appropriate and everything, she probably could of worded it different and not said she'd do it anyway but I don't see the problem. xoxo

littlemamana · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:32 AM

I think you overreacted a bit.. Sorry.

Zemlianika · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:37 AM

Wow. Your MIL sounds ignorant! I changed my mind about not showing Michael girly movies and explaining to him about girly stuff.. For one reason. My mil almost turned him against girls! He started being disrespectful to all girls, not only in the family but in the neighborhood and schools, and it was only because each time he would want to play with his cousin Susan's pink laptop, mil would tell him that's it's a girl's toy and he shouldn't play with it. And the boys on my husband's side of the family have been turned against girls, and they've been corrupting my son's mind all these years while I was trying to understand where he was getting all these horrible ideas saying things like, girls are stupid, boys run faster, just about anything against girls, weather it's true or not! He's about to have a little sister, and I'm more than happy to announce that I had fixed the boy/girl issue! My suggestion is, teach equality to avoid this problem!! Trust me, it's pretty bad!

Cordelia07 · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:42 AM

the bit about the actual films he watches wouldnt bother me but do think that they way she behaved totally wrong!!

its your baby and she should respect your wishes as to how you want him to be raised, she does not get a say in the raising of your child that is between you and your OH.

happynewmom1 · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:47 AM

Well...I don't really think you overreacted. I don't know your MIL so I can't determine that. My MIL can be really sweet sometimes but other times just has her own way of wanting to do things and lets me know she is going to do it that way and it does upset me. Anybody who wants to watch my children without me being around will have to go by what I say no matter if it seems dumb at the time or not. Whether or not your little boy watches princess movies with her might not be as important as what they feed him or if they stick to his sleeping schedule, but if it is something that it is important to you, as the baby's mother, then she should go with it without question.

On another note, she may have said what she did to try to get you wound up, but even that seems a little mean seeing as you are pregnant trying to make good decisions for your LO and don't need her being difficult about it. But that is just my opinion. It can be difficult dealing with my in-laws when it comes to my son sometimes! GL!

moomin_troll · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:50 AM

I'd be telling my oh to have words with his mum about her breaking ur rules comment if he wants his mum near ur lo now. she can't talk like that to u, and I no when u have problems with someone it's the small things that tip u over the edge
My mil is a prick n ignores everything I say so she's now banned from talking to me n seeing my boys.

deafgal · Apr 1st, 2012, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by immie

Sorry if i've come across as really mean like i'd deprive my child of watching what he wants, that's not it at all. It's more the fact that i just wanted to argue back with MIL as no matter what the subject, in this case it's disney princesses, she thinks she can go against everything i want and make up her own rules which really is infuriating. It's more about showing her who is in charge and who makes the rules - me, not her. My real issue is her, not princesses lol xxx

I can understand. She was trying to provoke you and get you upset. If she plan on "FORCING" on your kids (like force them to play barbies or watch princess movies) then you should keep your kids far away from her. Rather she is doing it to piss you off or she truly want a girl. it is really a sick thing to do.

but don't keep them away from girly stuffs because he is a boy, the PP is right, doing so would just make your son anti-female and probably end up being disrespectful.

nautegesocks · Apr 1st, 2012, 13:56 PM

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Originally Posted by immie

Sorry if i've come across as really mean like i'd deprive my child of watching what he wants, that's not it at all. It's more the fact that i just wanted to argue back with MIL as no matter what the subject, in this case it's disney princesses, she thinks she can go against everything i want and make up her own rules which really is infuriating. It's more about showing her who is in charge and who makes the rules - me, not her. My real issue is her, not princesses lol xxx

it dosnt matter how small an issue is weather princesses or anything else she should not be disregarding your prefrences i think like my MIL she has a warped veiw of whats actualy going to happen when you have YOUR baby just dont let her overstep her boundries and make sure you say if your not happy with something use your voice and stand up for yourself she will soon see its not upto her to chose how your baby is raised and maby back off a little

punk_pig · Apr 1st, 2012, 14:03 PM

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Originally Posted by nautegesocks

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Originally Posted by immie

Sorry if i've come across as really mean like i'd deprive my child of watching what he wants, that's not it at all. It's more the fact that i just wanted to argue back with MIL as no matter what the subject, in this case it's disney princesses, she thinks she can go against everything i want and make up her own rules which really is infuriating. It's more about showing her who is in charge and who makes the rules - me, not her. My real issue is her, not princesses lol xxx

it dosnt matter how small an issue is weather princesses or anything else she should not be disregarding your prefrences i think like my MIL she has a warped veiw of whats actualy going to happen when you have YOUR baby just dont let her overstep her boundries and make sure you say if your not happy with something use your voice and stand up for yourself she will soon see its not upto her to chose how your baby is raised and maby back off a little

How many rules are you going to have exactly? Yes you don't want her feeding him solids at three weeks old, or humiliating him for wetting his bed etc etc. but when you leave them alone together they are building a relationship that is about the two of them. It is important that she shows him what she likes to do, it is part of who she is - if he doesn't like the movies he'll let her know and she'll HAVE to do something he likes better or have a crying child!! But are you seriously going to hand her a list of "allowed" activities and conversation topics...I think that is a bit crazy...

Apr 1st, 2012, 08:18 AM	#11
immie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Warwickshire, UK Posts: 642	Sorry if i've come across as really mean like i'd deprive my child of watching what he wants, that's not it at all. It's more the fact that i just wanted to argue back with MIL as no matter what the subject, in this case it's disney princesses, she thinks she can go against everything i want and make up her own rules which really is infuriating. It's more about showing her who is in charge and who makes the rules - me, not her. My real issue is her, not princesses lol xxx

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Apr 1st, 2012, 08:27 AM	#12
Lollipopbop Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: East Sussex Posts: 2,916	I think it's sweet that your MIL is thinking ahead about spending time with your LO and sharing something she enjoys. It's age appropriate and everything, she probably could of worded it different and not said she'd do it anyway but I don't see the problem. xoxo

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Apr 1st, 2012, 08:32 AM	#13
littlemamana Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Somewhere Over The Rainbow Posts: 1,732	I think you overreacted a bit.. Sorry.

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Zemlianika Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 154	Wow. Your MIL sounds ignorant! I changed my mind about not showing Michael girly movies and explaining to him about girly stuff.. For one reason. My mil almost turned him against girls! He started being disrespectful to all girls, not only in the family but in the neighborhood and schools, and it was only because each time he would want to play with his cousin Susan's pink laptop, mil would tell him that's it's a girl's toy and he shouldn't play with it. And the boys on my husband's side of the family have been turned against girls, and they've been corrupting my son's mind all these years while I was trying to understand where he was getting all these horrible ideas saying things like, girls are stupid, boys run faster, just about anything against girls, weather it's true or not! He's about to have a little sister, and I'm more than happy to announce that I had fixed the boy/girl issue! My suggestion is, teach equality to avoid this problem!! Trust me, it's pretty bad!

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Apr 1st, 2012, 08:42 AM	#15
Cordelia07 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ellon, Aberdeenshire Posts: 325	the bit about the actual films he watches wouldnt bother me but do think that they way she behaved totally wrong!! its your baby and she should respect your wishes as to how you want him to be raised, she does not get a say in the raising of your child that is between you and your OH.

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Apr 1st, 2012, 08:47 AM	#16
happynewmom1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: North Carolina, USA Posts: 886	Well...I don't really think you overreacted. I don't know your MIL so I can't determine that. My MIL can be really sweet sometimes but other times just has her own way of wanting to do things and lets me know she is going to do it that way and it does upset me. Anybody who wants to watch my children without me being around will have to go by what I say no matter if it seems dumb at the time or not. Whether or not your little boy watches princess movies with her might not be as important as what they feed him or if they stick to his sleeping schedule, but if it is something that it is important to you, as the baby's mother, then she should go with it without question. On another note, she may have said what she did to try to get you wound up, but even that seems a little mean seeing as you are pregnant trying to make good decisions for your LO and don't need her being difficult about it. But that is just my opinion. It can be difficult dealing with my in-laws when it comes to my son sometimes! GL!

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Apr 1st, 2012, 08:50 AM	#17
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 15,872	I'd be telling my oh to have words with his mum about her breaking ur rules comment if he wants his mum near ur lo now. she can't talk like that to u, and I no when u have problems with someone it's the small things that tip u over the edge My mil is a prick n ignores everything I say so she's now banned from talking to me n seeing my boys.

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