We have a similar furniture arrangement but I think it is a good thing. Even now my husband wakes up when I tiptoe out of bed to use the bathroom and says, "what's going on? are you ok?" so I think he will probably also be "hyper-tuned-in" to whatever is happening with the baby. I want to create opportunities for him to be involved because after all, it is a lot of work, especially early on. If his contribution is passing the baby over to me and changing diapers in the middle of the night and getting him settled again that sounds great. We can always rearrange things later on if he needs more sleep.
I would let my DH have baby on his side at night but he would never suggest it he'd rather move everything in our room to make it easy for me to do everything but we already have 2 kids and I did all the night care with both of them and he actually had an excuse for not helping with ds1 he worked out of town so wasn't home much to help and by the time ds2 came I just did it believe me I'd let him take over in a heartbeat he is such a sound sleeper when my 2 yr old Was newborn and had horrible colic and I was in a bitchy mood from no sleep I'd sit as close to his ear with ds screaming and he never knew it he never would wake up so he wouldnt be able to take care of baby at night anyway. I'd say let him he will give it over to you within a few hours
Men have NO clue...after a couple days..he will get sick of having to sleep next to her. Especially if you are breastfeeding...most babies eat every 2hrs AT LEAST!! Lol! I certainly wouldn't put my baby in with an older child though. For me personally I would be very uncomfortable with that...until baby is an older toddler.
I don't care which side baby sleeps on. I told hubby tht he will be getting up I check on baby's diaper before feeding then he can hand him to me. So either way, one of us will be making the"cross bedroom trip" in the night. But my hubby is only home 2-3 nights at a time before he has to stay away for a few nights. So we'll probably mix it up.
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