If that was me - as my hormones are all over - she'd of been out of the door.
Even at friend's houses when I'm just visiting for an hour, I will wash pots or offer to make a cup of tea! She is rude and needs telling. Your OH should at least tell her! She should be grateful for your kindness but not outstay her welcome. You have your pregnancy and birth to concentrate on, not looking after her.

Step up and tell her the truth as she needs a boot up her bottom and maybe some tough love!!

I feel for you but you should tell her or get your Hubs too!

Well, when she decides to come out - keep reminding her about finding somewhere else to stay and tell her straight it isnt working out. ITS YOUR HOUSE! Even better still get DH to knock on the door!

Sorry to hear that she's taking advantage like this. Its so frustrating how rude people can actually be! xxx

She wants a free ride and is taking advantage of both yours good nature.
10 months? No way! She needs to learn that you cannot tolerate her behaviour. Keep reminding her to leave.

I've been in a situation a little like this, but I wasn't pregnant. The lodger was driving me mad, using all the milk, bread.. not washing dishes properly (putting a plate under the cold tap for a 'rinse' isn't washing), etc.. Using all the toilet roll and leaving just enough that I'd have to go buy some.. I stepped up and left notes or caught him out!

Is she paying you anything? I know you don't want any confrontation but if the situation doesnt change soon you might end up just blowing your top and causing it anyway! I know I would! xxx

You and your OH have a wonderful re/ship that wat you say ...mhh this gal is a; pest pregnancy is a very stressful and usualy time for adjustment for many relationships she knew this and just wanted to take advantage of the situation....
Come to think of it what does your OH say about this gal being in the house he sees for Gods sake whatt hs been happening with you cleaning and stuff

WTF she doesnt budge from next to your bedroom so you cant have sex...she is elfish and wants the Sex for herself ...wake up gal smell the coffee
Who are you in your house..to go cleaning after someone and leaving her control your house you are letting her do it before you know it she will have achieved what she wanted
Sorry but this is my very sober assessment of your situation

Maybe give her a day to come out of the room, then step it up. She'll have to come out eventually, even if it's just to go to the bathroom. Then you can block her access to returning to the room. (Or OH can remove the door from the bedroom so she can't lock herself in there any longer.)

If she refuses to leave, you can call the police and have them remove her from your property. If she's making threats about hurting herself, being suicidal, depressed, you can call for an emergency evaluation where they'll take her to the hospital.

Could you call her OH or parents and see if they'll intervene or at least help you out?

I would ask her to leave, to be honest, tell her she can stay a few days to get herself organised but that you really don't need the stress of (such a terrible) houseguest...you've opened your home to her out of the goodness of your heart and she is just taking advantage of you and your hospitality!!

PS, making the pregnant woman sit on the floor???? COW

Ditto x

The real issue here is that I don't handle confrontation well. I was raised strict Catholic, meaning I was trained to take care of people and to never say no unless I was being offered sex, drugs, or booze. For example, to ask her what her plans were took me 20+ minutes to work up the courage and my heart was racing so hard by that point I could barely handle speaking. So blocking her from her room or getting in her face won't really be an option for me. For me, more than the cleaning, the issue is the food thing. Not feeding herself (she has literally only eaten take-out we purchased her, the leftovers from said takeout, and bananas, which are literally grab and eat). She keep hinting (when she does communicate, mostly this is inferred by body language) that she expects me to cook for her.

I don't like feeling like a bad guy in my own space.

1.) You have given her a place to stay... for free? - you are not the bad guy in all this
2.) You have let her cat stay - you are not the bad guy in all this
3.) You are buying her food and feeding her - you are not the bad guy in all this
4.) You have given up your office/work space for her - you are not the bad guy in all this
5.) You are giving her lifts to places? - you are not the bad guy in all this

But then...
1.) She is rude and not aknowledging your hospitality
2.) She is lazy and not even clearing up after her cat (which you certainly should not be doing because of toxomasplosis etc)
3.) She is demanding you to cook/clean up after her
4.) She is stopping you from enjoying your husband's company
5.) She is showing no gratitude for what you are doing

um.... thinking she's not the victim in all this.

When she said this on Facebook - was it directly on your wall? Or on her status? If she was asking you personally for the favour then I'd be a bit worried....

Even though you're been brought up Catholic there is a huge difference between loving someone/showing kindness and being a walkover. You are worth more than this. If you're struggling with the situation then you aren't really in the condition to look after someone else. Please tell her it isnt working. Tell her that locking herself away in a room so you can't talk to her and treating your house like a hotel wasnt really the way you expected things to go. You thought that it was going to only be for a couple of weeks until she found somewhere else and the one line messages on Facebook were VERY misleading which really wasnt fair. Tell her this has really upset you and is affecting your health. If you can't say this, put it in a letter and slide it under her door - or get hubby to say it. Its really not fair on you or baby or hubby. xxx