So DH decides to tell me today that his mother and sister have had to "spend a fortune" on their trip over to see us after the baby is born, as their flights cost a good bit and they waited too bloody long to book a hotel/b&b so they didn't get a good rate at all!! I kind of want to know why this is my problem?? They have been saying for months and months when they wanted to come over (which happens to be the same weekend as the Heineken Cup final in Twickenham so everything is more expensive!!!) but they left it so long to book!! They are very good at the guilt trip though, they know how to lay it on thick!!!

He then told me that his mother has said to him that she "expects to stay with us" the next time she comes over. I asked him if that meant she was annoyed that we'd said no one could stay with us when baby's born? His answer was a good one, he said "I don't care, we're not having anyone staying, not even your mother, with a brand new baby in the house" so that was good, but still, the way she's acting pissed me off!! We have a 2 bed flat so we could have people to stay but I said no, simple as...I could not deal with his mother here for 4 days with a baby who will be no more than 2 weeks old!!

ARRGGH

I know how you feel hun, I couldn't cope with my MIL staying either. We've banned people for the first 3 days completely but I wont be having people stay over anyway for a while. She's so high maintainance

Hope your ok, sounds like she was hinting at staying so I'm glad your OH has stuck up for you.

I'm doing ok, I'm just annoyed at her and her guilt-tripping!!!

Also so glad that DH stood his ground!! We normally don't mind people staying with us, it's not a hassle, but then usually we're not trying to get to grips with a newborn, trying to get into a routine etc!

MIL's...... cant live with them, can live without them.

You're not wrong there! Thing is, i'm always saying that she has the best of intentions even though she gets on my nerves, but now i'm just thinking "you selfish cow!". I know they haven't got a lot of money but she "expects" to stay with us?!

My own mother, who I wouldn't mind staying, didn't even consider it an option, saying shw didn't want to pressure me at all while i'm heavily pregnant or after baby arrives! I have a terrible feeling MIL would get the hump in a big way if my mom was staying here though, even though there's a huuuge difference!!