I have Vitiligo. I do NOT leave the house without at LEAST foundation on, unless it is an emergency. Like, baby isn't moving, or I just sliced my finger clean open, type of emergency.
I also will never, ever leave the house with my hair a mess (it's fairly curly, which means it gets messy easily), and especially not without brushing my teeth.
Having a baby WILL NOT stop me from doing these things. I agree 100%. Now, I can understand going from a two-hour routine of readying yourself, including teasing or straightening your hair, doing elaborate makeup, bronzer, etc etc etc to a simple 10-minute routine. But I'm not vain, just clean and proper. A baby is not an excuse for not having a neat ponytail (or at least brushed hair), a clean appearance, and fresh breath. If you use your baby as an excuse for getting gingivitis, then you're a pig who didn't care about hygeine before you got pregnant.
I'm right there with you! I almost always wear makeup; I'm still working and I am in the sales/event planning business. You have to look presentable. That said, I'd still be put together if I worked in a different industry. It only takes five minutes for me to put on some light foundation, blush, mascara and lip gloss. I generally style my hair every few days, in the evening, and it just needs a touch up most mornings. It makes a world of difference, both in how I look and I how I feel.
I can see myself looking a little rough the first few weeks I have the little one home, but I know I will not "let myself go" permanently. Lots of women have children and look great on a regular basis, including many of the women I work with.
I said the exact same as you girls when I had my first. But it's really easy to not do your hair or to not put make up on when you have a infant and your a first time mom. More so if you never leave the house and you have no help and NO sleep. It took me a while to figure out how to balance it all with my first. I might not take that shower I need until my hubby gets home just because I didn't want baby to sit by himself for 5 mins. Until I figured out it's better for both of us if I felt human every morning life was miserable for a few weeks in that sense. Then I learned it's ok for him to cry for a few while I atleast shower lol. 7 years later and the worst hip pain in my life I still shower and take time for myself in the morning. This time I know a lot more than I did with my first. So I try not to say "I'll never" cause now I know better.
Oh and I so get what some of you are saying about the bump comments. I have not gained 1 pound during this pregnancy. I haven't even had to buy one stich or meternity clothing still I still wear my everyday normal clothes. I just wear the lowrise jeans I have so they go under the bump. People have yelled at me saying I'm starving my baby!!! Um no did you not see me just eat that cheesburger? It's just gone from everywhere eles to my bump. I take my vitamins everyday I eat when I'm hungry I snack but I just don't gain. Dr is not worried about it, baby was 5lbs 6 weeks ago so shove it!!! lol
you know what i also hate people talking crap like this i have 4 children and every day in the morning i get up, jump straight in the bath get ready myself clothes, hair, make up ( not high main tho) lol tbh i'm ready for it all when i'm ready myself sitting in my pj's isn't a option i have the school run and stuff to be getting on with! i always tidy my house, washing, cleaning all of that take my lo to baby group and do other things i hate peoples stupid comments like cause your a mum you wont have time to do that stuff ! which indeed is a load of bull i rem bf my lo whilst doing my make up x
I think at least a third of the mums who said "never" for going out without their make up are going to regret their words very soon. I come from the culture where woman could not come out without full make up, hair and nails done no matter what. Dresses and high heels are a must even in the middle of high winter. You would not find a single women in my country of more than size 10 at least in their 20s-30s. So I know what to look good means. Myself I was often complimented for being one of the most stylish pregnant women and was applying my make up in the middle of the labor because I did not want to look disheveled on pictures ( I have a photo evidence of it) However I could barely walk after my first was born for about two weeks due to split stomach muscles and may be some other problem that went undiagnosed. I was on my own for the first year of my daughter life and yes, taking shower was tricky. My daughter just happened to be a very disagreeable baby. Unlike many other mums I could not simply go shopping and ignore my baby scramming her head out in the middle of the shop or a cafe because I did not think others deserved having their free time being spoiled. My daughter hated dressing for a walk and hated being strap to her chair I literally had to jump on the street in any clothes I could find at hand. I think I looked awful for the first couple of months at least.
My size 8 athletic body was ruined by unsightly large pot belly and some people kept asking when I was due. I was exhausted physically and emotionally and felt unattractive.
I had a lot of new clothes that I bought on a shopping trip to the States, my beautiful designer stuff that I got shortly before falling pregnant. Sorry to spoil your dreams but I had no time to put it on or even if I had high heels or tight dresses would only look horrible on my new figure. I also think I probably had a mild postnatal depression.
Several years later and after yoga, pilates and LBT sessions I felt that I look presentable again.
Yes, I was happy to be yummy mummy and being able to look after myself again but my first year I was misserable. So it all depends on your child (mine never sat quietly with her toys until she turned 6 y.o.), on your level of tolerance for screaming (I could not personally put mascara while she cried), and on your own physical and mental condition.
On the bright side I did see a beautiful new mums that bounced to shape in a matter of hours after birth, did not have stretch marks ( quite unsexy), where full of energy and always immaculately dressed. I hope I could be one like this second time around....
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