As someone else said, give him a couple of nights with baby on his side and he'll quickly realise that he doesn't have any part to play in the night feeds aside from having to wake up to get the baby to hand her to you!! He'll soon think his sleep is more precious methinks!

He's clearly not thinking....

I think part of the issue may be that OH had Stepson staying with him on his own every other weekend from when he was 4/5 months old so he has experienced a baby at that young age (although not completely newborn) and I think he always felt cheated that he didn't have him all the time so maybe he is trying to make up for missing out with this baby?
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Is he going to do the diaper change & then hand him over to you to feed? Is that what he's thinking?

Or is he just too lazy to move the furniture around right now?

My DH has more room on his side of the bed. He can have our LO there if he wishes.

So he wants you to wake up and walk all the way to the other side of the bed to feed and tend to her. My OH kinda already knew, it was implied. Because like you said he works, and obviously I don't want her to keep him up all night.

My OH at one point said could we put baby at the end of the bed in his moses basket so that it was in the middle of us as he wanted to be within easy reach if he wanted cuddles. lol. I said no because if im breast feeding i need baby as near me as possible and not a chance am I getting up to walk about or right round the bed just to suit him. He just hadnt thought it through so I did find it quite sweet.

Not sure how old your stepson is but Id be wary of that too (Im going to be overprotective) because Id be worried about them thinking they can lift baby up in the night or play with it in the morning etc when you arent there. x

I know, the intention is sweet, but the reality is just not practical. Or if we do start off with baby next to him, I will just loudly and clumsily tread all over him to get to baby, he'll soon learn!

My SS is nearly 6, and yes I'm wary!. I'm paranoid that he will wake up earlier than us and try and take baby out of the room with him or feed her cereal for breakfast or something! I am going to have to be so ultra, ultra alert - don't think I will even let myself fall asleep when he is staying over.

SS does have a Sister from his Mum who is nearly two so the good thing is he has experienced a baby and seems quite sympathetic and aware of how fragile babies are etc. x

i want baby at my side too,. i wouldnt even consider putting him/her at OH's side If you are planning to BF it makes more sense for baby to be at your side... also once he is back at work he will regret saying that !

to be quite honest, let him have his way after a week maybe two he will be so over it!
My OH is currently tryign to do the same wants baby sleeping next to him because he does not want to rearrange the room or have to sleep at the other side of the bed! he never bothered like this with our first he just does not want to move furniture! so i have decided let him have his way after a week he will be bored of getting up with her passing her to me etc etc and thinkgs will end up how i want them anyway ... like they always do!!! lol!

and i completly understand about the momma bear instinct its your baby she should be with you, my OH mum kicked off majorly after a few weeks of DS being born becvause she didnt get any time with our DS by herself and when she offered to look after him so i could sleep i always declined (Politely) but a decline none the less, im just of the thinking well i have the boobie juice so he cant be away from me for that long and regardless of that its not that i dont want anyone else to have him its that i dont want to be away from him in the first place we were still getting to know each other and if after 3 weeks i already need a break 'away from my baby' i should have given more thought to having children in the first place!

stand your ground!!! and dont let your stepson dictate the rules he is still a child you and your OH are the boss

Why not place her in the middle in her basket? Or you guys could switch every couple of days. He'll be begging for it anyway after the first few nights. Be glad you have a husband willing and able to get up and help in the night hon

Mine can sleep through war - literally - and has. So a crying baby doesn't budge him.