Oh you poor thing. I would feel exactly the same!

I've already laid down the law with my OH. I know his family are going to want to bang down the door of the hospital and then our house as soon as baby arrives - so I've already told him how its going to be.

I don't want any family at the hospital, just him and me for the labour/birth. I'm hoping to not have a long stay in the hospital, so I've also said no one to our house for the first couple of days while we settle in with our new bundle. After that, a call to let us know they are coming would be nice.

Don't get me wrong, I know everyone is going to be dying to see her and that's fair enough. I'm not unreasonable, I'm a FTM and want to be able to have a few days adjusting to motherhood before they all descend and want to snatch her out of my arms!

You know what hun, it might not feel like it, but you actually hold most of the cards here.

There should be no need to say you aren't well. Fact is, you're due a baby and last thing you are doing is playing hostess to ANYONE.

Time to put your foot down now, it seems she hasn't got the hint before.

My 2 cents - I would *not* be having a sleepover with MIL near the due date. Gotta set those boundaries.

Amen!

Why is it that the guys always end up making the wrong decisions at the right time and the right decisions at the wrong time.

It sounds like your OH does need to know he cannot think what he is doing is acceptable..it is not acceptable by any standards... and this is meant to be a special time. Getting help from mothers and MILs is one thing but what is happening with you is just interference and imposing...

I don't blame you, you deserve your space! We have a 4 bedroom house and I still would not want that situation.

Wow I am absolutely flabbergasted that anyone (MIL, brothers, OH) would think this was in any way a "good idea" -- Sure it started out "okay" with the idea of coming over to help prepare Easter Dinner... but then it all went downhill so quickly from there!

Spending the night? Sharing a bed? Inviting girlfriends who flirt with the relatives of the person they're there with? WTF?

I'm 100% with the other posters who have said they'd be getting themselves a hotel. That would be what I would do, and I'd be FURIOUS because I want my due date and around my due date to be a special time with me and my OH... and if he was acting like that then I'd have to not let him know I was getting a hotel with one of my girlfriends (someone to drive me to hospital if need be)

Or, better yet if family is all going to be out of town I'd be phoning up to beg them to let me house-sit so that I could save the money of the hotel. Hubby would never think to look for me there because why would I go there when they're all out of town? Would be more comfortable than a hotel room too

I can't believe your OH said your MIL could share your bed! I get on fine with my MIL but there's no way in hell I'd ever share a bed with her when not pregnant, never mind pregnant, and definitely not on my due date!
If she really has to stay at yours, can't she bring a camp bed and stay in the living room or something? Or you said the 3rd brother won't be staying - can they all stay at his house maybe?

Mil are such cows mine is a stupid fake caring cow at that. She does not give a shit about me and only cares for my husband. She won't even notice if I was passed out on the floor let alone on labour!

You should just tell your husband straight that your not happy about this. He will get mad but the truth is that you don't want them there. End off. It's your due date and to be honest not a lot of babies come on their due date and ontop of they you need to sleep with your MIL lol I love how men think their mums are simply saints its so ergh!!

I'm being abit hormonal and sound like a MIL hater but I'm just telling you how I'd feel.

If baby does not come on your due date your husband will probably be pissed off that his mum etc couldn't come for no reason. You need to explain the situation and how you feel to your husband and if he understands great if not well there is either a big argument in the way or you have to accept it. I'm just being honest and looking st it from my point of view.

You have every right to be upset. I mean I understand it's Easter, have a meal! But it's your due date! It's a special time for you and your Husband and the MIL should respect that and not stay over and bring the whole Family!

Talk with your Husband about this, it's not right. Especially suggesting you share a room with her!