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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:03 PM   #1
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Nothing will shock me after today


So today I as on the bus with my dad and my OH (Aidan was at home with nanna). We had had a great time buying clothes for Oliver and Aidan. When I got on the bus I heard someone sobbing upstairs, I went to get up to see if they were ok and my OH said he would go as he didn't want me getting harmed. They came back down and told the driver that a woman was upstairs in distress; the driver didn't seem too concerned. I decided to see if she was as I felt she may be less intimidated by a female. I have completed a year of nursing and when I saw the state she was in I knew he needed medical attention (I think anyone could have guessed it really). She had stitches in her forehead which has come out which meant she was bleeding, a gash to the side of her head and her jaw looked like it may be broken. She was also VERY drunk and in distress saying she just wanted to go home and that the hospital didn't help her. She got up to get off the bus and staggered and then she said "I'm pregnant" I looked at her stomach and to my horror looking closely I noticed a bump under her coat, she said she was also rhesus negative. As she had had a fall this would mean she wold need an anti-D injection just in case she has a bleed. I asked how far gone she was and she said 26 weeks and it’s a boy. After taking another look at her head it was clear she needed an ambulance even more so now I knew she was pregnant. So my dad rang an ambulance, the bus stopped and said it would wait for assistance to arrive. At this point she became aggressive and starting swearing at the driver and then staggered off the bus. I asked her to stay and wait for the ambulance and she refused so I said that she should do it for her baby if not herself at which pint she said "F**k my baby, I don’t give a f***ing damn about him". She started to cross a main road and fell hard in the middle of the road, hitting her bump and head. I rushed to her side and tried to stop the bleeding on her head and which point she went to push me (OH was in the way in an instant) and swearing. Luckily the ambulance arrived with the police and after handing over to them, telling them what I knew I let them deal with her. I wanted to cry it isn’t the fact she had gone for me but the fact her unborn baby was being put at such risk and the damage she was doing to herself and her baby. Her bags were full of alcohol and she was in a terrible mess. I can honestly say I was very naive and didn't think anyone could get themselves in that state whilst pregnant. As a student nurse we are taught not to judge and even though I was off duty I felt I needed to be professional. But inside I was screaming at her and I wanted to shake her. I do not know her personal circumstances but I just hope she gets the help she needs for her sake but more so the babies.


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:08 PM   #2
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Oh my god that is just too sad for words I know how you feel though and have no idea how some one could take so little care of themselves at 26 weeks pregnant Really really sad

I am so glad you helped her though hon Let's hope when she sobers up that she realises this is the time to start thinking about her baby


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:10 PM   #3
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Aww hunnie that sounds awful...u did the right thing trying to help her and i too hope she gets the help she needs because she clearly needs alot of help...hugs to u xxx


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:10 PM   #4
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Sorry you had to witness that....

Drunk people who are in bad situations are often the worst to deal with; I remember stopping once to help a lady who was just laying half in the street half on the sidewalk (literally my tire could've gone over her head SO easily if I hadn't seen her, it was frightening!) and instead of being grateful that people were trying to help her out she got angry and aggressive to the point that the cops took her to the drunk tank in the end once the paramedics had glanced at her.


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:12 PM   #5
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well how can you not judge? sorry but i hope they will take her baby, she def. does not care about him!

who knows why she kept him or how she had him. another reason why i am pro choice! do not force people to have a child if they really dont want it.

i am so sorry for you to have to go through this! it is insane! you are awesome for helping her. getting her into the hospital and i hope social services will be called also and she gets the help she needs!


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:14 PM   #6
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that is so sad, I am glad you were there to help her xx


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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:42 PM   #7
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That's too sad for words. I credit you for trying to help. Big hugs.


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:44 PM   #8
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glad your ok


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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:46 PM   #9
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I was talking to the paramedics when I had handed over (the police were calming her down) and I said ow shocked I was. Their reply was they could tell I had only been ding nursing a year as I still have that 'naivity' about me. And their right I honestly didn't think someone could get in such a state whilst pregnant. She must have some very hard issues going on to push her to the state she was in today and I don't think it's the first time either x


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 13:47 PM   #10
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Sounds like an average day in A &E! Well done you for helping


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