MIL wants to stay the night the day im due? UPDATE PG. 8 - Page 6

mrsbailey8 · Apr 5th, 2012, 07:31 AM

Sooo, i talked to my husband and he said that he understands and will tell them not to come...but then proceeds to tell me how angry they are all going to be with me (like i care!)....so after this conversation i over hear him on the phone this morning with his mom and brother saying that everything is still on for this weekend?!?! He is seriously getting kicked in his baby making parts as soon as he walks back in here...im so done with this crap!

admiral765 · Apr 5th, 2012, 07:38 AM

omg! he is not taking you seriously hun! I can't think what else to suggest other than is there any way he can go to his mums so you don't have to put up with this?! I'm guessing he isn't in your good books now anyway and a break from him too may do you good and maybe make him realise that he is being an arse and that you won't be walked over! xx

ClaudiasMummy · Apr 5th, 2012, 07:49 AM

Ouch! You'd think he'd be understanding! I am sorry he's not understanding you.

mrsbailey8 · Apr 5th, 2012, 07:53 AM

He just once again says he "doesnt understand what the big deal is"...

blamesydney · Apr 5th, 2012, 08:05 AM

Tell him that maybe he'll understand while you're staying at a hotel. If you don't put your foot down now, he'll never stop taking advantage like this.

ifoundmysoul · Apr 5th, 2012, 08:09 AM

tell him to come read this thread!!!!

omg! id send him to them an if he misses the birth thats his tuff luck and sumert he will never get back!

judge12 · Apr 5th, 2012, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by mrsbailey8

He just once again says he "doesnt understand what the big deal is"...

I am sorry he is treating you this way. This is the birth of your child and it is very sad he does not care about how you feel.

If my oh was doing this too me and I gave birth when they were there I would never be able to forgive him for it.

Sew_Sweet · Apr 5th, 2012, 09:46 AM

So sorry. Clearly he doesn't understand - but really - he doesn't have to understand. All you are asking is for him to respect your wishes - which he isn't.

I say if they are coming - ok fine - but draw the line at sharing a bed with your MIL (I mean seriously what???) and make sure it is CRYSTAL CLEAR to everyone you are not on maid and hostess duty. If your husband wants to host all of these people at your house while you are 9 months pregnant - that's super. Hope he knows how to cook a delicious Easter meal and how to clean up after all of HIS guests. I think I'd make that clear too...

So there's your compromise hon. I can understand him wanting his family there but he's going to have to work with you a little - or a lot I should say. Don't let it ruin the weekend but make sure he knows this is totally his show now -

xSin · Apr 5th, 2012, 13:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Sew_Sweet

So sorry. Clearly he doesn't understand - but really - he doesn't have to understand. All you are asking is for him to respect your wishes - which he isn't.

^^^ Bingo.

I'd be heading to a relatives or to a hotel with a friend ASAP if it were me and by this point I probably wouldn't even tell him if it were me in your shoes otherwise they'll all show up there too!

And when you go into labour it isn't up to him to "understand" -- He's a man, they can never fully understand what its like... but the day isn't about him, it isn't about his family, it SURE as heck isn't about his MIL... its about you, your comfort and your needs. If he can't respect that then he shouldn't be a part of the birthing process IMO. (Sorry if that sounds harsh)

HopingFor2v1 · Apr 5th, 2012, 13:22 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsbailey8

He just once again says he "doesnt understand what the big deal is"...

Ohhh dear, you must be livid!

I guess he won't understand what the big deal is either when you pack up your things and go stay somewhere else. I mean, how selfish of you to want some peace and quiet on/around your due date?!?

I'm not sure where you are in the US, but you can come stay with us. I'll crank up the foot massager and make some faux-garitas

Seriously though, I wish your DH would be more understanding. He really needs to see that he is allowing his family to impose on you and thats NOT alright. And, if he doesn't....tell him he won't be allowed in the delivery room until he apologizes (just kidding

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Best of luck hun!

Apr 5th, 2012, 07:31 AM	#51
mrsbailey8 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: US Posts: 578	Sooo, i talked to my husband and he said that he understands and will tell them not to come...but then proceeds to tell me how angry they are all going to be with me (like i care!)....so after this conversation i over hear him on the phone this morning with his mom and brother saying that everything is still on for this weekend?!?! He is seriously getting kicked in his baby making parts as soon as he walks back in here...im so done with this crap!

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admiral765 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Uk Posts: 2,158	omg! he is not taking you seriously hun! I can't think what else to suggest other than is there any way he can go to his mums so you don't have to put up with this?! I'm guessing he isn't in your good books now anyway and a break from him too may do you good and maybe make him realise that he is being an arse and that you won't be walked over! xx

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ClaudiasMummy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 1,067	Ouch! You'd think he'd be understanding! I am sorry he's not understanding you.

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mrsbailey8 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: US Posts: 578	He just once again says he "doesnt understand what the big deal is"...

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ifoundmysoul Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Derby Posts: 1,186	tell him to come read this thread!!!! omg! id send him to them an if he misses the birth thats his tuff luck and sumert he will never get back!

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Apr 5th, 2012, 09:46 AM	#58
Sew_Sweet Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: USA Posts: 1,910	So sorry. Clearly he doesn't understand - but really - he doesn't have to understand. All you are asking is for him to respect your wishes - which he isn't. I say if they are coming - ok fine - but draw the line at sharing a bed with your MIL (I mean seriously what???) and make sure it is CRYSTAL CLEAR to everyone you are not on maid and hostess duty. If your husband wants to host all of these people at your house while you are 9 months pregnant - that's super. Hope he knows how to cook a delicious Easter meal and how to clean up after all of HIS guests. I think I'd make that clear too... So there's your compromise hon. I can understand him wanting his family there but he's going to have to work with you a little - or a lot I should say. Don't let it ruin the weekend but make sure he knows this is totally his show now -

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