I feel like a single parent already.

We're still together.. but he insists on having to go out to band practice/pub/friends house ATLEAST 3 times a week - otherwise he thinks (and his sc*mbag of a friend of course fuels the fire here -.- ) that he's "whipped" or being controlled/having his freedom snatched.

(Nevermind the fact that i've just been stuck at home for months and my friends all pretty much completely lost interest since being pregnant).

My grandparents are still very fond of OH and are REALLY hoping that he just needs to get it out of his system and that he'll grow up once the baby arrives (he's surprised us a lot so far - he was a complete douche for the first half of the pregnancy but he has matured enough to actually LIKE the baby now).
And they've got so much faith in that all he needs is time, I actually feel quite sorry for them.

But I can't even bring up the pub business or I get shouted out and he insists that it won't be changing and that it's not unreasonable at all for him to go out with his friends that often (even though if I dumped a baby on him to go out ONCE a week, i'd expect i'd get labeled a bad mother).

But it all makes me feel so shit (and his friend REALLY doesn't help) that if I went in to labour whilst he was out, I don't think i'd even want to call him to tell him. Right now I don't even know if I want to be with him at all, I feel so taken for granted - since getting pregnant he's not made any effort for the relationship at all and just seems to think I won't be going anywhere.

But i've moved in with him and his parents now. We've had things given to us from both sides of the family and his family are all expecting to have a baby living with them soon.. But I don't think I could stay here if I wasn't WITH OH.. but it'd be a bit late to sort anything else out either

Sorry for the rant/ramble.
I just glanced over his shoulder and noticed him complaining to his wonderful amoeba of a friend (on his pc) about how it wouldn't be worth him going out tonight (3rd night in a row) because it "wouldn't be worth the gob" if i read correctly.

About ready to bury him under the floorboards

How is your relationship with his parents? Have they not mentioned or noticed he's going out a lot and leaving you alone? I know when I was with kyles dad I spoke to his mum about how I was feeling and she spoke to him and made him see what he was doing, it lasted a little while but we just weren't right for each other anyway. It might help if you can speak to his mum then if anything drastic happens she'll be more understanding too x

^wss! what do his parents think? he sounds very immature hun, how old is he?

He needs a good smack off his mother that's for sure. I would talk to his parents and see what they say. But no matter what, don't let him get away with it. Your son is his son, whether he likes it or not he needs to learn to take responsibility.

I wouldn't recommend doing this- but my brother would hardly help SIL when my niece was born. One morning, she left the house with him still in bed, and told him she was going out for the day and he had to get up and look after his daughter when she woke up.

She didn't come back for a good ten hours. That taught him his lesson. I wouldnt do it myself but it gives me a right old giggle still

He's 22.. and annoyingly I'd always been under the impression that he was quite a mature 22 year old. The out all the time obsession has only started since being pregnant and moving in - before then he'd actually see me because he WANTED to see me.

He says we "spend more time together now than ever".. but, no. We're in the same room more, yes - but if he's not out, he's on his computer playing a game with his earphones on
Can't figure out for the life of him why I might feel like i've got the bum deal.

His parents have both told him before when he's gone out last minute and ditched me (even his younger brother has had a go at him before) but nothing seems to hit home.
I keep wondering if I need to leave (even for a while) for him to realise "crap, i've been taking things for granted a bit there!".
But his ridiculous friends of course pat him on the back and sympathize how hard his life must be with me nagging and how much his life will suck once there's a baby etc

And haha I said the other day (infront of his parents) that I can't wait for a few weeks time when he'll say "i'm off to the pub" and i'll be able to say "No you're not! Here *hands over baby* I'M off to the pub! "

If it was me hun and he played up when baby was here, I would probably go back to my parents to try and make him realise. But we all do things differently.

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I like that

Sorry but he doesn't sound like a mature 22 year old to me. My partner is 22 and I live with him and he is much more happier to stay home and cuddle me most of the time. And when he does go out he invites me along, it's only when I'm way way to tired or have another reason why I don't want to go that he goes out by himself.

His friends use to give him a lot of curry for being "whipped" and he replied with "And when's the last time you got layed" (which for most of his friends would have been easily over a year ago at the time)
My partner's best friend has finally gotten himself a girlfriend and has stopped the annoying comments and I feel like dishing back his own medicine for the crap he put me threw.

Oh yeah, as soon as OH's friend gets a girlfriend the "bros before hoes" rants go out the window and he starts ditching them to hang out with her.
He's so piggish and foul though that I expect we'd be waiting a while for him to get someone

OH has said before that it wouldn't be so bad if his friends had kids and that too, then he might settle down, but whilst they've got lives and can go out all the time he thinks he should too

I've said to him several times that it's convenient he waited till pregnancy to start going out 3 times a week, because if i'd known he'd be like that before hand then I wouldn't have stuck around. Of course he thinks that'd be totally unreasonable.

I'm sorry to hear.

I don't know if it's the same for all guy groups, but I noticed since my partner has settled down with me his friends seemed to be following suit. And my bestfriend said she noticed the same thing happened with her partner too when they got married, all his friends started looking for serious relationships. So maybe it's your partner that needs to be the trend setter for his group. But by the sounds of it that may be impossible to do.

Just a random thought, could he be suffering from prenatal anxiety? I'm not giving him an excuse for acting the way that he has, but maybe he needs to talk to someone about it.

Nooo idea. He was incredibly against the pregnancy, and I was actually expecting him to bugger off. (I told him several times that I wasn't afraid to do it on my own, and if he did manage to force me in to getting rid, it'd be the end of the relationship as well).
When he was able to feel baby kicking he quickly started to like him though, and now talks to the bump more than he does to me!

But he seems to almost be afraid that if he doesn't "put me in my place" and go out when his friends demand that it somehow makes him less of a man or something.
The fact that his arsehole friend is several years older than him only seems to make things worse.. he's known him since he was 14 and used to want to copy every little trend he followed