She's an ex - you HAVE to get rid of her! I don't even know if I'd let one of my OHs exes step foot in our house never mind stay with us. Write her a letter of eviction giving her a date by which she HAS to have moved out. What a cheeky friggin bitch! xxx
There would be absolutely NO WAY I would allow that woman to stay. Personally, I would set her straight right away, but that is my personality. Even though you do not like confrontation, there has to be a point at which enough is enough.. and it sounds like that point has been reached!!!! I can't believe that woman.
How does your husband feel? It must be awkward also that she is your husband's ex? Perhaps if you are uncomfortable telling her she is not welcome, then hubby would be?? It seems that even if you said something to her, she would just leave. She clearly is a very "blah" person that has no backbone as it is! It is YOUR house and you run the show. After all, what are you losing? She doesn't sound like that great of a friend, let alone that great of an individual!!!
Good luck to you in this strange situation!! Keep us updated, please!
I would personally ask her to leave, but I know it's not that easy for everyone to be so blunt.
Maybe you could tell her that before your partner knew of the arrangement, he had invited his cousin (or whoever) to stay from when you are 32/33 weeks (this gives her ample time to find other accomodation).
If she tries to play the sympathy card just inform her that you have to honour this commitment to his cousin as it was made first, and that had you known the amount of time she wanted to stay you would have made her aware of the situation earlier.
I really hope you manage to resolve the situation x
If you think it would work, you can just let her know that if she wants to stay then she must clean up after herself and her cat, buy her own food, cook for herself, etc. Say that if she is not willing to do these things then she must find somewhere else to go. Tell her that it's because your doctor says you need to take it easy right now. Also, maybe having sex would make her uncomfortable and she would want to leave. It's your house and your husband, you shouldn't be expected to stop having sex just because she is there.
Oh God, poor you. We have a longterm houseguest at the moment (been here 4 months now) but he's brilliant, you'd never know he's here most of the time in regards to cleaning up after himself and keeping his room tidy and that sort of thing, which is how you want it no matter how long/short the stay.
Tell her how things are going to be from now on and if she objects, get rid of her. You don't have to put her up. She can inflict herself on someone else if you kick her out.
Ask your husband to step in and ask her to leave. Tell her it's just not working out. ANd I have to add why didn't your husband get up and offer you his seat instead of making you sit on the floor? hmmm.... I don't like the idea of my husbands ex.. around him at all!! Even though I trust him all the way... I would not trust a girl in my home.. they could slowly build a relationship and he could compare your pregnant self to a sexier non pregnant woman... that would drive me MAD! I would kick her out now! lol
I am a typical Aries. I can't be shy or giving up kind. What I can suggest u is just be bold & tell her to get out of ur house then and there. First politely ofcourse, if she tells u stories then u have to be rude & might be harsh as well. But pls hun, get her out of there. I want to come to ur place & kick her bloody a** right now.
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