So i just happen to be due on Easter Sunday....and my MIL decided she was going to come over and cook on that day, which is fine...she also was supposed to be bringing one of my husbands younger brothers (he has 3)...which was also fine. Well i find out yesterday that now she is supposed to be staying the night the whole weekend! Including the night of my due date...and 2 of his younger brothers are staying with her as well. So thar kind of upset me because my husband told her she could sleep in our bedroom with me, and that he would sleepin the living room with his two younger brothers....uhm what the hell?!

Then i find out she also invited my husbands 3rd brother...and his girlfriend (who i have met once and she was flirting with my husband the entire time) and she also invited his girlfriends 14 year old daughter (who i have never met)...

Ok...now those three wouldnt be staying the night and i understand its Easter, but its still my due date...and its still our house...im definitely not comfortable having a woman and her daughter there who i barely know...especially when the woman was flirting with my husband right in front of me...and i really dont want to go into labor in front of everyone...not to mention we live in a 2 bedroom 1 bath condo and now we are going to have a whole bunch of people crammed in here!

Maybe im over reacting? Im just so upset!

And im also not comfortable having my MIL and my husbands two brothers stay the night...especially the night of my due date...and i dont want to sleep with my MIL...i dont want a big "scene" when i go into labor...

I understand that just because its my due date doesnt mean i will go into labor, but its just the fact, and my hubby thinks im being stupid...

And i KNOW the only reason she is staying the night is because she is hoping i will go into labor while she is there...which frustrates me...

I am actually speechless for once! WTF?! Xx

Oh my goodness lovely. That sounds like a nightmare!

Forgive me if I'm wrong - is this the same MIL that expected you to drive all the way to her when baby was due? She sounds pretty desperate to be there when little one is born if that is the case.

My advice is though that you do need to stop and think about yourself here.... Are you in the condition to play hostess to that many people? Are you in the condition to want to share a bed with you MIL or do you just want your husband with you? Is she expecting to be in the delivery room with you guys? If baby arrives on time are you going to be in the right frame of mind to have so many people round - including people you don't know too well, and people you'd rather not have around?

All of this is causing you alot of stress, and as you said ITS YOUR HOUSE! And ITS YOUR BABY! So you should have the right to say what happens around the time its due. I know I'm sounding ruthless - but you really need to look after yourself. Talk to hubby - tell him how you feel about it all. Maybe just ask MIL to stay just one night and the others to go home after she's cooked?

Plus, be honest? Do you really want her around during your first special moments? What do your parent's think about it?

Thinking of you

Erica x

Yes its the same MIL who wanted us to drive all the way out there...im already stressed out about the whole ordeal...i know im going to panic, i have horrible anxiety, so the whole time they are here im going to be a stressed out nervous wreck! And if i actually do go into labor, i will be freaking out, probably crying and hyperventilating, and i dont want everyone to see that...i just want it to be my husband and i...

Omg really? I don't think your overreacting at all that's so incomsiderate of your husband and his family! Why would you be comfortable with that on a normal day nm on your due date?! Can you not speak to your hubby again as its not fair on you. I'd be putting my foot down if I was you. My MIL said when it gets close to my due date she is going to come over everyday. I said to OH she bloody well isn't I don't want her there when I go into labour. Then both his parents said they will be waiting at the hospital with lots of baby goodies and again I said to OH no way! No one is coming to the hospital until I say as I want the 3 of us to have time together first before we get visitors. No one has had a longer wait that us and I at least want some time with my son before everyone barges in and starts passing him around. Plus I'll need time to clean up etc. I'm lucky in the fact that my OH completely agrees with me and understands. I really feel for you and don't think you should have to deal with everyone on your due date xx

You have to put your foot down hun. The plans have changed without anyone even consulting you about it and I am baffled why your OH doesn't seem to be too concerned or understanding of your feelings.
Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with the plans even if it was no where near my due date! IMO it is way too stressful and just completely out of the question. I don't even want to think about putting myself in your position! I don't know what else to say other than please speak up and don't let this happen! Your husband has to take you seriously! All the best hun xx

So sorry honey.... if thats the way you want it then you need to make that very clear. I even welled up when I read your last sentence. Its not fair that they're putting all this on you. Even if it means a huge explosion of emotions when you try to put your feeling across at least its out in the open and people know exactly where they stand. And once baby is born - all will be forgiven.... trust me. My brother told us his gf had a baby when baby was a week old! He was very nearly disowned.... but as soon as we met baby he was all that mattered and all the angst just magically disappeared! xxx

tell her to shove off!!!

you dont want anyone else there on your due date!! you want it to be a special time for you and your husband.

MIL's they are nothing but trouble!!! so are mothers but thats a whole other rant!! lol

Not a chance would I be agreeing to this and WTF is your hubby telling his mum she can sleep in your bedroom!! I wont let me OH sleep in our bed at the moment let alone his mother!! If I were you I would put my foot down big time and say that noone is staying over and you are not having so many people round at once. Ridiculous! Sorry but your husband needs to get a grip!X