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jessicatunnel · Apr 14th, 2012, 16:10 PM

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Originally Posted by lilmisslilly

Wow some of the comments you ladies have had off people I don't blame you for being mad like the 'fatty and waddle comment'. I have to admit though I haven't had many comments off people but I like it when people do ask about my pregnancy. I don't mind people touching my belly or asking when I'm due or how long is left, what I'm having etc I think it's nice that they are showing an interest. Me and my OH just went to the shop and the assistant asked all those questions along with are you excited wait til the might feeds etc etc and she even said I look small considering how far along i am (which I dont think i do) but it didn't bother me at all. I find it nice to have an excuse to talk about baby with anyone lol xx

I'm with you on this one. I don't mind when people talk about my pregnancy or rub my belly or ask when I'm due, what I'm having, etc. People are just interested and I don't think they MEAN to offend you. And it can't be helped if multiple people ask the same thing, they're just taking an interest.
But I guess that's just me, all you ladies seem to be really irritated when anyone says anything about your pregnancy.
I can understand how you get offended with the face comments or the "You look huge" comments but I'm sure they don't mean it in a bad way.

TigerGalLE · Apr 14th, 2012, 17:12 PM

I don't mind when people ask about my pregnancy. I like talking about it. I know most people mean well when they say the things they do. But like 1 day at work I swear like 10 people told me my face looked "rounder" or "puffy" or "swollen." And then when I got home I had a comment on facebook asking if I had checked my BP lately because I looked sooo swollen. I guess it just makes me self concious. And then I'm self concious about how I walk because everyone at work says I "waddle." And they even say it is "cute." But it makes me try to walk different and stuff....

But the average person asking when I'm due, is it a boy or girl, is this your first baby ect doesn't bother me at all. I even let people touch my belly as long as I know them. But I've never had a stranger touch my belly. Usually it is people I know. And most ask first.

I've even grabbed my girl friends hands and let them fell him moving. They get a kick out of that!

Lief · Apr 14th, 2012, 17:20 PM

I don't mind people asking me about my pregnancy its the way some people ask though. Some are nice about it and genuinely interested whereas others can be bitchy and if you're already hormonal and feeling bad they just make you feel worse.

I have a problem with personal space, I HATE people overcrowding me and in the past I've had panic attacks so I don't like people touching me, especially strangers. Usually my family touch my bump and I wouldn't mind close friends, its when people feel they can just walk up to you and touch you that it annoys me. If they asked I might be a bit uncomfortable but would much rather that than them just reach out to poke me

jessicatunnel · Apr 14th, 2012, 17:22 PM

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Originally Posted by TigerGalLE

I don't mind when people ask about my pregnancy. I like talking about it. I know most people mean well when they say the things they do. But like 1 day at work I swear like 10 people told me my face looked "rounder" or "puffy" or "swollen." And then when I got home I had a comment on facebook asking if I had checked my BP lately because I looked sooo swollen. I guess it just makes me self concious. And then I'm self concious about how I walk because everyone at work says I "waddle." And they even say it is "cute." But it makes me try to walk different and stuff....

But the average person asking when I'm due, is it a boy or girl, is this your first baby ect doesn't bother me at all. I even let people touch my belly as long as I know them. But I've never had a stranger touch my belly. Usually it is people I know. And most ask first.

I've even grabbed my girl friends hands and let them fell him moving. They get a kick out of that!

I can understand the puffy face comment. Some people just don't realize what they're saying. But don't feel self conscious! It's all part of pregnancy and will go away after!(:
I'm sure you look beautiful. (:

lovemybubba · Apr 14th, 2012, 18:29 PM

I was in subway and this random man was asking me questions about the baby, when all of a sudden he decides to say "oh you'll deffo be a good mum cuz youve got nice big legs!!!!"
what the hell does having big legs got to do with anything. i was so shocked and upset i couldnt say anything back. i felt like crying right there lol.
another man over heard and said to me dont worry your legs are perfect lol.
what made him think it ok to say that to me.

Mrsctobe · Apr 14th, 2012, 19:35 PM

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Originally Posted by jessicatunnel

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Originally Posted by lilmisslilly

Wow some of the comments you ladies have had off people I don't blame you for being mad like the 'fatty and waddle comment'. I have to admit though I haven't had many comments off people but I like it when people do ask about my pregnancy. I don't mind people touching my belly or asking when I'm due or how long is left, what I'm having etc I think it's nice that they are showing an interest. Me and my OH just went to the shop and the assistant asked all those questions along with are you excited wait til the might feeds etc etc and she even said I look small considering how far along i am (which I dont think i do) but it didn't bother me at all. I find it nice to have an excuse to talk about baby with anyone lol xx

I'm with you on this one. I don't mind when people talk about my pregnancy or rub my belly or ask when I'm due, what I'm having, etc. People are just interested and I don't think they MEAN to offend you. And it can't be helped if multiple people ask the same thing, they're just taking an interest.
But I guess that's just me, all you ladies seem to be really irritated when anyone says anything about your pregnancy.
I can understand how you get offended with the face comments or the "You look huge" comments but I'm sure they don't mean it in a bad way.

No we don't get annoyed with people taking an interest. saying your huge, you have ages to go or saying your having another one is irratating comments not taking interest. you obviously havnt had any rude negitive comments yet.

punkrockmama · Apr 14th, 2012, 19:37 PM

I don't know what I'm having and I say "their" and not "it" because they aren't an "it" and it's all OMG TWINS. i know you can get confused by that but frig off......NO. 3 more days till my ultrasound. -.-

Yank in Oz · Apr 14th, 2012, 22:11 PM

For some reason I have found that men make the most insensitive comments. A rather heavy guy at work the other day came up to my desk and said "Hello fatty" so I said "Hello fatty" right back to him. It pisses me off because I haven't gained excess weight this pregnancy, but the guys at work feel the need to comment on how much I eat, how I am soon going to get a fat ass, etc. I don't know why it is suddenly acceptable to comment on a woman's body shape just because she is pregnant.

NickyNack · Apr 15th, 2012, 02:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Lief

I don't mind people asking me about my pregnancy its the way some people ask though. Some are nice about it and genuinely interested whereas others can be bitchy and if you're already hormonal and feeling bad they just make you feel worse.

I have a problem with personal space, I HATE people overcrowding me and in the past I've had panic attacks so I don't like people touching me, especially strangers. Usually my family touch my bump and I wouldn't mind close friends, its when people feel they can just walk up to you and touch you that it annoys me. If they asked I might be a bit uncomfortable but would much rather that than them just reach out to poke me

I don't allow anyone to touch my tummy, except my husband or kids. And even then, I expect my kids to wait until invited.

Even my own mother knows better, and won't touch unless invited to, I HATE people invading my personal space. I certainly would not tolerate anyone touching me without permission, I don't care who they are, it's a very intimate action and only those who I am intimate with are allowed (ie my husband!)

If that makes me weird then I guess I'm weird

Lief · Apr 15th, 2012, 16:54 PM

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Originally Posted by NickyNack

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Originally Posted by Lief

I don't mind people asking me about my pregnancy its the way some people ask though. Some are nice about it and genuinely interested whereas others can be bitchy and if you're already hormonal and feeling bad they just make you feel worse.

I have a problem with personal space, I HATE people overcrowding me and in the past I've had panic attacks so I don't like people touching me, especially strangers. Usually my family touch my bump and I wouldn't mind close friends, its when people feel they can just walk up to you and touch you that it annoys me. If they asked I might be a bit uncomfortable but would much rather that than them just reach out to poke me

I don't allow anyone to touch my tummy, except my husband or kids. And even then, I expect my kids to wait until invited.

Even my own mother knows better, and won't touch unless invited to, I HATE people invading my personal space. I certainly would not tolerate anyone touching me without permission, I don't care who they are, it's a very intimate action and only those who I am intimate with are allowed (ie my husband!)

If that makes me weird then I guess I'm weird

Doesn't make you weird in my book, I also think its a very personal thing. My OH is living in South Africa atm, he'll be joining me at the start of next month and I was really hesitant to let anyone feel when baby kicked/moved because he hadn't felt it yet. He assured me that it was ok if I wanted my family (mother/sisters) to feel but it took me ages to actually feel comfortable enough to even allow that. Maybe if he was here and felt the first kicks/movements I might feel different about it but I don't think so.

Apr 14th, 2012, 17:12 PM	#22
TigerGalLE Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: South Carolina, USA Posts: 1,187	I don't mind when people ask about my pregnancy. I like talking about it. I know most people mean well when they say the things they do. But like 1 day at work I swear like 10 people told me my face looked "rounder" or "puffy" or "swollen." And then when I got home I had a comment on facebook asking if I had checked my BP lately because I looked sooo swollen. I guess it just makes me self concious. And then I'm self concious about how I walk because everyone at work says I "waddle." And they even say it is "cute." But it makes me try to walk different and stuff.... But the average person asking when I'm due, is it a boy or girl, is this your first baby ect doesn't bother me at all. I even let people touch my belly as long as I know them. But I've never had a stranger touch my belly. Usually it is people I know. And most ask first. I've even grabbed my girl friends hands and let them fell him moving. They get a kick out of that!

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Apr 14th, 2012, 17:20 PM	#23
Lief Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 521	I don't mind people asking me about my pregnancy its the way some people ask though. Some are nice about it and genuinely interested whereas others can be bitchy and if you're already hormonal and feeling bad they just make you feel worse. I have a problem with personal space, I HATE people overcrowding me and in the past I've had panic attacks so I don't like people touching me, especially strangers. Usually my family touch my bump and I wouldn't mind close friends, its when people feel they can just walk up to you and touch you that it annoys me. If they asked I might be a bit uncomfortable but would much rather that than them just reach out to poke me

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lovemybubba Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Reading, UK Posts: 1,307	I was in subway and this random man was asking me questions about the baby, when all of a sudden he decides to say "oh you'll deffo be a good mum cuz youve got nice big legs!!!!" what the hell does having big legs got to do with anything. i was so shocked and upset i couldnt say anything back. i felt like crying right there lol. another man over heard and said to me dont worry your legs are perfect lol. what made him think it ok to say that to me.

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punkrockmama Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Grande Prairie, Alberta. Canada Posts: 393	I don't know what I'm having and I say "their" and not "it" because they aren't an "it" and it's all OMG TWINS. i know you can get confused by that but frig off......NO. 3 more days till my ultrasound. -.-

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Apr 14th, 2012, 22:11 PM	#28
Yank in Oz Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 100	For some reason I have found that men make the most insensitive comments. A rather heavy guy at work the other day came up to my desk and said "Hello fatty" so I said "Hello fatty" right back to him. It pisses me off because I haven't gained excess weight this pregnancy, but the guys at work feel the need to comment on how much I eat, how I am soon going to get a fat ass, etc. I don't know why it is suddenly acceptable to comment on a woman's body shape just because she is pregnant.

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