Single moms emotionally prepared for labor? - Page 2

bumphenders · Apr 6th, 2012, 11:07 AM

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I will deffo make sure I raise my little boy a million times better then his 'father' was raised.

That's right. Father in quotes! I actually refer to his "father" as a sperm donor

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I try not to talk about him, but when I do, it's 'sperm donor' 'tosser' 'twat' anything other then 'dad' 'father'.

Abby_ · Apr 6th, 2012, 11:09 AM

I'm a single mumma too!
It's not really bothered me too much up till now. Kinda feel like my LO is missing out, but then realise he really is better off without!
I do get a bit down seeing all the couples together, especially on OBEM and waiting for the midwife, but i guess i'll just have to be twice as strong for my LO and show that i can and will do this!

1st_time_mum · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:17 PM

Im a single mummy too FOB will be involved but tbh not looking forward to having to see him again and sharing my little man

I do get down and sometimes hope it doesnt go too quick because as long as hes in my womb hes with me

Me and FOB really do not get on I did try for babies sake but he just made everything into an argument and constantly stressed me out
Still living at home and my mums been helping me through this, dont know what I would do without her and shes also my birthing partner
I think all my feelings will change when im holding my beautiful baby boy for the first time so trying not to worry too much about things

ZombieQueen · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:13 PM

Single mom here, I get very down thinking about the actual birth.. I want my husband there, he was my world and decided he didn't want me anymore, so I feel extremely overwhelmed at the prospect of being alone.. I'll have my mom there, but its not quite the same.. and my ex can't even be there because I'm living in Hawaii and he's back in Oregon. So I doubt he will even meet his little girl till she's 4-5. I get extremely frustrated thinking about how this isn't the life I wanted, I love my baby, but I feel so hopeless, like I can't do this by myself, the future seems so rough..

stepmummy · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:25 PM

My sister is going it alone with her little girl and I have so much respect and admiration for her - and all of you. But what I've seen from her has been such an eye-opener. Her daughter is 9 months now and they're both doing so well. She has her sad and difficult times but knows without a shadow of a doubt that it's certainly emotionally easier to do it alone than to be let down at every turn by a man who doesn't love her or deserve to be a part of her daughter's life.

Us women have such strenth inside us as soon as we become mothers. I wish all of you the very best xxx

Pinkie88 · Apr 6th, 2012, 16:00 PM

Thanks so much to all of you wonderful and strong ladies! I felt like I was the only one. I still love my husband and my heart isn't even close to healed , especially since I'm carrying our first boy. He doesn't understand why I can't get over it and accept it. Having his baby inside me makes it feel impossible.

good luck to you all!

pinkreality · Apr 6th, 2012, 16:45 PM

Single mommy here too! I wish I could give you a hug and hold your hand through it all because I know EXACTLY how you feel. I too slipped into a horrible depression, I live alone, the babys "father" lives in the same town as I do but no support from him, I actually haven't spoken to him in while. He hasn't seen any of the pictures, he doesn't even really know how far along I am. I worry every day about labor and going into it without anyone and its so scary!!!

But we have no choice but to be strong right?

Much love and even though none of us are physically there we will be here every step until the end with you.

..katie.. · Apr 6th, 2012, 16:59 PM

Me too. I have lots of support from both sides, though. FOB might actually pull his head out and be good, but that remains to be seen.

littlemamana · Apr 6th, 2012, 18:47 PM

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Single mommy here too! I wish I could give you a hug and hold your hand through it all because I know EXACTLY how you feel. I too slipped into a horrible depression, I live alone, the babys "father" lives in the same town as I do but no support from him, I actually haven't spoken to him in while. He hasn't seen any of the pictures, he doesn't even really know how far along I am. I worry every day about labor and going into it without anyone and its so scary!!!

But we have no choice but to be strong right?

Much love and even though none of us are physically there we will be here every step until the end with you.

I'm in kind of the same exact situation... FOB hasn't tried to contact me in MONTHS and he knows my due date is coming up. He's one of the jackasses that pulls the whole, "I want a DNA test" thing though so I dunno what I expected. He doesn't even know that the baby is a boy and hasn't seen any ultrasound photos except for the first one I had at 7 weeks.

Pinkie88 · Apr 6th, 2012, 18:48 PM

You are all lovely ladies and I also wish we could hold eachothers hands through it all! But even communicating this way, through the forum is very supportive

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Abby_ Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Country: Posts: 1,868 Thanked others: 322 Thanked 634 times in 532 posts Currently Feeling:	I'm a single mumma too! It's not really bothered me too much up till now. Kinda feel like my LO is missing out, but then realise he really is better off without! I do get a bit down seeing all the couples together, especially on OBEM and waiting for the midwife, but i guess i'll just have to be twice as strong for my LO and show that i can and will do this! __________________
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1st_time_mum Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Kent Country: Posts: 36 Thanked others: 1 Thanked 2 times in 2 posts Currently Feeling:	Im a single mummy too FOB will be involved but tbh not looking forward to having to see him again and sharing my little man I do get down and sometimes hope it doesnt go too quick because as long as hes in my womb hes with me Me and FOB really do not get on I did try for babies sake but he just made everything into an argument and constantly stressed me out Still living at home and my mums been helping me through this, dont know what I would do without her and shes also my birthing partner I think all my feelings will change when im holding my beautiful baby boy for the first time so trying not to worry too much about things
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ZombieQueen Chat Happy BnB Member Ellowyn's mommy! Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kauai, Hawaii Country: Posts: 2,298 Thanked others: 806 Thanked 855 times in 654 posts Currently Feeling:	Single mom here, I get very down thinking about the actual birth.. I want my husband there, he was my world and decided he didn't want me anymore, so I feel extremely overwhelmed at the prospect of being alone.. I'll have my mom there, but its not quite the same.. and my ex can't even be there because I'm living in Hawaii and he's back in Oregon. So I doubt he will even meet his little girl till she's 4-5. I get extremely frustrated thinking about how this isn't the life I wanted, I love my baby, but I feel so hopeless, like I can't do this by myself, the future seems so rough..
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Apr 6th, 2012, 14:25 PM	#15
stepmummy Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Country: Posts: 1,439 Thanked others: 581 Thanked 658 times in 521 posts	My sister is going it alone with her little girl and I have so much respect and admiration for her - and all of you. But what I've seen from her has been such an eye-opener. Her daughter is 9 months now and they're both doing so well. She has her sad and difficult times but knows without a shadow of a doubt that it's certainly emotionally easier to do it alone than to be let down at every turn by a man who doesn't love her or deserve to be a part of her daughter's life. Us women have such strenth inside us as soon as we become mothers. I wish all of you the very best xxx
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Pinkie88 Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: US Country: Posts: 2,337 Thanked others: 262 Thanked 548 times in 411 posts Currently Feeling:	Thanks so much to all of you wonderful and strong ladies! I felt like I was the only one. I still love my husband and my heart isn't even close to healed , especially since I'm carrying our first boy. He doesn't understand why I can't get over it and accept it. Having his baby inside me makes it feel impossible. good luck to you all!
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pinkreality Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: PA Country: Posts: 230 Thanked others: 199 Thanked 52 times in 38 posts Currently Feeling:	Single mommy here too! I wish I could give you a hug and hold your hand through it all because I know EXACTLY how you feel. I too slipped into a horrible depression, I live alone, the babys "father" lives in the same town as I do but no support from him, I actually haven't spoken to him in while. He hasn't seen any of the pictures, he doesn't even really know how far along I am. I worry every day about labor and going into it without anyone and its so scary!!! But we have no choice but to be strong right? Much love and even though none of us are physically there we will be here every step until the end with you. __________________
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Apr 6th, 2012, 16:59 PM	#18
..katie.. BnB Addict mom!!! Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: SW wy Country: Posts: 3,341 Thanked others: 1,646 Thanked 1,209 times in 756 posts Currently Feeling:	Me too. I have lots of support from both sides, though. FOB might actually pull his head out and be good, but that remains to be seen. __________________
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Apr 6th, 2012, 18:48 PM	#20
Pinkie88 Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: US Country: Posts: 2,337 Thanked others: 262 Thanked 548 times in 411 posts Currently Feeling:	You are all lovely ladies and I also wish we could hold eachothers hands through it all! But even communicating this way, through the forum is very supportive
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