I am the forgotten one... Feel really hurt today

SuzyW · Apr 4th, 2012, 05:37 AM

I'm probably just being hormonal and feeling sorry for myself... But, I'm having a bit of a weepy hour. OH has taken the day off work and gone out for his best mate's birthday with a load of our male and female friends. I wasn't even invited, and I find it really hurtful that I just seem to be forgotten from social occasions lately because I'm pregnant!

They have gone go-karting (which obviously I can't do at the moment) but I could have watched and then gone to the lunch with them. Just hate that I seem to be invisible. OH obviously mentioned my upset to his BF's girlfriend who called me up 10 mins ago to invite me.... Like I need reminding that I'm an after-thought!

This has upset me even more.

Anyway, just needed to vent with people who may understand... Gonna pig out on chocolate now and think 'fuck 'em' xx

Banshee · Apr 4th, 2012, 05:42 AM

I can't believe they didn't even invite you! How rude! Enjoy the chocolate :-)

broodybelle · Apr 4th, 2012, 05:44 AM

That's rubbish. Definitely eat lots of chocolate and pamper yourself (as if it's possible to reach any of the areas that require 'pampering'!

x

michellle1980 · Apr 4th, 2012, 05:45 AM

Definitely very rude. I would have been annoyed if my oh went without me tho

jo14 · Apr 4th, 2012, 05:54 AM

I think that is really rude to, no harm in asking you to come along, just becasue you are pg does not mean you can't go out, I would also be annoyed with OH going without me when I had not been invited. If it was an all lads thing then fair enough but if other partners are going as well, some people seem to think pg ladies just have to sit at home for 9 months

Irish Eyes · Apr 4th, 2012, 05:58 AM

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Originally Posted by jo14

I think that is really rude to, no harm in asking you to come along, just becasue you are pg does not mean you can't go out, I would also be annoyed with OH going without me when I had not been invited. If it was an all lads thing then fair enough but if other partners are going as well, some people seem to think pg ladies just have to sit at home for 9 months

I agree completely with all this! I would have been really annoyed in my OH had gone without me as well.

mummy2b2010 · Apr 4th, 2012, 06:03 AM

Thats awful

for a friend of my husbands 2 years ago they all went go karting and everyone an there partners were invited...even a pregnant friend was invited and she just didnt come to the carting but she came to the meal afterwards...it wasnt even a hesitation to invite her...hugs hunnie and i hope the chocolate helps a bit

xxx

SuzyW · Apr 4th, 2012, 06:07 AM

I can't really be annoyed with him for going because it's his best friend since they were babies, but what does piss me off is he only seemed to realise it was wrong that I hadn't been invited when I mentioned it, as have our friends. It seems they just ASSUME I can't /won't go!

I tell you what, I am soooo gonna get my own back once baby is born. He can sit home with the baby while I enjoy a day out, or even go out for a boogie. I will not be quick to forget that I was left home nurturing our unborn child and I won't let him forget it either

USAFKnineWife · Apr 4th, 2012, 06:11 AM

I am so sorry! That is not right! If anything I would be hurt by OH more so than the friends because wouldn't he have thought to ask you along? I don't get it. When I was pregnant I was still invited along if even to be the "driver" for the drinkers. I swear people are so insensitive.

albs · Apr 4th, 2012, 06:13 AM

i can totally understand! dh has been working super super hard recently, and there's a weekend away to celebrate the end of 2 months of long hours. partners are invited, but even dh said he thought it would be better if i didn't go as it will be lots of fourwheel driving, fishing and drinking. he's right, but it still sucks.
also my girlfriends are going away for the easter holidays and again i didn't get invited. i mean who would want to go away with someone who sleeps all the time and can't drink or do anything particularly energetic.
i just feel really left out all the time at the mo, and worried that it will just carry on once the baby's here...
i hope you did something fun whilst oh was out partying!

Apr 4th, 2012, 05:37 AM	#1
SuzyW Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: London, UK Posts: 267	I am the forgotten one... Feel really hurt today I'm probably just being hormonal and feeling sorry for myself... But, I'm having a bit of a weepy hour. OH has taken the day off work and gone out for his best mate's birthday with a load of our male and female friends. I wasn't even invited, and I find it really hurtful that I just seem to be forgotten from social occasions lately because I'm pregnant! They have gone go-karting (which obviously I can't do at the moment) but I could have watched and then gone to the lunch with them. Just hate that I seem to be invisible. OH obviously mentioned my upset to his BF's girlfriend who called me up 10 mins ago to invite me.... Like I need reminding that I'm an after-thought! This has upset me even more. Anyway, just needed to vent with people who may understand... Gonna pig out on chocolate now and think 'fuck 'em' xx

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Apr 4th, 2012, 05:42 AM	#2
Banshee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: England Posts: 1,532	I can't believe they didn't even invite you! How rude! Enjoy the chocolate :-)

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Apr 4th, 2012, 05:44 AM	#3
broodybelle Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Cheshire, UK Posts: 589	That's rubbish. Definitely eat lots of chocolate and pamper yourself (as if it's possible to reach any of the areas that require 'pampering'! x

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Apr 4th, 2012, 05:45 AM	#4
michellle1980 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Devon Posts: 973	Definitely very rude. I would have been annoyed if my oh went without me tho

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Apr 4th, 2012, 05:54 AM	#5
jo14 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Lancashire, UK Posts: 1,682	I think that is really rude to, no harm in asking you to come along, just becasue you are pg does not mean you can't go out, I would also be annoyed with OH going without me when I had not been invited. If it was an all lads thing then fair enough but if other partners are going as well, some people seem to think pg ladies just have to sit at home for 9 months

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Apr 4th, 2012, 06:03 AM	#7
mummy2b2010 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Somerset Posts: 2,382	Thats awful for a friend of my husbands 2 years ago they all went go karting and everyone an there partners were invited...even a pregnant friend was invited and she just didnt come to the carting but she came to the meal afterwards...it wasnt even a hesitation to invite her...hugs hunnie and i hope the chocolate helps a bit xxx

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Apr 4th, 2012, 06:07 AM	#8
SuzyW Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: London, UK Posts: 267	I can't really be annoyed with him for going because it's his best friend since they were babies, but what does piss me off is he only seemed to realise it was wrong that I hadn't been invited when I mentioned it, as have our friends. It seems they just ASSUME I can't /won't go! I tell you what, I am soooo gonna get my own back once baby is born. He can sit home with the baby while I enjoy a day out, or even go out for a boogie. I will not be quick to forget that I was left home nurturing our unborn child and I won't let him forget it either

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Apr 4th, 2012, 06:11 AM	#9
USAFKnineWife Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Tennessee Posts: 3,356	I am so sorry! That is not right! If anything I would be hurt by OH more so than the friends because wouldn't he have thought to ask you along? I don't get it. When I was pregnant I was still invited along if even to be the "driver" for the drinkers. I swear people are so insensitive.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 06:13 AM	#10
albs Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Country Western Australia (middle of nowhere!) Posts: 1,460	i can totally understand! dh has been working super super hard recently, and there's a weekend away to celebrate the end of 2 months of long hours. partners are invited, but even dh said he thought it would be better if i didn't go as it will be lots of fourwheel driving, fishing and drinking. he's right, but it still sucks. also my girlfriends are going away for the easter holidays and again i didn't get invited. i mean who would want to go away with someone who sleeps all the time and can't drink or do anything particularly energetic. i just feel really left out all the time at the mo, and worried that it will just carry on once the baby's here... i hope you did something fun whilst oh was out partying!

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