OH wants baby to sleep next to him? - Page 3

Wantapink1 · Apr 12th, 2012, 09:30 AM

I'd agree if he was doing all the night feeds!!

dumbo1976 · Apr 12th, 2012, 09:39 AM

we did alternate nights and just moved the crib to whoever was on duty that night!!

worked brilliantly for us and will be doing the same again this time!

Eleonora · Apr 12th, 2012, 09:47 AM

We have a similar furniture arrangement but I think it is a good thing. Even now my husband wakes up when I tiptoe out of bed to use the bathroom and says, "what's going on? are you ok?" so I think he will probably also be "hyper-tuned-in" to whatever is happening with the baby. I want to create opportunities for him to be involved because after all, it is a lot of work, especially early on. If his contribution is passing the baby over to me and changing diapers in the middle of the night and getting him settled again that sounds great. We can always rearrange things later on if he needs more sleep.

aliss · Apr 12th, 2012, 10:01 AM

Yeah, let him. I give it 2-4 hours before he changes his mind.

letia659 · Apr 12th, 2012, 10:20 AM

I would let my DH have baby on his side at night but he would never suggest it he'd rather move everything in our room to make it easy for me to do everything but we already have 2 kids and I did all the night care with both of them and he actually had an excuse for not helping with ds1 he worked out of town so wasn't home much to help and by the time ds2 came I just did it believe me I'd let him take over in a heartbeat

he is such a sound sleeper when my 2 yr old Was newborn and had horrible colic and I was in a bitchy mood from no sleep I'd sit as close to his ear with ds screaming

and he never knew it he never would wake up

so he wouldnt be able to take care of baby at night anyway. I'd say let him he will give it over to you within a few hours

miracle35 · Apr 12th, 2012, 10:36 AM

Thanks all! I am definitely taking all your advice and letting him have his way and see how long it lasts

I didn't look at it that way but it is a funny thought. Let the game begin!
x

michellle1980 · Apr 12th, 2012, 10:39 AM

Ijust moved it. oh didn't have a choice didn't even think to ask. don't think he would say anything anyway but I definitely think baby should he next to you

jenmcn1 · Apr 12th, 2012, 10:45 AM

Men have NO clue...after a couple days..he will get sick of having to sleep next to her. Especially if you are breastfeeding...most babies eat every 2hrs AT LEAST!! Lol! I certainly wouldn't put my baby in with an older child though. For me personally I would be very uncomfortable with that...until baby is an older toddler.

justplainTIFF · Apr 12th, 2012, 10:45 AM

I don't care which side baby sleeps on. I told hubby tht he will be getting up I check on baby's diaper before feeding then he can hand him to me. So either way, one of us will be making the"cross bedroom trip" in the night. But my hubby is only home 2-3 nights at a time before he has to stay away for a few nights. So we'll probably mix it up.

frangi33 · Apr 12th, 2012, 10:48 AM

lol yeah elbow him in the face a couple of times whilst reaching for lo and you'll soon have baby your side

Apr 12th, 2012, 09:30 AM	#21
Wantapink1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: London Posts: 812	I'd agree if he was doing all the night feeds!!

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Apr 12th, 2012, 09:39 AM	#22
dumbo1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Romford, Essex Posts: 366	we did alternate nights and just moved the crib to whoever was on duty that night!! worked brilliantly for us and will be doing the same again this time!

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Apr 12th, 2012, 09:47 AM	#23
Eleonora Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Italy Posts: 179	We have a similar furniture arrangement but I think it is a good thing. Even now my husband wakes up when I tiptoe out of bed to use the bathroom and says, "what's going on? are you ok?" so I think he will probably also be "hyper-tuned-in" to whatever is happening with the baby. I want to create opportunities for him to be involved because after all, it is a lot of work, especially early on. If his contribution is passing the baby over to me and changing diapers in the middle of the night and getting him settled again that sounds great. We can always rearrange things later on if he needs more sleep.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 10:01 AM	#24
aliss AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Québec Posts: 24,372	Yeah, let him. I give it 2-4 hours before he changes his mind.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 10:20 AM	#25
letia659 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,988	I would let my DH have baby on his side at night but he would never suggest it he'd rather move everything in our room to make it easy for me to do everything but we already have 2 kids and I did all the night care with both of them and he actually had an excuse for not helping with ds1 he worked out of town so wasn't home much to help and by the time ds2 came I just did it believe me I'd let him take over in a heartbeat he is such a sound sleeper when my 2 yr old Was newborn and had horrible colic and I was in a bitchy mood from no sleep I'd sit as close to his ear with ds screaming and he never knew it he never would wake up so he wouldnt be able to take care of baby at night anyway. I'd say let him he will give it over to you within a few hours

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Apr 12th, 2012, 10:36 AM	#26
miracle35 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Buckhurst Hill, Essex Posts: 829	Thanks all! I am definitely taking all your advice and letting him have his way and see how long it lasts I didn't look at it that way but it is a funny thought. Let the game begin! x

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Apr 12th, 2012, 10:39 AM	#27
michellle1980 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Devon Posts: 973	Ijust moved it. oh didn't have a choice didn't even think to ask. don't think he would say anything anyway but I definitely think baby should he next to you

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Apr 12th, 2012, 10:45 AM	#28
jenmcn1 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 3,045	Men have NO clue...after a couple days..he will get sick of having to sleep next to her. Especially if you are breastfeeding...most babies eat every 2hrs AT LEAST!! Lol! I certainly wouldn't put my baby in with an older child though. For me personally I would be very uncomfortable with that...until baby is an older toddler.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 10:45 AM	#29
justplainTIFF Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 1,194	I don't care which side baby sleeps on. I told hubby tht he will be getting up I check on baby's diaper before feeding then he can hand him to me. So either way, one of us will be making the"cross bedroom trip" in the night. But my hubby is only home 2-3 nights at a time before he has to stay away for a few nights. So we'll probably mix it up.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 10:48 AM	#30
frangi33 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 524	lol yeah elbow him in the face a couple of times whilst reaching for lo and you'll soon have baby your side

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